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[Mr Nice Guy]

I started a thread not long ago about my girlfriend (sadly noone offered any advice) but now I'll try it again since my worries are increasing and things really dont sound right.

 

So long story short...I've had a complicated relationship with my girlfriend for seven months because she was trying to decide whether to stay with her now ex or leave him for me. In December, she finally left him, we officially started our relationship and a couple of weeks after that, she went on holiday. Despite the ups and downs because of the unsureness, we have been truthful and honest about our relationship. She went on holiday with her family not long after we got together and she has just returned.

 

But since about 10 days ago while she was on holiday, things have been weird. I made an analogy about my work and study and she thought it was aimed at her and our relationship. I asked her how she thought that, and she declined to answer online saying she preferred to talk about it in person and not to worry about it because it was nothing bad. This triggered some anxiety how it might be bad, because good news from her is generally relative. I was also annoyed at a friend that night which made me snappy, but she said it was fine. We worked our way back and we continued telling each other we loved each other.

 

However, contact diminished and despite me telling her I loved her, they weren't returned in the same manner or sometimes not at all. I thought nothing of it because she was on holiday. I was concerned when I said hi on Facebook Chat and she didn't answer while being on there for about 15 minutes. But things have amped up since she came back the other day. She came back on my birthday, was relaxing all day and though she promised she would see me on that day, she didn't. She told me she couldn't see me because she was seeing her nan that night. That night, I had to run an errand that took me past her place and I noticed her ex's car parked outside rather late, which hurt. She's also scheduled over me twice today (saying yes, no, yes, no) after promising to come round. I asked if I could come by her place later and she said no, because she said her place was a mess. So her ex can come round, but not the guy she's having sex with? Right now, my full trust is slowly diminishing.

 

I've been relatively relaxed because of how we got together and I want to give it a genuine chance, but now I'm not so sure. We've put a lot of stock into saying those three small words, and she knows it, but now after last night, there are issues of honesty. I'm not sure if I can trust her but I still think it might be nothing because she said when she mutually broke up with her ex that they still wanted to be friends. We haven't talked about us yet though. Should I wait it out and see if my worries are unfounded or have the red flags been raised? I'm really concerned that something's going on. Any advice will be appreciated.