It still hurts...

[Newflor32]

I havent post on here for sometime now even though I continue to read pots. I hadnt seen my ex in over a year and last communicated with him last October. I saw him two days ago as i gave in a the final judgement of our divorce and some other stuff. It was akward for me at first, he was overly friendly and kept trying to touch me. He asked why i changed my number and avoid him. I gave short answer. He ask about all my physical changes, a new peircing. I was starting to feel ok like its not so bad to see or talk to him. Then it started again, the sexual advances. Just as in the past, all he talks about is sex. He asked what i was doin next day. I told him i was heading out of town and he said he would come see me. Well, i heard nothing from him the next which was disappointing. I guess deep down I just wanted to see some change, that he really still cared. He texted my sister a day later to say he couldnt make it and whether i was still in town. I responded and the sex talk started and he wanted to come over to have sex. I cried tonight which i havent done in a long time because im disappointed again even though shouldnt be. Its not like i want us to get back together, we are both with other people but deep down i want to see he still cared for me n he really doesnt and im in pain again. I know it wont take me long to bounce back from this setback. Im ready to say goodbye now. There is now joy in this anymore and we are officially divorced. I just needed to vent a little.

[Philosoraptor]

I'm very sorry you are still hurting. I'll be honest here, if you are still looking for any sort of validation from an ex you shouldn't be in any sort of serious relationship with anyone else as it is not fair to them. It doesn't sound like your ex should be in one either as he is bringing up sex with you while you are both seeing other people.

 

At this point you can see him for his true self. It matters not if he feels any remorse or anything else; what matters is taking the time to heal.