nitram100 Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 right, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 2 years, im 20 now, shes 19 next month. We were each others first so its special. On saturday we had an argument about her owing my brother money and forcing me into the middle of their fued, i had to keep asking her for it at my brothers request, and she gets angry everytime i ask, only about 3 times in 3 weeks that ive asked. So on saturday during the argument she said sumthin like "u dont give me anything but ****, your gonna lose me for good if u carry on like this". Im just bewildered cause i have done nothing wrong. The thing is her answer to every argument we have is a break or a breakup so on saturday when she said this, i said to her that i wasnt bothered what she did. I have not spoke to her since saturday, but got a txt from her this morning saying that she will be over on friday to give my brother some of his money and to pick up her stuff, which i already packed. I really do not want us to break up, and im 100% sure that she doesnt either, shes just so stubborn and fids it hard to say stuff like "im sorry, i didnt mean it" or "i dont want this to happen, do you?" shes so stubborn. So i dont know wether or not to just move on, make the first move in say im sorry, to this i know she will start saying stuff like " you shouldnt take me for granted" and it will be impossible for her feelings to give in say sorry too, she just cant do it. Or final choice, wait for a few weeks and let her make the choice herself.... ARRGGHHH Thanks Martin
Velveteel Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Swallow your pride and apologize first, even though you are probably in the right on this one. Maybe she was just embarrassed about not having the money, or not remembering to pay it back, and that it felt like nagging when you mentioned it again. She probably doesn't want to break up, but might still feel angry and volatile. Let her be angry, but tell her you're sorry if you bugged her too much about the money. Listen calmly to whatever she says in response, and if she still wants to break-up or punish her, tell her you're very sad about it, but you wish her the best. Maybe she'll be grown-up enough to accept your apology and realize that she's overreacting. And maybe not. But this way, you are taking action, rather than passively letting your relationship end over a trivial fight.
Author nitram100 Posted June 3, 2004 Author Posted June 3, 2004 thanks for the reply, i took ya advice, swalloed my pride and just apologised, even bought her a present! she loved every minute of it and eventually just started to hug me and say that she will sort the money out as soon as. i guess sometimes u've just gotta admit your wrong even if you aint! Goin cinema today with her and taking my 3 nephews so that shud be cool. Thanks for the reply mate Martin
DerangedAngel Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 Glad it worked out, Martin. I've had to apologize, and claim I was in the wrong, even when I wasn't. When it's over silly things, it's a lot easier to get back to happy times as soon as you can than to wait for stubborn folks to come around. Good luck to you. -Deranged
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