Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I'm ashamed to admit, but when I was younger and dumber I was this girl once. I had a f*ck buddy who I refused to kiss. It was after a bad breakup. I had no feelings for him, barely even a physical attraction and honestly he creeped me out a bit. But he was willing, ready and great in bed so I used him to fulfill that need. There was absolutely zero chance of anything developing and it was safe. That was the only reason I even started with it in the first place. There was no kissing because there was no attraction. I didn't feel comfortable kissing someone I wasn't attracted to. I'm betting dollars to donuts it's the same with this girl. The idea of you having sex with a guy who creeped you out and that you were unattracted to sounds pretty kinky and hot actually.
ditzchic Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 The idea of you having sex with a guy who creeped you out and that you were unattracted to sounds pretty kinky and hot actually. It is a special kind of sex. No expectations, no inhibitions. It's almost like a drunken one nighter kind of sex. Except less sloppy, with more feeling and it's easier to remember. Now that I'm thinking about it. I think everyone should try this at least once in their lives. lol.
Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 It is a special kind of sex. No expectations, no inhibitions. It's almost like a drunken one nighter kind of sex. Except less sloppy, with more feeling and it's easier to remember. Now that I'm thinking about it. I think everyone should try this at least once in their lives. lol. It some dude's only hope... pun intended
carhill Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 For an experiment, since there's no love or emotion involved, try going down on her next time. Explore the outer limits of her oral aversion.
Author TheyCallMeBruce Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 For an experiment, since there's no love or emotion involved, try going down on her next time. Explore the outer limits of her oral aversion. I did that this time, and she was all about it. She was OK with my kissing anything but her mouth.
carhill Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 How did she like kissing your penis? If the FB assertions have traction, it shouldn't be an issue.
snug.bunny Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 She demonstrated her passion for you physically by straddling you and taking her clothes off, but didn't want to share any lippy? Kissing makes things 10 times hotter, especially leading up to the main event. How was the sex altogether...Was it good? Was she good, were you good? It sounds like it was good, if she was moaning and groaning your name in ecstasy. Maybe she felt weird and wanted to keep an emotional distance because your friends with her ex? Or, maybe she had sex with you thinking it would somehow get back to her ex since you're friends with him and maybe she wanted him to find out about it, who knows.
Author TheyCallMeBruce Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 She demonstrated her passion for you physically by straddling you and taking her clothes off, but didn't want to share any lippy? Kissing makes things 10 times hotter, especially leading up to the main event. Totally agree. Even if I'm having sex with someone I don't want to date, kissing is a huge part of the fun, and it only makes things better. I'm a good kisser, too! How was the sex altogether...Was it good? Was she good, were you good? It sounds like it was good, if she was moaning and groaning your name in ecstasy. I think it went well, but I know I could have done better. I was a little off because I think not being able to kiss her threw off my rhythm a lot. Maybe she felt weird and wanted to keep an emotional distance because your friends with her ex? This was my initial thought, because (and this is going to sound weird) she isn't the only girl that both he and I have slept with. I hooked up with a girl way back in the day that he subsequently dated, and that I then dated later. It was a little weird, and I think Kate found this bizarre, so part of me wonders if her issues might stem from the fact that she doesn't want to be like this girl, whom she has vocally judged before. Or, maybe she had sex with you thinking it would somehow get back to her ex since you're friends with him and maybe she wanted him to find out about it, who knows. I suppose that this is entirely possible, but she doesn't strike me as the spiteful type.
snug.bunny Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 This was my initial thought, because (and this is going to sound weird) she isn't the only girl that both he and I have slept with. I hooked up with a girl way back in the day that he subsequently dated, and that I then dated later. It was a little weird, and I think Kate found this bizarre, so part of me wonders if her issues might stem from the fact that she doesn't want to be like this girl, whom she has vocally judged before. I'd be a bit standoffish towards a guy if I was aware that both he and an ex, were friends and now twice you've slept with his ex's/women he's dated. Not that this particular woman is any better, given she slept with the friend of an ex and was aware that you've done this previously with another one of your friend's ex. I dunno...you could always ask your friend if this Kate woman, didn't kiss your friend either, that is if you don't care whether or not he knows you're sleeping/slept with his ex.
Author TheyCallMeBruce Posted January 28, 2012 Author Posted January 28, 2012 (edited) I'm sure they did, since they dated for a couple of years. And in my defense, I had gone out with the other before he dated her, and they only dated very briefly. I met both of these girls when they were single; it's not like I met them through him. If that makes any difference. Edited January 28, 2012 by TheyCallMeBruce
Blcomeau Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 She's a germophobe that's insecure about the size of her thighs. I don't like kissing either.
smokey bear Posted January 29, 2012 Posted January 29, 2012 Because refusing to kiss someone is a total extreme. He kissed her once she stopped him and straight up refuses to do it again. It's a clear cut indicator that she isn't into him. She's not attracted to him in a romantic way. But yet she had sex with him. She's using him to fulfill that need. Plus she presented him with a choice. Walk out the door or f*ck me on my terms of me using you as a f*ck stick only. If she were open to more possibilities she wouldn't have presented herself that way. I'm ashamed to admit, but when I was younger and dumber I was this girl once. I had a f*ck buddy who I refused to kiss. It was after a bad breakup. I had no feelings for him, barely even a physical attraction and honestly he creeped me out a bit. But he was willing, ready and great in bed so I used him to fulfill that need. There was absolutely zero chance of anything developing and it was safe. That was the only reason I even started with it in the first place. There was no kissing because there was no attraction. I didn't feel comfortable kissing someone I wasn't attracted to. I'm betting dollars to donuts it's the same with this girl. Ill second this, ive done this once too. There is zero attraction and never will be, scratching an itch only and possible repulsion. Sorry blunt but completely true.
Author TheyCallMeBruce Posted January 31, 2012 Author Posted January 31, 2012 So, we talked last night. Basically she said that she's not looking for anything serious, and she likes spending time with me, but if I wasn't comfortable with that "arrangement," she understood. I don't think I'm going to keep seeing her.
bac Posted January 31, 2012 Posted January 31, 2012 (edited) Hey everyone, it's been a while. I've never been with a girl who refused to kiss, and I don't know what this means. Does it mean that she's only interested in sex? Does it mean that it was a one-time thing? Is this going to happen again when we hang out on Monday? I'm incredibly confused! Help! IMO, she used you for sex. You are good for now but from her point of view there is something wrong with you or your mouth. Options are: bad breath, unattracrive teeth or lips, herpes on your lip. For me and some women, kissing is more intimate than penetration. I can do penetration without intimacy but kissing needs intimacy. Also, she might have the obsessive compulsive disorder. It is the condition of irrational fear of bacteria/infection. She also a control freak because she used you this way (with no respect to your feelings). Edited January 31, 2012 by bac
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