What can I do to get over this guy? I can't stop thinking about and missing him.

[RikRak]

I met this guy on a 7-day cruise, and we were instantly attracted to each other. We saw and talked to each other every day of the cruise, and went on a date after the cruise ended. But he's going home to Indonesia, and I probably won't see him again unless his traveling job takes him back to California.

 

It's been two years since my last relationship, and I'm usually pretty cautious and overly-rational when getting to know someone. I usually go on dates with different guys just to get to know them, and I've never gone past holding hands or hugging. I also haven't found a guy I'm really interested in romantically, but maintain several friendships with guys.

 

Then Cruise Guy comes along and I get a ridiculous, immediate crush on him. He would search me out and spend time with me on the cruise, but I didn't reveal my true interest in him. When the cruise ended, he wanted my contact info and has been in touch with me ever since. I even went on a date with him before he left, and we hugged a lot and kissed each other (several times) even though I knew we couldn't have a real relationship.

 

I still hear from Cruise Guy through text, Facebook, and webcam, but it saddens me when he keeps talking about his feelings for me. He admits that he doesn't understand why he feels so strongly about me (in his words, "starting to fall in love"), especially since we've only known each other for two weeks and we can't be together because of the geographical distance.

 

But I really miss him, and I'm devastated. So sad I want to cry. I don't usually like a guy this much who seems to like me more if not as much as I like him. (I don't think there would be a point for him to lie to me about his feelings; it's not like he can seduce me from Indonesia.) So how can I get over him? What would you do?

[jobaba]

Time...

 

Everything takes time.

 

Since you've not been rejected, it'll take less time and be way less brutal.

 

On the Jobaba scale, I'd give yours about two weeks.

[yessy21]

You are attracted to the Nearly impossible. but no worries.... i think you shouldnt try to get over him. enjoy this. and... distance is just measured time. eventually it will either fall apart or fall into place. I had a friend in Estonia and i lived in Miami and eventually things fell into place. He was the greatest friend i ever had. non romantically in the end. you cant control everything and this is life letting you know.

[FitChick]

You're only a plane ticket away from him. Or another cruise.

 

Try posting on the Long Distance Forum where everyone is in the same boat.