amythan Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 (edited) Hello, I really need your opinion on this one ... I guess my judgment was clouded. After some love disasters with people clearly unavailable and incompatible with me I found someone I really liked. He is a friend of a friend and we met by chance in a plane beginning of december. We spent the trip talking, we had a great time and we were discussing about a concert that both wanted to attend. Then he invited me to a party, I went and we flirted all night long. He is interesting and funny and very sexy. During this party he told my friend that he was coming with me to the concert. I am going to throw a party and he was happy to come and he said : will we go to the concert then? I said yes and we decided to meet in a bar before the event. When I arrived there (yesterday) he was there with four friends. I was really annoyed. He never mentioned that he was going with people and if i wanted to join ! I thought he was inviting me to go with him !! My friends were there too and i didn't invited them. Btw his friends were very unfriendly with me. He paid for my ticket and my drinks but i start to think that this means nothing and he is maybe the generous type, social and flirty and that's all ... He was very annoying because two guys were hitting on me and being very obnoxious but again, he was just maybe being friendly .. He is coming to my party next week but i do not know what to expect now. Ah he has the reputation of being a player but with me he didn't try anything What do you think ? does he just like me as friend ? Thanks for reading ! Edited January 24, 2012 by amythan
ditzchic Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 You're overthinking this. He seems clearly interested.
veggirl Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Meh, he seems pretty lukewarm. But, why are you interested if you know he is a player? If he was interested I think he would ask you on a real date, not just parties and group concerts. Does he call you during the week to say hi? Have either of you suggested an actual date?
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 lol If he has a reputation for being a player how stupid can you be? He's probably going soft on you because he's a friend of a friend (hopefully not a girlfriend), plus If you're a player my dear you don't need to "try" anything, you know how to make it happen and you're not the only fish on the hook. He's interested in you alright...interested in bending you into a pretzel!
Author amythan Posted January 24, 2012 Author Posted January 24, 2012 He is very annoyed when someone mentions that he is always with women ... I have never tried to force anything because of his reputation and specially because we have this friend in common (a guy). I do not want to create an unpleasant situation for any of us .. But yes, i do not feel he is that interested. My friend says he is but i think he is clueless
xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 He is very annoyed when someone mentions that he is always with women ... I have never tried to force anything because of his reputation and specially because we have this friend in common (a guy). I do not want to create an unpleasant situation for any of us .. But yes, i do not feel he is that interested. My friend says he is but i think he is clueless Keyword. He sounded interested if he paid for you, unless he is being really generous. Never mind his friends, maybe he had invited them before he asked you out. Next time you ask him out and you're not going to bring any of your friends.
Author amythan Posted January 24, 2012 Author Posted January 24, 2012 He was fine, he was talking to me, he bought drinks to share both of us, we sit together ... i cannot complain about that. Then we went to a bar and he was talking to me all the time. But when we were alone the other times he was more sweet or flirty ...
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 I think it's best to wait and see. Nothing looks definite here. I am as confused as you are. So you should wait til you get more information. However, start looking for other men in case he isn't interested. Don't put other possibilities on hold for this guy.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 He is very annoyed when someone mentions that he is always with women ... I have never tried to force anything because of his reputation and specially because we have this friend in common (a guy). I do not want to create an unpleasant situation for any of us .. But yes, i do not feel he is that interested. My friend says he is but i think he is clueless Of course he's annoyed lol, he's being called out...don't you think that ruins his little "game". Look obviously he's not a very good player If you're hearing it around friends, but I mean c'mon, you think he developed that reputation out of doing nothing? I swear Amy, If women weren't so dense about these situations I could blame just the men, but because women don't realize It's fire until they get burned then I guess this cycle will never end and you can't say they didn't know any better. But you go right ahead, you seem to need to learn the lesson the hard way and hey...at least you'll know better after the experience? I know, wishful thinking but you did this to yourself, so don't cry about it If you get burned. The only thing I can say is he doesn't sound like a very good "player" but it's the context of this conversation I guess you could still call him one, it still describes his patterns that EVERYONE knows because he developed a REPUTATION for it. Of course except you, ::swwooon:: maybe he'll change for meeeeeeee.
SJC2008 Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Everyone has a different style so it's hard to say if he likes you or not. Hang out with him and see where it goes, if he likes you it will come out sooner or later. Or you could ask him what he's looking for. Just say you want to date and meet someone. Then ask him what he's looking for. That being said people don't get reps for nothing so be cautious about his player rep, unless that's the kind of men you like. Not trying to sound sarcastic, different strokes for different folks.
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