SomewhatExperienced Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 I'm dating multiple people for the first time in my life. A few years ago I was against it and thought it was unacceptable if I was dating someone who was seeing others at the same time. Then I evolved to not being morally opposed to it, accepting if someone I was seeing was doing it but not able to do it myself. Now, I am doing it myself with not two, but three girls!. And none of this was initiated by me. I was basically asked out by each of them (kinda, let's just leave it at that). The thing is I'm a very busy full-time university student in my last year, I have a job and not tonnes of time. Two of the girls I'm interested in, the other one although we were friends before I'm not really finding myself attracted to and not interested in pursuing it. I want to stop dating her but it's not in my personality to just stop returning calls. We haven't even held hands (let alone kissed or slept together), just hung out a couple times. I don't want to leave her angry as if I lead her on or leave her confused about what happened. Any suggestions?
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 She may be just as uninterested in you as you are toward her. So it's best to keep things as just friends and not worry about it. Don't say anything to her unless she wants to be more than friends. If she wants to be more than friends than politely but firmly decline a relationship.
Jane2011 Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 You're in a good position because you guys haven't crossed any lines at all. You can probably deal with this and still be friends. I'm female and have messed up two of my friendships with males (in just the past eight months) by getting involved with them. One I have anger toward because he basically hit it and quit it (he was still kind to me and wanted to be friends but he still freakin' hit it and quit it -- lol, i can laugh about it now - on this board anyway - but I'm not his friend anymore). The other guy...well, I didn't have sex with him but I let him kiss me and touch me a little bit, and then I wasn't interested in him afterwards (he wanted to pursue something), and now I don't speak to him anymore either because I feel awkward knowing he likes me and has kissed and touched my breasts and whatnot. So...continue to be smart and not get involved with your female friends. I have made foolish moves. "Fool around now, ask questions later."
monkey00 Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 There's nothing wrong with a platonic relationtship with his girl. You have no commitments to her. If you're busy and she wants to hangout you can tell her so. If you enjoy her company then keep hanging out. If you don't then maybe it's pointless being friends. I think she would be more upset if you got physical with her and left her high and dry. But you haven't crossed that path yet.
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