annaowen Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 Does anyone believe in coincidences? Here's why I ask... Long story summary...girl likes guy, guy likes girl. Girl misinterprets guy's intentions, girl pulls away. Guy loses interest. Girl does something to regain guy's interest, only to pull away and lose guy's interest. Guy moves on, without telling girl. Girl remains friendly with guy, things start to improve in relationship and things might work out for them except guy does something out of character and girl pulls away again. Guy has enough, moves on. Because he deceived girl (by not telling her he had a girlfriend - understandable, she kept pulling away) and his anger over the way their relationship (yet again) didn't get off the ground - he doesn't want to deal with girl at all. Girl has no clue, only knows something is up. Miscommunication ensues. Anyway, fast-forward to the miscommunication that comes to a head - guy asks for space. Not knowing he is in committed relationship with someone else, or believing he was ever interested in her (it was really only in the beginning stages of interest she pulled away because of insecurity and fear) and he stopped pursuing - she pursued him, so it was a little understandable. Girl finally understands what happened during fight that prompted guy to ask for space - the fight covered a lot of issues, primarily guy's frustration over girl's mixed signals. Girl, however, also thought they were friends - not true in guy's case. One thing that happened in fight was girl wrongly assumed guy pulled away because of shame his business wasn't doing well. It was a startup about two years in, and guy admitted things weren't as great as he wanted them to be. It was none of girl's business either way, and she felt bad for saying anything and tried to apologize. After girl finally unraveled the truth about the whole time these two were interested in each other (about 3 years) she sent him two apologies - one a little off the mark in terms of what happened but pretty close and the second about two months later a little vaguer but acknowledging that although she wasn't positive she was pretty certain what had happened between them and was sorry for how poorly she treated him and misjudged him. Nothing was replied to, nor expected to be replied to. However, within 24 hours of each of these communications, the guy did something to promote/get the name out for himself and his business online (on Facebook, Twitter, general business listing, business web page) that he could have done anytime over the past two years but chose to do on those particular dates when girl contacted him. I know it may have nothing to do with girl's attempt to contact guy, but is it really possible those things happening within 24 hours (one within 5 minutes of contact) are a coincidence? Or is it possible the contact had a direct effect on the guy's promotions ? In some ways I think it's impossible because he is with someone else, so why would something girl said in anger matter to him months later, and the success/failure of his business hasn't been mentioned since? Although girl contacted him, guy can't be certain girl is aware or interested in anything he is doing online or in regards to his business so it isn't for her attention - he asked for no attention, right? It's also possible guy is looking to promote business to strengthen prior to making more serious commitment to new girlfriend, however, they could have been done at anytime - and yet they are done with 24 hours of contact with girl who used to like him? Now, they were done around holiday season (so this is also a possibility) - however, one was done around holiday the other was further from holiday. Is this reading too much into something?
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