singlelife Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 I just move on to the next one. Usually if one turns you down there's still 10 who want you. But I am just checking how does everyone else deal with the situation. Ladies you're included too.
Philosoraptor Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 Well you can either still show interest in the person... as a person, just just a mate. Or you can bow out graciously and wish them the best. You could also go the immature route and take jabs at his or her mother. Another popular route is to make possibly invalid claims about his or her promiscuity.
somedude81 Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 It really depends on how much I like the girl/emotionally invested in her I am. Yeah, I know I shouldn't get invested in a girl I'm not dating. I've heard it all before. There are a few things I have to start doing differently.
jean961982 Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 good question after recently been rejected myself, i tend to keep them as friends and hope they begin to see me in a different light?! but i am very new to this and i am sure this is not the 'right' way to go about things, but hey when you really like someone, it's difficult just to let them go... probably best thing to do is just wish them well and move on and forget they ever existed... but i can't do this, yet i might give it a try
AD1980 Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 I handle it pretty healthy, by wallowing in self pity and telling myself this is confirmation women arent attracted to me and why i hardly ever approach them:laugh:
Lobouspo Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 Be gracious and then disappear as much as possible. Under no circumstances should you compromise your dignity and allow yourself to be friendzoned
carhill Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 Protocol after getting rejection My last data point (after a phone conversation at the airport) was I arose, placed my boarding pass upon the reader, heard the beep and stepped onto the plane. I was off to visit those who embrace me with open arms. That demonstrated perspective was/is the culmination of decades of rejections and the lessons learned.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 You act as a japanese honorable samurai! You smile, bow out and immediately and respectfully walk out of the picture, no long-winded or other useless explanations to make yourself or them feel better. Have the confidence and wisdom to realize they're one in a billion. Sticking around only makes you look pathetic and as if you don't have any respect for yourself, It's like getting turned down for a job then hanging outside the front of the building or starting to wash the windows as to act like you're just casually trying to stick around and maybe they'll change their minds.
jobaba Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 I just move on to the next one. Usually if one turns you down there's still 10 who want you. But I am just checking how does everyone else deal with the situation. Ladies you're included too. Wow. I could write a dissertation on this subject. But I'll spare everybody. Everything depends on the degree of investment. And I have been rejected by women who I've known for 2 seconds to almost 2 years before I 'made advances'. For just about any woman you barely know, just move on. No need to dwell at all. If you need to see the person again, just pretend like it never happened. If you have emotional attachment to somebody who barely knows you (a crush), then that is something you need to work on ASAP. Age will improve this. For friends, it's a bit more complicated. When rejected by friends in the past, I've usually asked for reasons. 'Lack of physical attraction' is the usual answer, followed by 'I don't see you in that way' to 'I just don't feel anything'. But I used to really prod. And when prodded, they'd usually give #1. So, what I learned was that you don't want to ask the reasons for rejection. Ever. It won't do any good. Just keep it ambiguous and your confidence will be better off for it. Staying friends. If you think you might want to stay friends with a woman who rejects you, mention it to her. Contact her periodically with platonic texts (or emails). If she does too, she will take some initiative. If she doesn't, then she thinks you're a loser or has no time for you in her life. A number of women who have rejected me have stayed friends with me (although we've lost touch just the way normal friends do). But one is one of my very best friends.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 When I'm interested in a guy, I don't date other people. However, rejection has taught me to keep a few potentials on the side so that I can move on quickly. Normally when I " fade" they have the tendency to come back, asking about my disappearance. I don't think I own them an explanation.
Author singlelife Posted January 24, 2012 Author Posted January 24, 2012 When I'm interested in a guy, I don't date other people. However, rejection has taught me to keep a few potentials on the side so that I can move on quickly. Normally when I " fade" they have the tendency to come back, asking about my disappearance. I don't think I own them an explanation. See I think guys misintepret this as women are being players. But I get it. I guess. You have to protect yourself.
Author singlelife Posted January 25, 2012 Author Posted January 25, 2012 It really depends on how much I like the girl/emotionally invested in her I am. Yeah, I know I shouldn't get invested in a girl I'm not dating. I've heard it all before. There are a few things I have to start doing differently. It's ok to like people dude.
EnigmaticClarity Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 You act as a japanese honorable samurai! Committing seppuku by plunging a knife into your stomach over rejection seems like a bit of an overreaction.
EnigmaticClarity Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 I just move on to the next one. Yes, but also try to figure out why she rejected you. Usually you can't, sometimes you can--maybe you said something too edgy or dumb. Learn from the mistake so you're less likely to repeat it, and then just move on to the next one.
Sith Apprentice Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 I've been rejected by hundreds of women throughout my life. I simply bow out like a gentleman and move on. Whatever you do don't be like these guys
Jane2011 Posted January 27, 2012 Posted January 27, 2012 (edited) Ironically, the biggest rejection of my life (boyfriend of 5 years who left me at the end of that time for another girl) is one of my best friends now. Yet, I have been bitter and unwilling to be friends with a few guys I was with only a month or two. I'm also pretty inconsistent and sometimes have delayed reactions. In the past two years, I've had a bunch of short-lived situations, and I've stayed friendly with a couple and not friendly with a couple. There are two that I kept on my Facebook for a good long time afterwards and even saw myself as being "cool" with them. Then suddenly they annoyed me and I unfriended them (in one case, a year later, in the other, six months later). And it wasn't because I still wanted either of them, because in both cases I already liked and wanted someone new at the time I unfriended them. They just got on my nerves (like I said, delayed reaction). I react to rejection on a case by case basis, I think. And while I would always for the most part keep my dignity (I'd never give some guy the satisfaction of crying, pleading, begging, or calling him names in bitterness, etc.), I have no problem with just subtly saying F you (without saying it). I think that, for a while there, I had this stance that I would be the cool person who handles rejections and break-ups maturely and can still be friends. And in some cases, that works for me. I am still friendly with some. Others...if I'm annoyed or think they did me wrong (whether it was on purpose on their part or not), I feel like I should just be completely honest with myself that I can't stand their sorry a$$es for what they did. Why pretend? My most recent involvement, I won't talk to him or have contact of any kind. But that's not entirely out of anger. He was good to me while I was with him and he did a lot of things right with me. It's just that it didn't work out, and I still ended up getting hurt. And I just don't want to have contact with him because I want to heal. Edited January 27, 2012 by Jane2011
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