Question to women--about being approached outside of...

[Imajerk17]

No. He's someone I would never even consider dating. What a blow to the ego, huh?

 

I don't get asked out honestly, or approached ever. Anyone I've dated, I've approached them.

 

Probably another reason it never works out. They see me because I approach them but they're really not interested. I'm just someone "for now".

 

Well, I'm not that good-looking (decent but not great--and only 5'8") so women don't approach me. It's OK. I don't mind approaching, especially because other guys hardly ever do it. It (women's reluctance to approach and better-looking men who don't approach) has given me a lot of choice in my dating that I probably wouldn't have otherwise. I also have worked hard to make up for not being tall and good-looking with other qualities and I do OK. Good things come to those who hustle after them.

 

Anyway, a lot of men might not approach because they are intimidated. So getting back to your case, they might be seeing a good-looking athletic girl and they can't imagine the girl ever going for them. So they don't even bother.

Edited January 25, 2012 by Imajerk17

[azsinglegal]

Well, I'm not that good-looking (decent but not great--and only 5'8") so women don't approach me. It's OK. I don't mind approaching, especially because other guys hardly ever do it. It (women's reluctance to approach and better-looking men who don't approach) has given me a lot of choice in my dating that I probably wouldn't have otherwise. I also have worked hard to make up for not being tall and good-looking with other qualities and I do OK. Good things come to those who hustle after them.

 

Anyway, a lot of men might not approach because they are intimidated. So getting back to your case, they might be seeing a good-looking athletic girl and they can't imagine the girl ever going for them. So they don't even bother.

 

Huh...I'm actually not that good looking. I'd say average. Especially now that I'm older. I'd have to say I'd be totally open to a man like you approaching me. Height isn't an issue with me (obviously cuz my man is 5'6" which is the same as me).

 

Just in general...I can probably count on one hand how many times I've been approached and asked out. If I don't initiate the contact it doesn't happen. Kinda bugs now that I think about it.

[Necromancer]

I have approached a girl at the street,i just ran over to her(that was my first cold approach) got straight "no" very quietly in the face,i was like FUARKKKK! that sucked.....

 

Then i have approached girl at the supermarket and when i called her she didn't say she requniced me,bail on her.

 

Then i asked girl out when i was working,when i called her and told her who i was she "cancelled" the phone call,i was like wtf?! bitch.

 

To bad for them...that they didn't get to know how awesome i am!.

 

Yes,day game has VERY low successful rate.

 

I say if you are fat or ugly,you should never do it....it can be very bad for your ego to get rejected all the time and never get from people that your cute because that is what keeps my ego from falling apart!.

[irc333]

Maybe it's geography, but most women I've noticed aren't opened to being approached in a store or mall of some sort. Maybe if they're sitting casually reading a book.

 

But, if they're there fora particular focus, like trying to accomplish a task, they can be caught off guard by such an approach.

 

Most women like being approached when they're ready for it or in a venue that's more conducive to being approached.

 

Like a circle of friends as a residential BBQ or gathering of people that are somewhat already familiar with each other. Even if you come along as a +1, a woman still opened to being approached by you at THAT event.

 

While out and a bout, not so much.

 

 

Women only welcome that approach if they like the guy. Same as any other kind of approach. If she's single and she likes you, the "where and when" of the approach doesn't really matter.

 

To answer your question, I don't get approached outside of bars that much. I would actually prefer it (if I had to choose) because most guys who approach me in bars are drunk and annoying. And bars are often loud, so it's difficult to chat with people.

 

But I think men are reluctant to approach women outside of bars because they can't assume that she's single or looking. Or old enough. (In a bar, it's safe to assume that everyone is at least 21. Just walking down the street, I could easily pass for 16.) Also, a lot of guys rely on the "Can I buy you a drink?" opener. Can't use that when you're standing in line at the bank.