MIK1000 Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Broke up 5 months ago and have been NC for most of that. Basically I deleted her on fb as soon as the break up happened. There was a photo of me uploaded by her, posing in front of a poster with one of my sporting idols on it, the sporting idol in question had commented on it, something which I was obviously very pleased and extatic about at the time, she knew this. Now since the break up, she as been removing and detagging random photos of me and us, she removed a lovely one of her baby nephew which hurt, and yet she won't remove them all, only certain ones, at random times. There is still ones of us up now. Is she removing it just to spite me? Or get a reaction out of me? She has no reason to dislike me, she left me for another guy and left me in extreme pain. She should be doing anything to make me feel better.
Philosoraptor Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Maybe she removes them when someone points them out, or when she just comes across them. Maybe she is just trying to get a reaction out of you? Her reasons do not matter. She will do what she will do, and there is nothing you can do about it. But if she was doing it to get any sort of reaction out of you, she did.
Chi townD Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 How do you know that this is happening if you deleted her from Facebook? Regardless, you two are broken up. She is old news to you and you are old news to her. You two aren't together anymore, she's moving on and to do this she's removing you completely. PLUS! if she has a new guy, he probably doesn't want to see pics of her with other guys...including you. Personally, I wouldn't stress about it. Time to move on.
Author MIK1000 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Posted January 25, 2012 Maybe she removes them when someone points them out, or when she just comes across them. Maybe she is just trying to get a reaction out of you? Her reasons do not matter. She will do what she will do, and there is nothing you can do about it. But if she was doing it to get any sort of reaction out of you, she did. You're right. I just find her so complext. When we were going out she was so straight forward. She's acting like I'm the one who has hurt her. Maybe it's a way of dealing with the guilt.
Author MIK1000 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Posted January 25, 2012 How do you know that this is happening if you deleted her from Facebook? Regardless, you two are broken up. She is old news to you and you are old news to her. You two aren't together anymore, she's moving on and to do this she's removing you completely. PLUS! if she has a new guy, he probably doesn't want to see pics of her with other guys...including you. Personally, I wouldn't stress about it. Time to move on. Even though she's deleted, I still have the photos which I am tagged in on my profile. It's this is kind of in tune with everything else she has done; doing things to make herself known to me, but acting cold. Removing this photo of me was needless because she wasn't tagged in it, it's a photo that meant a lot to me, and her new BF, in less he was a dick, should see no harm in it still being there.
flitzanu Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 Even though she's deleted, I still have the photos which I am tagged in on my profile. It's this is kind of in tune with everything else she has done; doing things to make herself known to me, but acting cold. Removing this photo of me was needless because she wasn't tagged in it, it's a photo that meant a lot to me, and her new BF, in less he was a dick, should see no harm in it still being there. so if you were dating a girl, you'd want her to leave up pictures of her ex boyfriend? and you think a girl you date wants you to have up pics of your ex? also, it's facebook. quick stalking. remove your tags. she isn't doing anything to get a reaction. it isn't complex. you're split up, therefore she's removing you from her life, simple as that.
geegirl Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 (edited) She has no obligation to you. You need to start grasping the fact that you are not together anymore and she is moving on and that means removing some of her past slowly but surely. Her boyfriend is not responsible for your feelings if a photo was removed and you are hurt. You are hurt because you are engaging in this. Remove the photos from your profile, save them somewhere else and you won't have to know who's detagging you. Edited January 25, 2012 by geegirl
Philosoraptor Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 You're right. I just find her so complext. When we were going out she was so straight forward. She's acting like I'm the one who has hurt her. Maybe it's a way of dealing with the guilt. Well in her mind you have wronged her. She does not seem to be at a point where she can look at this rationally and anger is such an easy emotion. Rather than worry about her, just continue to focus on yourself. If she fixes herself, then be happy for her; if not, pity her, but it is not your job to fix or worry about her.
BoredAgain Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 You're right. I just find her so complext. When we were going out she was so straight forward. She's acting like I'm the one who has hurt her. Maybe it's a way of dealing with the guilt. It's really common for people to analyze every little thing their Ex does after a breakup, but you really have no idea what's running through her head. As Philosoraptor said, you need to focus on yourself instead of focusing on her. As fer her acting like the one who was hurt, that's petty common too. I don't fully understand why this happens so much, but I suspect it has something to do with guilt, as you said. Whatever the reason, she can deal with it herself.
Author MIK1000 Posted January 26, 2012 Author Posted January 26, 2012 It's really common for people to analyze every little thing their Ex does after a breakup, but you really have no idea what's running through her head. As Philosoraptor said, you need to focus on yourself instead of focusing on her. As fer her acting like the one who was hurt, that's petty common too. I don't fully understand why this happens so much, but I suspect it has something to do with guilt, as you said. Whatever the reason, she can deal with it herself. You're all right of course. Man, I can't believe I'm still at this stage, five months after the BU. I thought I was doing so well at several stages. I thought I didn't want her back for a good while too, and then I start missing her again. It's hard not to anaylse everything when you still want them back. Her actions have been so confusing, it doesn't help that I got basically no closure from the break up (she left me while away across the world for 3.5 months in the summer, everything had been great before she went away). I havent had the chance to talk to her about it. When she just got back, she drunk texted me at 2 in the morning, asking how I was. I basically replied with a really blunt answer which left no room for no conversation. Then a couple months later she texts me out the blue asking if I want my Game cube back (a ten year old games console which is of no value at all today, and I would never have remembered she had it) when I went to get it, she handed me it and flat out walked away without saying a word. Then on christmas eve there, she game into the pub I work in (everyone from our area tends to go there that night) and hung about the bar all night, appeared to be trying to get me to talk to her as my friend said she was always staring at me. Then I broke NC for the first time with a text, asking if she would meet up with me to explain and give me closure of what really happened in the summer. She told me I already knew what happened. As I've said, I think I'm just struggling from the total lack of closure I got. It was litterally like the closest thing in the world to me goes away, everythign is fine, then she becomes a totally different person and dumps me with no emotion and gets with another guy. And I still can't understand it, given she was always a girl I never had to fight for the affection of. Doesn't help that it was my first love either.
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