I told this girl I met online that I was unemployed---"biggest mistake ever"-lol

January 21, 2012

Love you to death, K. But I'm in PA too so I know the Philly job market because I've been dabbling in it. Yes, there are listings. There are also a TON of applicants. I'm not sure what field OP is in and how competitive it is but Philly is one of the only cities on the eastern side of the state that is doing OK. Half the state is applying for the jobs in the Philly area. Just because there is availability doesn't make it easy...

Right, and it doesn't mean that all those posting are FAKE either. I mean, c'mon.

January 21, 2012

She has "NO MAN"? So what? What are you suggesting by pointing out her single status like that? Aren't you insulting yourself too, because you have NO WOMAN. Again, get real.

Seriously OP. You have no master degree, no condo, not even a job AND no woman. What exactly are you attempting to do by pointing out the woman's singleness?

It becomes increasingly more obvious with every post why you are single. You have some serious anger and entitlement issues. Not everyone has to accept and play by your rules. Sure they are you rules and you want someone that does. So go find that person and stop flipping shizz on the people that don't fi your mold of how you think they should think and act.

January 21, 2012

At first I was calm and said in a joking tone..."how can i not be serious about finding a job if i live alone and have to pay rent??

then her dumb a$$ reply was......."You still get unemployment"

I said....."Unemployment is not sh*T and I don't want to be on it for long"

And then from there I was like......"Why am I letting a stranger drill me about my job situation? And that;s when we started arguing

If this is the way you speak with people in general, I can see why you're having a hard time both professionally and romantically.

January 21, 2012

Seriously OP. You have no master degree, no condo, not even a job AND no woman. What exactly are you attempting to do by pointing out the woman's singleness?

It becomes increasingly more obvious with every post why you are single. You have some serious anger and entitlement issues. Not everyone has to accept and play by your rules. Sure they are you rules and you want someone that does. So go find that person and stop flipping shizz on the people that don't fi your mold of how you think they should think and act.

Ding, ding, ding.

January 21, 2012

Love you to death, K. But I'm in PA too so I know the Philly job market because I've been dabbling in it. Yes, there are listings. There are also a TON of applicants. I'm not sure what field OP is in and how competitive it is but Philly is one of the only cities on the eastern side of the state that is doing OK. Half the state is applying for the jobs in the Philly area. Just because there is availability doesn't make it easy...

There are not plenty of jobs. I can tell that by looking at all the jobs I applied to in 2009 versus now. I'm seeking a job as a career advisor or job readiness trainer. That is the type of work I have been in for 12 years.

In 2009 I averaged 4 interviews a month, in 2012 I have not seen a job to apply to GET a interview.

this is called "FRICTIONAL UNEMPLOYMENT"

January 21, 2012

Seriously OP. You have no master degree, no condo, not even a job AND no woman. What exactly are you attempting to do by pointing out the woman's singleness?

It becomes increasingly more obvious with every post why you are single. You have some serious anger and entitlement issues. Not everyone has to accept and play by your rules. Sure they are you rules and you want someone that does. So go find that person and stop flipping shizz on the people that don't fi your mold of how you think they should think and act.

Well she felt the need to mention she lives in a condo and I was a little turned off because she came off as a bragger. What good is it to live in a nice condo if she is not getting any d*ck?

January 21, 2012

A career advisor (your profession? really? that's surprising...) would tell you that most employers are more interested in folks who are currently employed, even if it's not within their chosen field, even if it's at McDonald's, because it shows a strong work ethic and commitment to work. Most employers would rather employ that person, than someone who sits on unemployment until the right job in their chosen field comes along.

January 21, 2012

There's always something to do. Diversification is smart business. Diversify your strengths.

When it comes down to brass tacks, you're the only one living your life. The young lady who would 'drill you' has her own life and path. If her 'drill' annoys you, leave her to walk her path of drilling. It works for her. You do what works for you.

January 21, 2012

Well she felt the need to mention she lives in a condo and I was a little turned off because she came off as a bragger. What good is it to live in a nice condo if she is not getting any d*ck?

"She felt the need to mention..." You mean, she was sharing information about herself to someone she was interested in dating? Like, engaging in a get-to-know-you? HOW DARE SHE!

And I can tell you it's verrrrry good living in a nice home, d*ck or no d*ck. Getting d*ck (who talks like that?!?!!) is not the be-all-end-all for a successful woman.

January 21, 2012

There are not plenty of jobs. I can tell that by looking at all the jobs I applied to in 2009 versus now. I'm seeking a job as a career advisor or job readiness trainer. That is the type of work I have been in for 12 years.

In 2009 I averaged 4 interviews a month, in 2012 I have not seen a job to apply to GET a interview.

this is called "FRICTIONAL UNEMPLOYMENT"

Again, not sure of your field and how competitive it is but you might want to look at the Harrisburg market as well. I've noticed an uptick there in the job market. At least in the marketing/it field.

January 21, 2012

Explain to me why companies would waste their time posting fake jobs.

Often the fake postings aren't from legit companies. They're from identity thieves or ad/sales people fishing for the information you put on your resume (or sometimes asking you to provide more information, like your Social).

I've heard of people going to an interview for what seemed like a legit job only to end up the target of a sales pitch for career services or some other BS that they'd have to shell out thousands of dollars for. Even though I disabled my accounts on careerbuilder, monster, etc., I STILL get tons of spam for "work from home and make lots of money!" and pyramid scheme/sales/"investment" scams. I've gotten the same exact email at least 30 times from different people.

These fake postings are everywhere. Obviously if you're looking for attorney jobs, you're not going to run into a sales scam or work-from-home BS, but for people looking for more general types of jobs (like admin assistant, analyst, etc.), every other online posting is likely to be a scam.

January 21, 2012

Often the fake postings aren't from legit companies. They're from identity thieves or ad/sales people fishing for the information you put on your resume (or sometimes asking you to provide more information, like your Social).

I've heard of people going to an interview for what seemed like a legit job only to end up the target of a sales pitch for career services or some other BS that they'd have to shell out thousands of dollars for. Even though I disabled my accounts on careerbuilder, monster, etc., I STILL get tons of spam for "work from home and make lots of money!" and pyramid scheme/sales/"investment" scams. I've gotten the same exact email at least 30 times from different people.

These fake postings are everywhere. Obviously if you're looking for attorney jobs, you're not going to run into a sales scam or work-from-home BS, but for people looking for more general types of jobs (like admin assistant, analyst, etc.), every other online posting is likely to be a scam.

Fair enough.

But fake ads or real ads, his response to her was ridiculous, and his responses in this thread belie the real cause of his troubles in the dating world.

January 21, 2012

I'm wondering WHY did you break down to this girl your strategies for finding a job. It's none of her business.

Anyway, by volunteering so much info, you opened yourself up to her criticizing you like that.

January 21, 2012

A career advisor (your profession? really? that's surprising...) would tell you that most employers are more interested in folks who are currently employed, even if it's not within their chosen field, even if it's at McDonald's, because it shows a strong work ethic and commitment to work. Most employers would rather employ that person, than someone who sits on unemployment until the right job in their chosen field comes along.

No I'm not just sitting at home if you read my first post. Networking and Researching is what i do all day from 11am to 8pm. I also got a call for a interview but it was a job I didnt want. I just sent the resume because I created a new one and wanted to see if it would get a response. It did and now i can use that resume for applying to jobs that i WANT

January 21, 2012

A career advisor (your profession? really? that's surprising...) would tell you that most employers are more interested in folks who are currently employed, even if it's not within their chosen field, even if it's at McDonald's, because it shows a strong work ethic and commitment to work. Most employers would rather employ that person, than someone who sits on unemployment until the right job in their chosen field comes along.

What you are saying is correct if i was unemployed for 8 months. I only been home a month. That's another reason why I was confused as to why this girl was drilling me with questions especially after i told her my company closed down. It wasn't like I was laid off or fired

January 21, 2012

No I'm not just sitting at home if you read my first post. Networking and Researching is what i do all day from 11am to 8pm. I also got a call for a interview but it was a job I didnt want. I just sent the resume because I created a new one and wanted to see if it would get a response. It did and now i can use that resume for applying to jobs that i WANT

What you are saying is correct if i was unemployed for 8 months. I only been home a month. That's another reason why I was confused as to why this girl was drilling me with questions especially after i told her my company closed down. It wasn't like I was laid off or fired

Really irrelevant to how you responded to her when she asked you her questions.

January 21, 2012

No I'm not just sitting at home if you read my first post. Networking and Researching is what i do all day from 11am to 8pm. I also got a call for a interview but it was a job I didnt want. I just sent the resume because I created a new one and wanted to see if it would get a response. It did and now i can use that resume for applying to jobs that i WANT

But surely a good career advisor would know that a one-size fits all resume is not going to work. You tailor it to the specific job you are applying for.

January 21, 2012

"She felt the need to mention..." You mean, she was sharing information about herself to someone she was interested in dating? Like, engaging in a get-to-know-you? HOW DARE SHE!

And I can tell you it's verrrrry good living in a nice home, d*ck or no d*ck. Getting d*ck (who talks like that?!?!!) is not the be-all-end-all for a successful woman.

So why if a man say he lives in a condo he is bragging? When a woman does it then it's called sharing things about yourself?????????

January 21, 2012

No I'm not just sitting at home if you read my first post. Networking and Researching is what i do all day from 11am to 8pm. I also got a call for a interview but it was a job I didnt want. I just sent the resume because I created a new one and wanted to see if it would get a response. It did and now i can use that resume for applying to jobs that i WANT

So you're working hard to get yourself employed again. Good for you, that's all others really need to know, and you don't need to explain yourself to women you're dating. The less you explain yourself, the better off you are.

Edited January 21, 2012 by Imajerk17

January 21, 2012

I'm wondering WHY did you break down to this girl your strategies for finding a job. It's none of her business.

Anyway, by volunteering so much info, you opened yourself up to her criticizing you like that.

You are right and I had no business doing that. All they need to know is that i;m unemployed, not when i have a interview, or what I do during the day

January 21, 2012

So why if a man say he lives in a condo he is bragging? When a woman does it then it's called sharing things about yourself?????????

Um, I was unaware that a man sharing things about himself, like the fact he lives in a condo, is bragging. It's not bragging to me, male or female.

Home ownership is something many people are proud of. They shouldn't be knocked for using it as one of their positive qualities.

(And in my area, a condo isn't really all that big a deal, really. I technically live in a condo, but it's rented, so I call it an apartment.)

January 21, 2012

Why curse her out? Oh yeah, forgot. You're from Philly.

It's all fair to find out these things when in the dating market. I really hated working in the corporate world where if you met someone in the flesh and even in your best suit and shoes, they'd blow you off unless you came introduced as possessing the right resume and pedigree. I hope years of erosion of the economy have changed some of these things. I mentioned this on another thread, I went to what was basically a "network marketing" meeting around the time where people still didn't all know that Amway was a big nothing and I spotted someone who appealed to me and tried to maneuver myself into a place where it wouldn't be so obvious I was making a move on her and as I opened my mouth to ask if she worked in the area and might consider lunch she responded with a discourteous "gimme a break". Was it that obvious I wasn't an executive VP? I know I wasn't ugly or out of shape or under-dressed. I later found out that yes, she was some senior VP for a bank or brokerage house. I still wonder what my "tell" was that I was "just" a consultant--I had the right hair and everything--nothing "Tony Provolone" and I got it cut off Wall St. in a classy quoff shop. I looked Manhattan. But something told her I was Brooklyn or Queens. Maybe it was just no introduction by "the right people". I didn't deserve "gimme a break" though. It hurt and I didn't know what to say. Cursing her out didn't occur though. That's never smart. I was the wrong person to have that said to him--I tried so hard to overcome my chilhood obesity-related self-esteem issues. I wish I had discovered Prozac by then. It wouldn't have caused me those "butterflies" I so hate.

January 21, 2012

But surely a good career advisor would know that a one-size fits all resume is not going to work. You tailor it to the specific job you are applying for.

That's what I'm doing, my resume is geared toward the position I want which is employment advisor/career counselor

January 21, 2012

Love you to death, K. But I'm in PA too so I know the Philly job market because I've been dabbling in it. Yes, there are listings. There are also a TON of applicants. I'm not sure what field OP is in and how competitive it is but Philly is one of the only cities on the eastern side of the state that is doing OK. Half the state is applying for the jobs in the Philly area. Just because there is availability doesn't make it easy...

oh trust me I know its competitive in a big city. I moved back to NYC after graduation for a few months and came up with nada in terms of even interviews. Once I moved back to the burbs I started getting callbacks. 8 million people live in NYC compared to the 500k that live in the three local counties in my burbs. So I get your point, but I was just calling out OPs bs when he said most postings are fake. I cant wait to move back to NYC though....I hope this market gets better really soon.

January 21, 2012

That's what I'm doing, my resume is geared toward the position I want which is employment advisor/career counselor

But you said you sent it in for a job you did not want - are you saying that was a career advisor post? If so, if being unemployed is such a probelm, why didin't you want the job???

Also - every employer will want something slightly different to the last one. You tailor your resume for that particular job at that particular employer. You show them that you want to work for them and that you are not just after any old job you can get at any company.

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