CLindsay Posted January 20, 2012 Posted January 20, 2012 I live with my mum and sister (I'm only 18) and we're moving houses in a few days. We have had to get rid of a lot of furniture from our current house and get new furniture that will suit our new home! It's a very exciting but difficult and extremely emotional and stressful time. So, my mother kindly offered my boyfriends brother (who is 21) some of our furniture that is worth thousands for a simple $200, as he is planning on moving out in a few months and she thought it'd be nice to give a young person a head start with some quality furniture. My mother is an awfully kind and selfless person. My boyfriend, his dad, his brother and his girlfriend and I came over to my place the other night to load up the furniture that's being sold to my boyfriends brother onto a trailer etc. When we arrived, my mum was very apologetic to say that's she's not quite ready to give away one of the pieces of furniture yet as she's still really attached to it and she is not ready to part with it. That's a fair enough decision and she was going to give this couch away for FREE! He was still going to get lots of other things, but he reacted extremely poorly to my mothers decision - which she has every right to make. He was arrogant, hostile and incredibly rude to my mum. He later called her a bitch and was so cruel towards her. He was being so greedy and incredibly unappreciative. We ended up having a huge fight because there was no way I was going to let some ******* treat my mother like that. All of my boyfriends family were on my side and yelling at him, telling him that he's out of line. He refused to see any fault in his action. He is a self-righteous bastard and incredibly insensitive. This guy is 21 years old. He's a complete pothead, he has no goals, he's always incredibly domineering to everyone around him, he is very unpleasant to be around, he is always grumpy, he's horrible to his mother, he's horrible to me and there is absolutely no way in hell I will forgive him for treating my single mother the way he did when she was giving him our FAMILY furniture - furniture I've been using since I was six years old. He is a completely simple minded loser and quite obviously emotionally inept. There's no way I can forgive him for walking into my home and effectively bullying my mother and I. It breaks my heart. I hate him so much now. It absolutely devastated me to have someone be so disrespectful and degrading towards my mother when she is the nicest woman I know. He made me cry and upset me awfully. He is still being extremely hostile and stubborn about the situation, refusing to see any fault in his actions. This only angers me more. So, now I feel like I don't want to go to their house again. I don't ever want to see that bastard ever again. This is a problem because I'm always staying with them, I'm always at their house. Now, I do not wish to go there because I can't bring myself to face such a monster. He'd go out of his way to treat me like **** and it's not worth going over there. The incredible amount of hate I feel for him, I worry, will impact on my relationship. My boyfriend also thinks he's an ******* for treating my mother and I the way he did, thankfully. I just don't know what to do. I hate him so much, I really do. I think he's a completely useless pothead who seems to only ever enforce hurtful behaviour on other people. When I was crying I was expressing this to my boyfriend, so he knows exactly how I feel about his brother. I know it may sound stupid and I do realise that it's not 'right', but it even angers me to know that my boyfriend and his brother are getting along fine now - especially after what he did for my mum and I. It's unforgivable. It makes me cry. I hate him. I don't want this to impact on my relationship with my boyfriend because we want to be together for a very long time - but the fact that his brother and I are in this situation is ****. He's a pompous pothead. What do I do?
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