jobaba Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 It's nice to find somebody who cares about you. Somebody who thinks about you. Somebody who thinks about doing things for you. When you find this person, you might not care about how attractive they are, what race they are, how much money they make, where they've traveled, or where they live. You'll just think about how much they make you smile. You might have to broaden your 'standards' a bit to find this person and it might not 'last', but the life experience that person could give you might make it worth it in the end. -Jobaba
Cracker Jack Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 (edited) Nice topic. I agree. That's basically what I want to do right now. In fact, the last woman I had a connection with wasn't my cup of tea initially, but I grew to like her, and she went from being okay to very attractive in my eyes. I'm attracted to women from various races, body sizes, age, and many other things, so I don't think I'll have to worry about changing my approach in that area. All that's left for me to do is to actually find that woman. Edited January 23, 2012 by Cracker Jack
carhill Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 Sounds good. I'm looking forward to this Having had some really good and loving friends in my life, I can understand what it feels like. Because of my history, I'm still often 'surprised' (in a good way) when a friend goes out of their way to do something which exemplifies their 'care', no matter how simple and unpretentious. My 'standards' have always been pretty broad, exemplified by the variety of relationships I've had. Drilling down to those rare gems has been and will continue to be the labor of love.
eleanorhurting Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 so maybe i should overlook the whole thing about my friend being unemployed trying to be an actor at 33 and has really different beliefs than me and focus on the fact that he cares for me and treats me well?
carhill Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 He sounds like a good, caring and loving friend. Perhaps he is incompatible for a long-term romantic relationship but his love and care can be a roadmap of what to look for in a compatible partner. I've had some female friends like that. IMO, they've been great models in the love and care department. All have been married or LTR. Not surprising. Men and women have differing preferences (and dealbreakers) for such intimates. I think that's healthy. Be true to yourself.
ja123 Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 It's nice to find somebody who cares about you. Somebody who thinks about you. Somebody who thinks about doing things for you. When you find this person, you might not care about how attractive they are, what race they are, how much money they make, where they've traveled, or where they live. You'll just think about how much they make you smile. You might have to broaden your 'standards' a bit to find this person and it might not 'last', but the life experience that person could give you might make it worth it in the end. -Jobaba This is beautiful! And so well said! I met someone recently and although he's quite a bit younger and a bit shorter than I am (I usually go for older and taller), I'm going to give him a chance .... because, yes, he does make me SMILE!!!!! Thanks for writing that, I bet it'll make a lot of people think.
maysj18 Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 this was a great read considering the situation I am now. really going to work on looking more for substance and character rather than attractiveness, because as someone mentioned earlier, that can develop later.
Author jobaba Posted January 23, 2012 Author Posted January 23, 2012 This is beautiful! And so well said! I met someone recently and although he's quite a bit younger and a bit shorter than I am (I usually go for older and taller), I'm going to give him a chance .... because, yes, he does make me SMILE!!!!! Thanks for writing that, I bet it'll make a lot of people think. Thanks. Based on a true story...
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