sleepykitten Posted February 2, 2012 Posted February 2, 2012 I wish this thread had cropped up a few months back. I dated a mummys boy too, although it took me while to figure it out as i dont have a good relationship with my mum i thought this was just a normal mum/son thing. He was 37 and lived at home, said it was for finanacial reasons since he split up with his ex 8 mths ago, although he stayed there the 2 yrs we were together and is still there despite earning a huge salary and having substantial savings. Mum does all his washing ironing, strips his bed (even if we had had sex in it!!!!) washes irons and re makes it. There was always lots of kissing and hugging and mutual appriciation ie "your boyfriend is so perfect youre so lucky" There was a holding hands down the street incident too which i found odd. He knew alot of details about her menapause and other stuff, was very defensive about their relationship not that i ever said he was a mummys boy, although i did refer to him as a man child! I totally agree with the above post in that mummys boys wont be able to step up to the plate and do their part in a healthy way. When ever we had any issues and needed to talk he totally clammed up and even looked like a 7 yr old with a pouty stubborn face on, but he really physically coulnt express himself and its actually pretty sad now i think about it.
CopingGal Posted February 5, 2012 Posted February 5, 2012 I dated a momma's boy once. Terrible terrible. He was 28 and lived in the same town as his parents. He would go to their house for dinner most nights during the week. He would tell his mom something expensive that he wanted and she would go buy it for him. He even had her buy him a car because he really wanted a BMW but couldn't afford it on his own. Then when he blew the tranny on it from shifting it wrong while driving drunk he had her pay the repair bill. He would post stuff on his facebook about how much he loved her and she would comment on it and stuff. It was all very weird. His mom was the first person he called to talk to whenever he would have some kind of crisis. Just strange for a 28 year old. Oh and one time (while his car was still in the shop from the drunk incident) he was supposed to do something with me. He didn't have a car and I didn't have time to go to his place and pick him up before I had to be where I had to be. So he called his mom and CRIED until she let him borrow her car so he could come see me. He thought he was the master because of that. It was all very sad Oh my goodness. That's strange!
wezol Posted February 6, 2012 Posted February 6, 2012 (edited) There are two types of momma's boy's. I can't relate to any of the examples here, but I am a momma's boy, and even call her momma from time to time. I love and respect my mother very much, and would drop what I'm doing anytime anywhere if she needed me too. She knows this, but has never ever taken advantage of it, now that I think about it...I've never had to. I call her once or twice every few weeks, usually see her once a month or so. At the same time, I was out of the house at 18, and am very self reliant. I thank my parents for holding me accountable, along with many other experiences in my short life, as I'm only 25. There are times where I go to her for advice on some things, as she's been through a lot. For one, these guys give genuine, non-relationship ruining, momma's boys a bad rep, and they act this way because their moms encourage it. I have a friend, who's a firefighter, engaged, one year older than me, and STILL lives at home. His fiancee still lives at home as well....so I guess they are made for each other? I've known some guys like this, and like the ones in the stories above, but never considered them momma's boys, because I consider myself one and am nothing like that. I always just wrote them off as immature, scared of life, inexperienced, and...sad. Don't lump us all together haha. Edited February 6, 2012 by wezol
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