DontWorryBHappy Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 I was hanging out in the coping forum for a while after being devastated by a break up. That relationship ended 9 months ago. Finally ive met someone else who so far checks all the boxes that my ex never did. He loves to help people, extremely sweet person, and very affectionate and open about feelings. Hes taken me to the movies, ice skating, and just spent time together talking in person, as well as long conversations on the phone. We talk every day and ive never had to doubt his interest level. From the beginning we've had very easy conversations.. the kind that just "click". We have a similar sense of humor, and miraculously, he actually cares about all the random little things I like to talk about in conversation.. theres a genuineness that shines through. Today he said to me: "I think you are wonderful. I love everything about you. I can really see a future with you." I definitely melted a bit, because I feel the same. I know its still early days, but this is the best start I could have asked for. And after a bad break up and meeting a lot of people you don't click with, it's easy to forget that this kind of thing still exists.
FitChick Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 I recently heard this on the radio: "People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime."
Onlyjonley Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Good for you -- it's crazy how after a bad breakup, you honestly don't know how life will go on or how you'll ever feel normal again. It's a hopeless feeling. And then you meet someone that makes you realize why things didn't work out before. It's the best feeling.
chelsea2011 Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 What a nice post! Good for you dwbh. It sounds like your off to a nice start.
RecordProducer Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Congrats on feeling happy and being over your ex - and good luck with your new lover. Now be a good girl and wish us all to meet someone special, too.
carhill Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 after a bad break up and meeting a lot of people you don't click with, it's easy to forget that this kind of thing still exists Thank you for reminding me. Best wishes to you
lilyblue Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Good for you My first instinct was to want that, but then as I kept reading I realized that's how my last relationship started. And then he treated me more awfully than anyone has. Makes me anxious about ever trusting that feeling again!! A good start has to be better than a bad one though I suppose.
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted January 26, 2012 Author Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) Well, you definitely have to keep your eyes open. I've been very careful to learn as much as I can about him, and if a deal breaker ever came up, I'm confident that I can walk away. A relationship isn't judged by how it starts.... definitely not. It's judged by how it is at each and every stage. If that person that treated you so well in the beginning suddenly starts treating you differently, in a way that you know you don't want to live with, you have to be strong enough to say to yourself, "I deserve better, and this person is now showing me that they aren't who I thought" and then walk away. You never really know how the chips will fall until they fall.... so for now I'm really enjoying the ride, but one day at a time for sure. Tomorrow he's picking me up early to spend a day together....... excited . Edited January 26, 2012 by DontWorryBHappy
Emilia Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Sounds like this guy would tick all my boxes too OP, you have done well! Good stuff
RecordProducer Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Good for you My first instinct was to want that, but then as I kept reading I realized that's how my last relationship started. And then he treated me more awfully than anyone has. Makes me anxious about ever trusting that feeling again!! A good start has to be better than a bad one though I suppose.My first instinct was what you realized after your first instinct (the bolded pat). But then I realized that just because bad relationships start well doesn't mean we should good starts as bad starts. In the back of our minds, we probably knew from the beginning that the bad relationships were not supposed to happen in the first place,but nonetheless we went for them for some(desperate) reasons. We should enjoy good beginnings and hope for the best.
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