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Should I cut my losses with this girl and move on? She stopped replying to my text

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We have known each other for 3 weeks. We went out for coffee once and then a real date a week later. I didn't feel like that date went so well. I was the one coming up with conversation starters otherwise she wouldn't have said anything.

 

Well anyways, last week I talked to her about random stuff over text. When I mentioned to her about going out saturday she made some long excuse about being busy. When I said what about the weekend after and then she did not reply. She has not replied for 4 days. I have not texted her again. I don't want to be a doormat so I haven't texted her since.

 

So I'm debating whether or not to contact her again within the next few days to week later or just let her go. She is somewhat shy so I can't tell if she doesn't like me or it is just shyness.

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No, let it go. Texting is the most informal, EASIEST way to communicate for a shy person. She ignored your text to set up the date, period. That's not shy, that's her (lamely and rudely!) telling you she isn't interested. I wouldn't reach out again.

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No, let it go. Texting is the most informal, EASIEST way to communicate for a shy person. She ignored your text to set up the date, period. That's not shy, that's her (lamely and rudely!) telling you she isn't interested. I wouldn't reach out again.

 

that's what i figured. i rather her say she is not interested than just cutting me off.

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She's not going to say that to you, most people won't.

 

When the first date didn't go so well you should have figured then was probably the last time...If you barely met someone and there is interest you should know pretty much right away, there isn't any trickery or reason to draw it out.

 

Just move on and don't text her again, regardless of whether you think it's good or bad, even just to say "goodbye"

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I've come to the conclusion that continuing to text/call someone that isn't responding is an utter waste of time. I don't believe I've ever had anything good come from doing so. Usually what happens is that either they keep not responding or they respond back to tell me that they've met someone else (this happened to me today, actually).

 

If for some reason she didn't get your text, but she really liked you, then she would most likely call or text you to see what's up.

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She's not interested. If she made up an excuse not to see you this weekend, and didn't reply to your text asking about next weekend, then she's not interested. Period. Time to move on. Don't continue to contact her.

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I've come to the conclusion that continuing to text/call someone that isn't responding is an utter waste of time. I don't believe I've ever had anything good come from doing so. Usually what happens is that either they keep not responding or they respond back to tell me that they've met someone else (this happened to me today, actually).

 

If for some reason she didn't get your text, but she really liked you, then she would most likely call or text you to see what's up.

 

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If texting is frustrating the hell out of you, you give them a call. If it goes to voicemail, don't even bother leaving a message. Save your breath, delete their number and move on.

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I've come to the conclusion that continuing to text/call someone that isn't responding is an utter waste of time. I don't believe I've ever had anything good come from doing so. Usually what happens is that either they keep not responding or they respond back to tell me that they've met someone else (this happened to me today, actually).

 

If for some reason she didn't get your text, but she really liked you, then she would most likely call or text you to see what's up.

 

What kind confuses me is that she was the one who initiated all of the texts and calls in the beginning. Later when I started initiating, she kind of stopped initiating and slow to respond. It took her a couple of days to say yes when I asked her out for the 1st date.

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What kind confuses me is that she was the one who initiated all of the texts and calls in the beginning. Later when I started initiating, she kind of stopped initiating and slow to respond. It took her a couple of days to say yes when I asked her out for the 1st date.

 

How did you meet her? It sounded almost like you met her online.

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How did you meet her? It sounded almost like you met her online.

 

through a mutal friend . he set us to go out for coffee. she seemed shy and didn't talk much in person. then she texted me a day later and she seemed all bubbly over text and said we should hang out. After a few days of texting and a phone call, I finally asked her out and that was when she took 3 days to say yes for the 1st date.

 

she is confusing. she went from hot to cold in a short amount of time.

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