annabanana85 Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 I have been dating this guy for almost a month now. He is a trucker, so he is out of town during the week and only in town during the weekends. Last year we had the "Where is this relationship going talk?" and he said that he really wants to be with me. Yet he says that he is afraid to commit partly because of his job which requires him to be out of town (he wants to do it for another year), and the fact that he got out of an 8-year relationship. The thing is he calls me every night and we talk for 2 hours. He is very attentive and caring. Yet he is distant. When I talk to him, I feel like I'm talking to a friend and I do not feel the romance, passion or commitment. He does not make plans. I do not think that we are in a committed relationship or even a relationship at this point. We only see eachother on Saturdays. I have a hard time gauging his intentions as he says that he wants to be with me, yet the relationship feels like its not going anywhere. What is wrong with this relationship? What does he want? How should I go approach it?
veggirl Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 Do you want a relationship with someone you will only see once a week for a year? That would be a dealbreaker for me, personally. Maybe not for you. He is talking to you because you are there and he is lonely on the road. I wouldn't put much stock into a trucker calling from the road and chatting. What do you want from him? Didn't you just get out of a "relationship" with that club guy? Do you just want SOMEONE?
Star Gazer Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 He's only in town on the weekends, so even if he wanted to see you more often, he can't. He's telling you exactly what he's literally capable of: a relationship with you where you see each other only on the weekends. Is that something you can live with? Seeing him once a week, if at all? (Because there will be weekends, I'm sure, where he or you are unavailable for other reasons.) It sounds like the decision about whether this goes anywhere isn't so much up to him as up to you.
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