rd1978 Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 I tend so see alot of forums where the EX is still in the picture....one way or anotheri always felt it was one of the worst things to do untill you were over someone else,,,But i will admitt that hagning out with someone other than your ex tends to take your mind off them ,,, at least when your hanging out with them ,, or in some cases makes you think about them more,,,, how many of you out there thaught that you wanted to be free single ect.. had other guys /or girls that were interested so it made you feel better about walking away ,, then realized in the future after seeing other people ect.. going on dates... and even though they went good ,,, you still wanted to be with your ex And those who wanted to return to your EX were you more afraid of anything that they wouldnt take you back now or they met someone else??? Did this affect you in trying to get in contact with them?Because you didnt know if they had a change of heart since the last time you talked to them....... {just curious } on people's past experiences
kk's Love Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 I've had it both ways. I was with one ex for 7.5 years and we are still best friends 3 years after I left him. No, I have no interest in being with him because he still is the same man I left. He still has the same issues and time nor any effort on his part has made him better. On the other hand with the next ex of 1.5 years, I was madly infatuated with a friend of mine and he kept making me feel like there was a chance so I left my BF for him. The friend and I months later did get together and dated for 4 months, okay ready to laugh, after knowing him closely for 3 years and dating him for 4 months....I found out he broke up with me because he's gay! That's another story but it really made me feel stupid that I gave away a 1.5 year relationship with a man that treated me like a princess. And yes, I have tried to get him back (he never knew about the infatuation or that I actually dated the other guy) but he won't talk to me and I had to move before we broke up so I don't get to run into him. I got what I deserved but if I could go back, I wouldn't of left. It like this, it all depends on why you leave, if it's that person's character that you question and don't like, then the desire to go back probably won't happen. However, if you leave to pursue others, it's a good possibility that you'll want them back. Hope this helps!
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