123321 Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 There are a ton of other studies out there, for instance one study had the subject couples rated for attractiveness individually first, then attempted to correlate various factors. Men who were rated attractive were not significantly more likely to be paired with attractive women, but men who were high prestige or high income were much more likely to be paired with attractive women.
123321 Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 I also find her incredibly unremarkable. Well she's a pretty good actress, I think.
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Well she's a pretty good actress, I think. That she is.
kaylan Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 There are a ton of other studies out there, for instance one study had the subject couples rated for attractiveness individually first, then attempted to correlate various factors. Men who were rated attractive were not significantly more likely to be paired with attractive women, but men who were high prestige or high income were much more likely to be paired with attractive women. There are plenty of studies that support what I have been saying as well. Like I said, as time moves forward and we learn more about sexuality, in an egalitarian society where women continue to get there own resources, we are finding they sexually behave in ways that are more similar to men.If you want to get into a studies war, be my guest to actually cite your points and we can have a fun little debate here.
stillafool Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 I have to agree about SJP. I watched an old re-run of the very first episode of SATC, and I was blown away by how unattractive her face was. She has a good body, but that's about it. I agree except she was cute back then. Now not very much at all.
FitChick Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 once the woman approaches middle age and she is still good looking, established career, still very sexual with plenty of energy, and her guy is retired, old, with failing health, lower libido and lower energy level, that attractiveness quotient is not going to be there. In a nutshell, that's the problem I have with older men and generally date up to ten years younger (though they don't know they are younger!). They are still middle-aged but in their prime. There have been one or two exceptions when the men were health oriented and intellectually gifted. There is the added fact of men dying about 8 years before women do. One man, 62, still had a living mother so longevity ran in the family and was less of a worry. Contrast that with another guy the same age who smoked and drank to excess, never exercised, wasn't really interested in anything and both parents died in their sixties.
KathyM Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 In a nutshell, that's the problem I have with older men and generally date up to ten years younger (though they don't know they are younger!). They are still middle-aged but in their prime. There have been one or two exceptions when the men were health oriented and intellectually gifted. There is the added fact of men dying about 8 years before women do. One man, 62, still had a living mother so longevity ran in the family and was less of a worry. Contrast that with another guy the same age who smoked and drank to excess, never exercised, wasn't really interested in anything and both parents died in their sixties. Yup, I can see why these young women are attracted to middle aged men who still have a lot going on for them, but those women don't think of the long term consequences of being in a different life stage than these men. When they are middle aged and still going strong while their guy is entering the end years of his life, those women will likely regret the age difference.
RecordProducer Posted January 25, 2012 Posted January 25, 2012 (edited) (3.5 years with a man who's 26 years older). Darling Man is still young and vital enough at 52, thanks. Actually, he's doing better than I am. You're 26 and he is 52? So, you were 21 and he was 47 when you started dating. Is he wealthy? Just asking, not saying you care about money. Obviously, you love him. Edited January 25, 2012 by RecordProducer
Author Sugarkane Posted January 26, 2012 Author Posted January 26, 2012 Another example is Aaron Johnson, 21 who just had a second child with Sam Taylor- Wood, 44. Really odd for a 21, most just want to party and sleep around. Yet I date someone who's 1 year older than me [i'm 24] and I get dumped coz he wanted to be single.
doushenka Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 You're 26 and he is 52? So, you were 21 and he was 47 when you started dating. Is he wealthy? Just asking, not saying you care about money. Obviously, you love him. I'm almost 26; he's almost 52. Our birthdays fall in the same three-week span, and it's coming up fast. Oops! But we've only been dating since I was 22. I wouldn't call him wealthy. Comfortable? Oh, quite. But I had no idea until we had our first nice weekend "away" and he managed to get us a suite with a second floor. Blown. Away. I just thought he was this brilliant, geeky Brit who loved the same obscure pop culture I did. I like that he can look after himself; I'm still working on the credentials necessary for my career path, at which point I expect to be able to look after myself as well. My parents' marriage has taught me how important that is. (I do as they don't...) It's hard to find the words to describe the kind of love we've known, he and I. I trust him more than any other human being. Coming from me, that's a Big Effing Deal. We choose each other every day. If I end up in hospital this spring (long story), he's going to do his best, what with his job and all, to make sure he's here for at least the first three days. He's not just my somewhat long-distance lover. He's my partner.
doushenka Posted January 26, 2012 Posted January 26, 2012 Yup, I can see why these young women are attracted to middle aged men who still have a lot going on for them, but those women don't think of the long term consequences of being in a different life stage than these men. When they are middle aged and still going strong while their guy is entering the end years of his life, those women will likely regret the age difference. Actually, that's never far from my mind. I'm aware that he could, for example, start showing signs of Parkinson's in the next ten years--his dad did. I know he will widow me when I'm still in my fifties or sixties. We'll still have a long, wonderful time together. I can accept that he'll have infirmities. Considering the number of infirmities of mine he helps me with, I'll be more than happy to repay the debt when he needs me. By the time I do lose him, men my age will finally have grown up enough to be worth a second glance, and they'll have gotten the whole raising-a-family bug out of their systems. I seem to be missing that bit of my wiring as well. I wouldn't mind winding up with grown stepchildren and being Oma, but I couldn't mother them from the start. Darling and I think alike that way. Love means remembering when it's over and being able to keep going. If I dropped dead tomorrow, he would grieve, but he would find someone else, and life would go on. Mortal beings must. Otherwise we'd get so bogged down in our losses that we'd die of broken hearts. (Which some people do. But I don't think that's a great idea.)
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