Mr Nice Guy Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 I have a situation that I'm not sure I know how to handle/ if I should be doing something about it and I'm not sure if I should be worried about it. I'm concerned that I've said something to upset my girlfriend to the point that she's not talking to me. I think my worry is unfounded and there are other factors such as her going on holiday with her family since Christmas, but I'm also unsure. While she's on holiday, we both willingly maintained consistent contact until the end of last week. After that, contact diminished. There are only two instances I can think of from the end of that week that might've upset her and cause the lack of contact. 1. We caught each other online on Saturday night and our conversation unintentionally went to being about us and our situation (we weren't official yet) when I used an analogy from a movie to illustrate how I was trying to get work and university stuff sorted out, saying I wanted guarantees so I could relax and be happy. She thought the comment was directed to her and when I asked how, she chose not to answer, saying we should talk about it when she came home. I asked for more information, getting a little worried that wanting to talk about it when she got back was negative and she was a little annoyed. I didn't say the analogy was about work or school until I was explaining what I meant later and we smoothed things over that night. I was also annoyed at a friend that night and it showed, but I explained it and she said it was okay. The next night we talked for about 10 minutes through Facebook Chat but she rushed off, saying she had dodgy internet because she kept disconnecting. Since then, messages through Facebook and replies from her to texts lessened until nothing a couple of days ago. 2. When I jokingly said I was jealous that she got to go to Universal Studios again on holiday. I was joking and made it clear that I was, since we had done the "jealous" thing before. I think my worries are unfounded and I might sound silly because she's on holiday, its the last week of her trip and she might want to make the most of it. But I can't shake the bad feeling from that Saturday and about jokingly being jealous and even though things have been smoothed over, I keep thinking that both situations combined upset her and cause her to stop talking to me, or possibly worse. We've always been supportive and understanding through the complications of our relationship and both our insecurities through last year. We both care about each other, trust each other and love each other very much. We both don't want to lose each other. I know she's on holiday, she's busy and I want her to enjoy it, but I'm just a little worried because it all came suddenly. I'm maybe thinking of letting it go and let her enjoy the rest of her holiday to see if its nothing and see if she'll see me when she gets back on Tuesday (note: its my birthday on the day she gets back and she has promised me that she wants to see me.) So am I worried and insecure about nothing, or have I done some damage without meaning to?
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