WildWildWest Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 he isnt doing something right in bed without hurting his feelings? How can I bring up the convo casually and suggest things that he should and shouldnt do? I have always been affraid to mention it in fear of hurting his ego but I really cant take it anymore.. I really like the guy and wanna be with him but he does things sometimes that I really like and sometimes he doesnt do them.. and sometimes he does things I really dont like and I dont kno how to tell him not to do that. HEEEELP!
ditzchic Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Dirty talk him a bit. Don't tell him not to do something, just say in a sexy way what you would rather him do... As long as it's said sexy and not critically he'll eat it up. Also when he's doing the things you like, play it up. He'll get the hint that you love it and should be doing it much more often
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Be direct. Have a talk with him. Tell him what he does wrong. Tell him what you want him to do. Tell him you like him but are uncomfortable with certain things he does. Just talk to him like an adult. If he throws a hissyfit then forget about him. Him throwing a hissyfit says he isn't compatible with you in bed and in maturity.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Well If you want to pussy foot with the guy first because you can't talk to him like an adult (sometimes I forget where the level of communication is - yet its ok to stick your penis in my vagina!) Anyway, initially you should tell kinda guide or show him what like but pointing him in the right direction, and what you don't like just casually say no I like this, then change it that way. You should never let him develop a routine when you don't like something, because he'll assume you like it.
imfromhoiland Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 If you don't want to confront him (which makes things so much easier when you're up front), you can do it indirectly. When he does something you like, give him positive reinforcement (moan, "Yeah, keep doing that", etc.). When he does something you don't like, be a starfish.
cerridwen Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 If you don't want to confront him (which makes things so much easier when you're up front), you can do it indirectly. When he does something you like, give him positive reinforcement (moan, "Yeah, keep doing that", etc.). When he does something you don't like, be a starfish. Starfish . I agree with the tips in this thread about showing rather than talking. My favorite word for when he's "getting it really right" is "more" said imploringly and with the body movements that emphasis the desire.
Recommended Posts