nofool4u Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Ive been dating this guy for a couple of months now, and I really like him. I'd say that I haven't felt like this with a guy in a long time. To cut a long story short we met up on the weekend (both of us were extremeley drunk may I add) and he came home with me. I thought it odd that he was glued to his phone most of the night, but we had a lot of fun . Anyway after spending the night together he said he'd 'see me soon' and left.When I went online I realised he'd sent me a friend request on facebook, I accepted, only to find he is in a relationship and has been for over 6 months. What I dont understand is why add me as a friend as he knows i'd see his relationship status?! Or is it his way of telling me about her? Yes, its his cowardly way of telling you and he doesn't even have the respect or courage to come clean to your face. So he uses silly little facebook. I feel slightly guilty for his girlfriend Why? He didn't tell you he had a girlfriend. You didn't know. Now if you now know and keep on giving him what he wants, then yes, then you should feel guilty. but I have such strong feelings for him I dont know what to do. What is it with people that have strong feelings for a cheater and a liar. He withheld the info that he is in a relationship from you, otherwise he wouldn't have gotten what he wanted from you. Should I tell him how I feel or walk away? Depends on what you want to tell him. If you want to tell him you have strong feelings for him, and give him a huge ego boost knowing he can have a girlfriend and still have someone fawning all over him, then its up to you. But if you have any self respect, you will walk away. He is a cheater, liar, and a player. The fact he came clean later doesn't mean anything. He withheld the information at the pertinent time....when he wanted to get in your pants. If you say anything at all, it should be to tell him what a jerk he is to seduce you and not tell you he had a gf. Or if you can, out him to his gf.
2sunny Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 I understand I have been played and have acted a doormat, I was just too stupid to see it. Anyway he called me today and said he was sorry for lying to me and that he should have come clean from the start about his girlfriend, and astonishingly asked me if i'd be ok keeping what had happened to myself..... So I have written all over his facebook telling him what a liar he is, and announced it to all my friends on there. I also commented on the photo of him and his girl saying 'Is this the girlfriend you claimed you didnt have the other night when you cameback to mine?' I must admit I feel so much better for doing it...hopefully that will show the world what a lying little **** he is! Woot!!! Good work! He asked you to continue keeping silent - that's as good as going along with his lies! Good work having a voice and speaking your truth! Also taking action on taking your power back! Never hand it over willingly again - things get way out of balance that way!
phillyfan Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 I understand I have been played and have acted a doormat, I was just too stupid to see it. Anyway he called me today and said he was sorry for lying to me and that he should have come clean from the start about his girlfriend, and astonishingly asked me if i'd be ok keeping what had happened to myself..... So I have written all over his facebook telling him what a liar he is, and announced it to all my friends on there. I also commented on the photo of him and his girl saying 'Is this the girlfriend you claimed you didnt have the other night when you cameback to mine?' I must admit I feel so much better for doing it...hopefully that will show the world what a lying little **** he is! Dude u made my nite, tht dude got served! The playa got well n truly played. Good 4 u girl, u got style.
whichwayisup Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 I understand I have been played and have acted a doormat, I was just too stupid to see it. Anyway he called me today and said he was sorry for lying to me and that he should have come clean from the start about his girlfriend, and astonishingly asked me if i'd be ok keeping what had happened to myself..... So I have written all over his facebook telling him what a liar he is, and announced it to all my friends on there. I also commented on the photo of him and his girl saying 'Is this the girlfriend you claimed you didnt have the other night when you cameback to mine?' I must admit I feel so much better for doing it...hopefully that will show the world what a lying little **** he is! fb drama. He brought this all on himself, even more so for adding you as friend. WTF was he thinking?? And then letting you know in his own mean subtle way by knowing you'd see his relationship status, let alone pictures of him and his girlfriend. It's like he asked for it and wanted to be 'outed' or something!
2sunny Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 It's good that you also allowed his other GF know what a complete dork she's been seeing!
veggirl Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Good for you!! :bunny: What did he do when he saw all that?
123321 Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Walk away. The fact that he wants you to see that hes in a relationship means he has no intention of dropping her for you. That also means that he is a blatant cheater. You want to be in a relationship with that? What sort of ESP allows you to know what the terms and conditions are of his current relationships?
2sunny Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 What sort of ESP allows you to know what the terms and conditions are of his current relationships? Did you even read the thread? Read... Attacking people for appropriate responses isn't helpful. He LIED about having a GF. Then he lied even more. Then he expected her to keep it hushed when he knew she knew... He's a dork!
SoMovinOn Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Any R is whatever the couple agrees to. Dating is, should be, like shopping - it's not a "committed" R, although some people choose to agree it is. That he didn't mention he's also dating someone else is kind of telling though. If there's no honesty at the beginning, you can't expect there will be later.
123321 Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 Did you even read the thread? Read... Attacking people for appropriate responses isn't helpful. He LIED about having a GF. The post I replied to was the 3rd post, please read the previous 2 posts and then explain how "Eddie" knew he lied or whatever, unless you can do that, ....
Author Mimsicles Posted January 27, 2012 Author Posted January 27, 2012 He had the cheek to ask me why I've humiliated him. But then said he doesn't want to be with his gf so is glad she found out. I ended up putting the phone down on him. Its going to be weird tomorrow when I go out as I know he'll be there!
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