quietGuy13 Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 When you fake going somewhere....and fake an excuse to be there but you're just doing it cause you want to meet the girl. For example , like me, i fake going to bus and i go to bus stops..But they hate it so then,, what? And these are not just my technique i made up, they even teach things like this in Dating books and Pickup artist things. And also in How to make friends books. So it's not just my idea. All the relationship experts say this is how to meet women. But from what i've experienced, women don't like to be talked by strangers..and it's kinda obvious that when you talk to them it's because you like them. So they dont like it. they think it's creepy So i just dont know how
Dust Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 When you fake going somewhere....and fake an excuse to be there but you're just doing it cause you want to meet the girl. For example , like me, i fake going to bus and i go to bus stops..But they hate it so then,, what? And these are not just my technique i made up, they even teach things like this in Dating books and Pickup artist things. And also in How to make friends books. So it's not just my idea. All the relationship experts say this is how to meet women. But from what i've experienced, women don't like to be talked by strangers..and it's kinda obvious that when you talk to them it's because you like them. So they dont like it. they think it's creepy So i just dont know how well you don't need to fake going to the bus stop... I mean why can't you actually go to the bus stop... hit on girls... and then take the bus some where. Then do something like enjoy a museum... and hit on more girls? Yes women get creeped out. You have to creep women out some times before you find one thats not creeped out.
Author quietGuy13 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Posted January 22, 2012 well you don't need to fake going to the bus stop... I mean why can't you actually go to the bus stop... hit on girls... and then take the bus some where. Then do something like enjoy a museum... and hit on more girls? Yes women get creeped out. You have to creep women out some times before you find one thats not creeped out. So you're saying I shouldn't care if i scare them and ruin their day?
anne1707 Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 When you go to the bus stop, do you actually intend to catch a specific bus to somewhere (fine, not creepy) or are you just hanging waiting for attractive women to come to the stop (very, very creepy).
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 lol, I have never heard of doing these things to pick up women. The situation is you don't want to "look" like you're trying to hit on women or like you're there to hang out and stalk your prey. I think you should find an interest or hobby and become accustomed to first socializing and interacting with people before you start making girls nervous at a bus stop that they frequent in order to travel somewhere. I'd highly recommend not doing that regardless of what some book says, maybe If you're actually on your way somewhere and you strike up a conversation that's fine but you just want to talk, not hit on someone like outright...people will be creeped out by you regardless. Plus, you're no pick-up artist. Here's the bottom line though because I know you'll get stuck on those books and what those experts say. You need to be able to first talk to people and socialize before you start talking to random people you don't know. If you can't socialize comfortably or interact with people you know how are you going to possibly interest someone that, to them, you're just a creepy stranger? You need to be comfortable in your own skin and learn social queues, so that you don't come off as a weirdo. Talk to yourself in a mirror or practice with a therapist or something, but you've got to definitely get rid of the creep factor.
Author quietGuy13 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Posted January 22, 2012 When you go to the bus stop, do you actually intend to catch a specific bus to somewhere (fine, not creepy) or are you just hanging waiting for attractive women to come to the stop (very, very creepy). I dont use the bus anymore(just sometimes) I have a car. But i just go if i see a woman sitting there , if she looks like she's friendly. The problem is i'm there sitting and i dont really know what to fake. If i say "Do you have the time?" that doesn't work cause i already have a cellphone and she'll notice. then she'll say "why is he asking me if he has a cellphone". Anyways, you guys think Bus stops are not good but like i said Dating books say to talk to people anywhere. "You need to be able to first talk to people and socialize before you start talking to random people you don't know." I'm not gonna magicaly have great social skills just like that, it would take me years. So you're saying i have to wait years to talk to random people? I have bad social skills, but what if i want to try. The last time i tried in the bus stop that's how i got my best friend and we went out etc for months, and she's still my best friend although now she moved but we still keep in touch. And i didn't have great social skills. She was 1 in a miillion.. most girls don't want to talk to strangers but i'm sure there are more that would like. Another time i made another friend off the bus stop. But anyways yea, so i'm saying the bus stop etc is not goood because most women dont' like to talk to stranger guys. So then what? how do you meet women and where? You guys just tell me "You need to be comfortable in your own skin and learn social queues, so that you don't come off as a weirdo" Ok but so where do i meet girls and how do I make friends with them. Since you think bus stops are not good . then where? "I think you should find an interest or hobby and become accustomed to first socializing and interacting with people" How is that gonna make me meet the women i like?. I'm just gonna meet nerdy girls who are probably not my type and not feminine. Why can all other guys get their pick and I dont have a right to get girls i like?
phineas Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 go to a bar or club or some where that women go to socialize. The bus-stop thing is creepy.
ditzchic Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I'm not gonna magicaly have great social skills just like that, it would take me years. So you're saying i have to wait years to talk to random people? No, you're not going to wake up one day and all of a sudden be a smooth Don Juan. It will take some time. But one of the biggest things I learned in life to date has been that putting something off because it's seems like too long and hard of a process isn't going to fix the problem. It's better to start the process as soon as you know you have to instead of wasting time looking for a quicker and easier way. The quicker and easier way never exists. And all the time spent looking for it is better spent just doing the hard work. So yeah it might take a few years for you to perfect your skills. Would you rather that be a few years from now or a few years from a few years after you realize there is no quick fix?
Dust Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 So you're saying I shouldn't care if i scare them and ruin their day? If you ruin some ones day by flirting with them and asking them out thats their problem not yours. Just be kind in your dealings with them and don't worry about their reaction. You can't control their reaction so stop worrying about it.
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