garycoleman Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 or it just a lost cause? I still like this girl but I feel she lost interest even though she didn't out right reject me yet. We seem to share similar interests/hobbies but the chemistry isn't there yet because we are both shy and haven't known eachother for that long.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ek4QJ_krRl4&feature=related Did she ever respond to your last text? If life is anything like MTV reality shows... you scream " NEXT!!!"
Author garycoleman Posted January 25, 2012 Author Posted January 25, 2012 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ek4QJ_krRl4&feature=related Did she ever respond to your last text? If life is anything like MTV reality shows... you scream " NEXT!!!" not yet. and I haven't tried contacting her for the 2nd time either and so I'm still debating whether to do it or not. I know if call/text and she doesn't respond, I will feel like a chump. On the other hand if I don't do it, in the future I will keep kicking myself that maybe I should have swallowed my pride and try again because things might have worked out.
ditzchic Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 not yet. and I haven't tried contacting her for the 2nd time either and so I'm still debating whether to do it or not. I know if call/text and she doesn't respond, I will feel like a chump. On the other hand if I don't do it, in the future I will keep kicking myself that maybe I should have swallowed my pride and try again because things might have worked out. Why would you end up kicking yourself somewhere down the road for someone you admitted you felt no chemistry for? I think you are putting too much stock in this girl. You didn't feel it. She didn't feel it. You reached out again. She didn't reciprocate. It is what it is.
Red Arremer Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Is it possible? Yes. Do you have a better shot of being struck by lightning while holding a winning lottery ticket? Yes.
Lobouspo Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Dude, you really need to move on. This is not healthy.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Dont bother. She didnt respond because shes not interested, not because shes shy. You dont have to kick yourself, theres nothing to salvage here. Put this much effort into the next woman.
A O Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Just put yourself in her position. You met a girl, she piqued your interest, initially. Somewhere down the line your interest waned and your resultant (distant) behavior pretty much echoed these thoughts. But this girl plugs on nonetheless. How much of a shot do you think she has with you now because what ever chance you give her, is most likely what you will have too. .
Author garycoleman Posted January 26, 2012 Author Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) Why would you end up kicking yourself somewhere down the road for someone you admitted you felt no chemistry for? I think you are putting too much stock in this girl. You didn't feel it. She didn't feel it. You reached out again. She didn't reciprocate. It is what it is. Does chemistry always have to happen on the 1st date? I was hoping we can build it up if we gave each other a chance instead of writing it off based on only one date. I'm not going to lie, the #1 reason I like her is she is very pretty, the best looking girl I have ever been on a date with. I know we don't click yet but we like similar hobbies so I was hoping we can build chemistry doing them together. Edited January 26, 2012 by garycoleman
ditzchic Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Does chemistry always have to happen on the 1st date? I was hoping we can build it up if we gave each other a chance instead of writing it off based on only one date. I'm not going to lie, the #1 reason I like her is she is very pretty, the best looking girl I have ever been on a date with. I know we don't click yet but we like similar hobbies so I was hoping we can build chemistry doing them together. Full on chemistry doesn't always happen on the first date but there are usually at least some kind of bubbles that will intrigue the person enough to give you a second chance. That didn't happen for her obviously. Did it even happen for you? Or do you just want to hang out with her because she is pretty?
Author garycoleman Posted January 26, 2012 Author Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) Full on chemistry doesn't always happen on the first date but there are usually at least some kind of bubbles that will intrigue the person enough to give you a second chance. That didn't happen for her obviously. Did it even happen for you? Or do you just want to hang out with her because she is pretty? Honestly, I didn't feel anything even when I held her hand. In the past with other girls, I had a good feeling inside when we held hands. I know it sounds shallow but yeah, that is the main reason:o. The 2nd reason is she doesn't seem to be high maintenance. A pretty low maintenance girl is hard to come by. Edited January 26, 2012 by garycoleman
Meeks7 Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Move on. Best advice to take, trust me. A pretty low maintenance girl is hard to come by. Brother, we always think that when we're in "that pit" so to speak. Trust me, they're not THAT hard to find. It just always seems that way when we're trying to cling onto one we're afraid of slipping away for good. Have some dignity, and walk away. It's over.
Author garycoleman Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 Move on. Best advice to take, trust me. Brother, we always think that when we're in "that pit" so to speak. Trust me, they're not THAT hard to find. It just always seems that way when we're trying to cling onto one we're afraid of slipping away for good. Have some dignity, and walk away. It's over. The other problem is that I don't have girls lined up left and right so that's why it's sort of hard to just walk away.
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