Blcomeau Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 It is with the heaviest heart that I've decided I need to do this today. For the last 3 years my husband and I have major trouble with trust with each other. And for the 3rd time he's walked out on me. He's been extremely LC and I have too. Facebook shows he's 'in a relationship' and I'm still here not doing what he accuses me of then does himself. Like saying I'm on online dating sites talking to men and that I'm looking for a way to replace him. But I digress.... So I'm through with the tears, injustices, punishments, attitude switches, abandonment, disrespect, disregard for our children, et cetera. Last night I was reading all these threads for the millionth time and damn it, I'm going to be ok. I am sick and tired of sitting here waiting for someone to tell me how my life is going to be. I went back and forth a little with whether or not its too soon, and maybe he does still want to work on it... But from all that's been said and done, I think deep down I DO know he's done - after all, if he wanted me, he'd be here by now.... So I'm doing it. I haven't been able to breathe since June....
Philosoraptor Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Sounds like he wants to hold you back while he moves on so he can have that "victory" of moving on first. Leave his immaturity behind and move on to a better and happier life
PegNosePete Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 It's ironic, most single people will say that online dating sites are rubbish, you only meet idiots and time-wasters. But when your spouse is on one it's all different, they suddenly become the best, most reliable, cannot-fail place in the world to meet someone! But I digress too. Good for you for making the move, you will soon be looking back and thinking "why didn't I do it sooner"!
carhill Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 The first step is the hardest. The process, if completed, merely ends the legal connection. The rest is up to you and him. Taking the first step in no way impels only one potential path. All paths remain open to choice. Filing can signal acceptance. I hope, whatever the outcome, it is healthy and amicable. I recall reading and re-reading the FL100 (the initial filing form in Cali) for a few months before we actually filed, pondering the potentials and risks. Once the fear of the unknown was conquered, confidence returned and a step was taken. One step at a time. Good luck.
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