diskostu Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 some backstory first. dated this girl last summer. i moved away and we ended things. she went on with her life, i went on with mine. though i kept thinking about her, even though i met other girls/women. met her again this christmas (back home for vacation). she asked if we could go for a drive. we did. we talked and she kind of ended up in my lap just holding on to me. she then told me "i feel so small when i'm with you and that is really ok.". what does that mean?
ditzchic Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 She feels like she can be vulnerable with you. In a good way. Like you support and protect her. It's a great sign. I've been waiting for a guy I can feel that way with my whole life.
Author diskostu Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 nice, because i think i love this girl. she told me she loves me, but she has some issues (eating disorder) so she is really protective of herself. when i left this summer her issues came back. before i left this time i just told her that i care a lot about her, that i would call her when i get back in two months and we could see what happens. no pressure. no labels.
carhill Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 what does that mean? Ask her. If indeed it is as proposed by others, she'll feel safe and protected and will share such intimacy with you. Be watchful of the eating disorder. That's not a small potato.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 The bottom line is that she said "it's really OK". Sounds good considering she was across your lap I'd say. (Unless of course you're Two-ton Tony and she's not that put off by your flab.)
lilyblue Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 nice, because i think i love this girl. she told me she loves me, but she has some issues (eating disorder) so she is really protective of herself. when i left this summer her issues came back. before i left this time i just told her that i care a lot about her, that i would call her when i get back in two months and we could see what happens. no pressure. no labels. That small thing combined with an eating disorder sounds a little dangerous - not necessarily regarding a relationship, but makes me wonder what she's really saying about herself. Is she anorexic? Is her focus on feeling physically small? It could be that it comforts her to feel little - but not really in a healthy way.
Author diskostu Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 That small thing combined with an eating disorder sounds a little dangerous - not necessarily regarding a relationship, but makes me wonder what she's really saying about herself. Is she anorexic? Is her focus on feeling physically small? It could be that it comforts her to feel little - but not really in a healthy way. she's not anorexic. she doesn't have distorted body image.
lilyblue Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 she's not anorexic. she doesn't have distorted body image. Ok good. Sometimes preoccupation with food/body can manifest in different ways. May not be the issue in this case.
Author diskostu Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 The bottom line is that she said "it's really OK". Sounds good considering she was across your lap I'd say. (Unless of course you're Two-ton Tony and she's not that put off by your flab.) i'm huge! she sat on top of me in the car and kind of just held on to me. hugged me really tight and had her head on my chest. she has some issues, so what you guys are saying fits. she is deeply afraid of falling for someone. she has convinced herself no one can stand her in the long run and when she then eventually gets dumped, her eating disorder issues comes back. it happened once in the past and she had big problems for more than a year. she is much better now, but is really cautious.
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