irc333 Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 This is strange.....there was this woman I invited to join me to a BBQ bonfire back in Dec. We had a good time together at the event and such. After that, she dropped off the face of the earth after I followed up with her with a few emails. After her not responding, I moved on. I tend to "clean house" of my FB friends list with people that don't like to stay in touch with me, and I deleted her off my friends list. SHe's the the only one, I just start cleaning people out that I feel no longer to stay in touch with. With her, it was just her being completely non-responsive. Then.....this month, probably a month later without contact, she sends me such a random email out of the blue stating to the effect of thanking her for the reminder that there is no such thing as a guy wanting a genuine friendship with a woman and that if a woman doesn't flirt back with a man, that he just just wasting his time with her. She said she felt that to be very superficial and doesn't need that, she wants a true friendship of a man that does not expect things. And then wished me well.
jobaba Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 This is strange.....there was this woman I invited to join me to a BBQ bonfire back in Dec. We had a good time together at the event and such. After that, she dropped off the face of the earth after I followed up with her with a few emails. After her not responding, I moved on. I tend to "clean house" of my FB friends list with people that don't like to stay in touch with me, and I deleted her off my friends list. SHe's the the only one, I just start cleaning people out that I feel no longer to stay in touch with. With her, it was just her being completely non-responsive. Then.....this month, probably a month later without contact, she sends me such a random email out of the blue stating to the effect of thanking her for the reminder that there is no such thing as a guy wanting a genuine friendship with a woman and that if a woman doesn't flirt back with a man, that he just just wasting his time with her. She said she felt that to be very superficial and doesn't need that, she wants a true friendship of a man that does not expect things. And then wished me well. She overreacted you deleting her from facebook. Sometimes when I send texts or messages to women I'm interested in, I get the craziest most random thoughts in my head of what that person is actually thinking. Like if she doesn't respond for a day or so, I'll THINK, "Man. So you think I'm unattractive so you don't want to have anything to do with me? I'm a human being. I eat, sh@t and sleep like you. YOU THINK YOU'RE BETTER THAN ME!?!" Of course, I never ACT on these thoughts. She apparently decided to...:lmao:
Dust Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 You strike me as a genuine guy. A real straight shooter. Bch needs to stop taking facebook friendships so seriously!
Star Gazer Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 It seems like she interpreted your action in deleting her as a passive-aggressive response to her rejection of your romantic attention. I have to agree with her that a guy who saw her as a real friend wouldn't have deleted her for failing to respond. In deleting her, you made it obvious you were upset.
Dust Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 It seems like she interpreted your action in deleting her as a passive-aggressive response to her rejection of your romantic attention. I have to agree with her that a guy who saw her as a real friend wouldn't have deleted her for failing to respond. In deleting her, you made it obvious you were upset. He shouldn't feel guilty for wanting more then friendship. He also shouldn't feel guilty for deleting a woman who was ignoring him. If she wanted friendship she should have set him straight instead of ignoring him. Most women who ignore a man would be happy if he disapeared.
Author irc333 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Posted January 22, 2012 He shouldn't feel guilty for wanting more then friendship. He also shouldn't feel guilty for deleting a woman who was ignoring him. If she wanted friendship she should have set him straight instead of ignoring him. Most women who ignore a man would be happy if he disapeared. Exactly, apparently this was troublesome for her, and a pattern, she said "thanks for the reminder that a man can't be friends with a woman without it turning into something romantic". Yeah, it's called being a gay guy. LOL She apparently picked up on this "Vibe" when I unfriended her....lol and decided to make ME aware of it in a passive-aggressive manner. Yes, I did have a romantic interest in her, I admit to it, I was very attracted tobe honest, we got along great when it came to joking around and stuff,b ut.....when it came to the romance....fogetta about it!
xpaperxcutx Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 Exactly, apparently this was troublesome for her, and a pattern, she said "thanks for the reminder that a man can't be friends with a woman without it turning into something romantic". Yeah, it's called being a gay guy. LOL She apparently picked up on this "Vibe" when I unfriended her....lol and decided to make ME aware of it in a passive-aggressive manner. Yes, I did have a romantic interest in her, I admit to it, I was very attracted tobe honest, we got along great when it came to joking around and stuff,b ut.....when it came to the romance....fogetta about it! When a guy shows interest, we know. When we offer u friendship its because we backburned you. This girl's overreaction of you deleting is a sign of the attention whore- "Im going to ignore you in real lifebut you better still be my friend online!!".
Author irc333 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Posted January 22, 2012 This girl's overreaction of you deleting is a sign of the attention whore- Funny you mention this, A LOT Of her FB photos are pretty much centered around her. There are alot of posed photos of herself, seems everytime she puts ona new outfit or gets a new dress, she feels the need to post the pic online. I bet she has more pictures of herSELF than pictures of her with friends. She took a trip to the Mediterraneian and posted pics of herself in a bikni, posing in front of the scenery. I "liked" a few of those photos, and said, "I'm enjoying the scenery" Ands he emails me and says, "Thank you for the compliment, but I'm more than just a pretty face" Seriously, git over yourself, hon
aj22one Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 It seems like she interpreted your action in deleting her as a passive-aggressive response to her rejection of your romantic attention. I have to agree with her that a guy who saw her as a real friend wouldn't have deleted her for failing to respond. In deleting her, you made it obvious you were upset. Haha, so he's supposed to be a "real friend" with someone who doesn't even reply to emails for several weeks? This girl just needs to lighten up and get over herself. No one is entitled friendship with people they don't even try to be friends with. She's what's called an "attention whore".
grkBoy Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I love it. You rejected the friendzone and she wants to have a hissy fit about it...trying to make you believe you're "immature" because you're being a man. Take note guys. This is why you reject the friendzone when you really want to date the girl. Or even when it shows she doesn't want you as a friend even...except when she needs a last-resort date to her friend's wedding, her couch moved, or a shoulder to cry on when some douche hurts her. I still remember one woman who would give guys hell like this...but yet she also doens't get along with other women. So she'll lament on how she has few to no friends. I told her, like I tell many women, that guys don't approach women and such in the hopes of being friends. They won't accept the table scraps when they want to be sitting at the table. Nor do men want to be the "convenient guy" when she needs one for non-intimate reasons. I applaud you irc...and hope more men keep doing this. Put the ultimatum on. Either date the guy, or you don't get him in your life.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 The OP did everything right here. If he wants something more then friendship and she doesn't, then they are incompatible. There's no point in wasting more time.
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