naomii Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 I dont know what to do. Ive been seeing a guy for a while. At times he seems like he doesnt care, other times he does. He told me he wants to see where things could go with us, but im starting to not believe him. I cant tell how he really feels about me. I told him if he doesnt want to be with me then just tell me, i cant take not knowing where we stand and if were ever going to be together or not. He said he didnt say he doesnt want to be with me, but at the same time he wont ask me to be his girlfriend. He wont even tell me how he feels about me. He avoids the talk altogether. Im guessing hes not that interested or doesnt know what he wants. What should i do? End it with him? Give him more time? How can i get him to atleast talk about whats going on?
FitChick Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 Stop having sex. Tell him you only have sex with exclusive boyfriends.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 It isn't that you don't know what he wants, it's the fact you need some tough love to understand this guy is a player. Guys are not that hard to understand- for the immature men their basic needs comprises of work, beer and girls. They follow their instincts to meet and bed as many girls as they can in their lifetime. The mature men will look for ONE girl and settle down. This guy has the brain of a weasel- he's sly and tactical about what pushes your buttons. And a guy automatically knows whether he wants to be with you or not. His objection to making you his girlfriend is clear-you're not worth much to him.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 He's not into you Naomii. That's why... -he doesn't want to talk -he's not interested in making his feelings clear -he doesn't even want to go down that road Do you know why? Because how do you tell a girl that you're really not that interested in her but don't seeing her or having her around? He's not able to be honest with you...in his eyes because he probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings but moreso because he know you won't like the answer. I know you want him to just man up and say it, tell you so you could "stop wasting your time" but he's there to waste your time so he's not going to tell you...does that make sense? his agenda is different from yours, he's not there to be honest with you. You just sticking around at this point just makes you look naive, foolish and open to manipulation because of the BS this guy will try to feed you...even though you know he's full of it, you'll still want to believe it because you like him obviously, so you might try to paint a better picture than what is actually there. Don't be the typical woman, when a guy isn't interested in you...have the courage and self-respect to walk away and don't be associated with someone who isn't willing to communicate with you and meet your needs. Or you're going to get chewed up and spit out many times before you figure out that it's not what you want or need.
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