irc333 Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 .....is due to an Ex of some kind. I was talking to this woman, and she was doing a hiking event with our group. I got to talking to her, she's new to the area and was finding new people to hang out with. She was talking about how she spent a good amount of money on a matchmaking service, and how it didn't pan out and online dating in her area didn't pan out either. I'd asked her if she'd ever do online dating again, and she said she would not....she just moved to this area and had just gotten out of a relationship, and thus was her reason for moving here. Every conversation I had with every single woman, so far....when you ask them, "Oh, you're new in town....so where you're from, and what brought you here?" The 2nd question might prove to be an awkward answer, because the MAIN reason I'm finding is they're reason for moving was: 1. To get away from an ex 2. Moved here with her "then" boyfriend, and then broke up. You could say for job reasons, but funny....lately, I'm not finding that to be the case. Anyone been through such a conversation with a new person?
ditzchic Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 Well usually after a break up I start re-evaluating my life. Your often find you're a changed person once you start unpacking the baggage. I think most people want to try a different path once they realize that. I can see how moving would come along with that. Please tell me I'm not the only one that does this; but whenever I look back at an ex (facebook stalking or whatever) and see that their life really hasn't changed a lick since our split, I always giggle a little. I feel a little bad for them actually. If/when they look back at me they see a person that is constantly evolving. I wonder how that makes them feel sometimes...
veggirl Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 Moving because of a break up seems very strange, unless you had absolutely no life at the previous location OTHER THAN the ex. Otherwise you're presumably leaving a job, family/friends, etc just cause of a break up? I'd be leery of someone who did that just cause of a break up. Never met someone who has left town cause of a break up.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 I have only moved once due to a breakup. I had moved to his town so we could be together and I didn't like living there. If the relationship had been peachy and we had been able to travel a bit, I wouldn't have minded the location. Once we broke up, I moved to a place where I wanted to be, which is where I am now.
FitChick Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 I haven't moved that often but mostly it was for job reasons or because I wanted a very different environment. Nothing to do with men.
TheFinalWord Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I agree I would be leery of anyone who did that. The only situation would be possibly a messy divorce and you want to start fresh. But, you can't run away from your problems! You also can't run away from yourself. You can re-invent yourself, but that comes through reflection and a desire to change from within.
grkBoy Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I've noticed people, especially women, move away due to an ex when said ex becomes crazy/psycho stalker. When he/she makes her life so miserable that she/he has no other recourse but to leave. For many others, I think the ex was more a catalyst, but they have a multitude of reasons to move. Maybe they want warmer climate, a fresh start, etc. Yeah, life with the ex in the same town was horrible...but so were many other things, and now they simply worked up enough reasons to pack up and go. I've also seen some move away when they and their ex had the same social circle...and now that circle chooses the ex over him/her. Now with few to no one left (especially if he/she wronged the ex to begin with), they move away to start over.
Star Gazer Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I have only moved once for a reason that had anything to do with a boyfriend/ex. My college boyfriend and I moved from our home/college-town in NorCal to LA together so that I could attend law school. I would have moved to LA whether or not he came with me. But when we broke up, I felt I really had no reason to stay in LA anymore (at the time, anyway), so at that point, I moved back to my hometown. But, I didn't move to LA because of him, nor did I move back to NorCal because of him. I moved back to NorCal because I really had no reason to stay in LA - other than him.
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