NCAngler Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 Ok. Here's the scoop. Last Saturday, I asked a coworker out. We've known each other for several months. She's 21 and I'm 19, but I feel like we've connected and have a lot in common. As we were walking out to the parking lot, I stopped her and said these exact words "Listen, we should go out sometime." Her facial expression scared me at first, as she was like a deer in the headlights. I think I caught her off guard. Big time. She smiled and said "maybe". I was confused, as a lot of guys would be. I texted her that evening and she explained that she never goes out with anyone younger than her, but she said I seem like a really good guy so she would be fine with going out sometime. That sometime was tonight. We had a great time. We were talking and laughing. When the night was over, I walked her to her door. My exact words were "I had a great time! We're going to have to do this again sometime." Her words were "maybe" with a slight grin. I hugged her and she thanked me for everything and we went our separate ways. It all happened in about 20 seconds. Is "maybe" good? What (and when) should I say something to her? She's absolutely incredible. I've never met anyone like her in my life. Maybe I'm missing something. If anyone has found a great book on reading women, please let me know... Haha! Thanks in advance for any pointers. Sincerely, a confused guy!
carhill Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 IME with dating over the last 30 years, anything other than an enthusiastic 'yes' has turned out to be a fail. YMMV. Maybe someone else has turned maybes into yeses and a lifelong marriage but that person isn't me. At your age, anything can happen. It will. Enjoy the now.
dizy Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 from a womans perspective: yes is the only synonym of yes. dont waste too much energy and time on her. She might end up dating you but will never be crazy in love with you
PithyWorld Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 'Maybe' is simply a means to an end. The end; a nice, and sweet, resounding NO!
TheFinalWord Posted January 21, 2012 Posted January 21, 2012 (edited) Patience is THE name of the game. You've had one date with her and showed her a good time. Just chill with it now. Be 100% cool. No matter what you're feeling inside. Take your time here. I think you've spiked her interest...but you have to be cool with it or else you will cause her to immediately revert right back to her "no one less than 21" rule. In general, dating anyone at work is bad. So that's another reason to take things slow. But don't start pressing her for another date. What I would do is just keep flirting with her at work. Do this for a few more weeks before asking her out again. Don't text her a million times. You have to work on building up her trust. When she says she doesn't date less than her age, there is a reason. RESPECT that reason and take your time showing her you are not the average 19 year old. I'll give the warning one more time...if you push her and let your hormones control you, you will lose. Learn to put your hormones and emotions in check and stay cool. Do NOT come across as needy and desperate and try to push her into anything or you will fail. She already knows you like her. Now you need to give time for her to build up trust in you. Slow and steady will win this race...Good luck! Watch this: Edited January 21, 2012 by TheFinalWord video link
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