Curious-One Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I have no problem starting a convo with the girl. Usually most girls are receptive as well. Problem is i dont know what is the best way to ask for the number. You see my friend actually asks the girl if she has a boyfriend before he actually goes for the number. As a matter of fact he will usually go to a random girl he thinks is hot and say " I think you are hot do you have a bf?" He is also very good looking too. Where as i usually start a natural convo and later say something along the lines "You seem like a cool girl we should hangout sometime, Whats your number". That has worked however i have had few instances where later i learned that the girl has a bf and i wasted alot of time texting her and thinking i have potential girl to date when later i learn she actually has a bf. Anyway what was the best way a guy approached you and asked for your number.
Andy_K Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Personally I would directly ask her if she has a boyfriend before asking for the number. It will leave her in absolutely no doubt as to your intentions, so if she agrees to give it to you, there's a much better chance something will come of it.
ditzchic Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Yeah you should definitely ask if the girl has a boyfriend first. I don't give out my number to other guys when I'm with someone but not every girl is like me. I would ask about the boyfriend in a casual conversation kind of way. Not "You're hot do you have a boyfriend." That would turn me off. Stick with what you're doing. "You seem cool, let's hang out. Can I get your number?". Or ask to see my phone and call your phone from mine. That has worked LOTS of times with me. I love that sh*t
yessy21 Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 i like it when they talk to me first. ask me at least 5 questions and then ask me if i have a boyfriend. wether i have one or not i would give u my number because we can always be friends.
Andy_K Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 i like it when they talk to me first. ask me at least 5 questions and then ask me if i have a boyfriend. wether i have one or not i would give u my number because we can always be friends. You think it's a good idea to exchange numbers and be friends with a guy whose original intention was obviously to have sex with you?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 If a man ever came up to me and said "I think you are hot, do you have a bf?", I'd be turned off and taken aback. A conversation needs to flow naturally. You can't just jump in and expect immediate results. Sometimes you are going to talk to women that have boyfriends. Sometimes you are going to talk to women that don't have boyfriends that tell you they do because they aren't interested. That's just how it goes. Although, I don't understand how it is that you asked these girls for your number and they gave it to you without mentioning they had a boyfriend. And that they engaged in texted conversations with you. What was the tone of the text messages? flirty? Not so much? No girl is that obtuse that she doesn't know what it means when a guy asks for your number. How many girls do this? I like when a guy talks to me a little bit then says "I'd like to take you out. What's your number?" Simple. I don't like when grown men ask me if I want to "hang out". I'm not 12 and I'm not looking to be a "buddy". Buddies "hang out". Dates don't.
Author Curious-One Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 Ok so what i am getting at is that its cool to ask do you have a boyfriend prior to asking for her number just dont do it right away.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I've never asked a girl "for her number". I've always asked "can"(and have even said "may I") "call you"? (with the possible joinder of "for lunch" if I don't know her at all except for our encounter or "to talk", or just leaving it at "can I call you?" if I think there's been some sparks for a while like in some work or school contact situation. Saying the words "can I have your number?" makes it just a tad too much about the asker and what he wants (although it often works anyway). I just never felt it fit for me. I will ask if I can call or "may I" and then the number will either be incidental or not.
blueskyday Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I like the above approach, "May I call you?" Nice. The phone number comes next, quite naturally. When a guy starts talking to me and I have a boyfriend, I simply talk for a few minutes and naturally work it into the conversation that I have a boyfriend. Not right away, though. That sounds rude. For example, he says he loves going to the nearby lake. I respond with, "Yes, it's a great place to hang out. My boyfriend and I took a boat out there last week to water ski. You water ski?" See? I work the boyfriend in, but bring the conversation around to something else. Then it's up to them to bow out and seems like we were just talking as friends. That's what I project, an assumption of friendly talk. It helps the guy save face. If a guy asks for my number anway, I decline. I don't generally take guys' numbers when I'm in a relationship with another guy. Unless it's a business situation, of course, or the guy has a girlfriend and we can all hang out. I'm all for guys asking for my number when I'm single. It's always flattering, and I appreciate the guts a guy has to have to even ask. I'm always nice about it.
blueskyday Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 (edited) I also like it when a guy asks if I have a boyfriend before he asks for my number. I think it shows respect, and I like that. Just don't lead with it. Be friendly for a few minutes first. When you ask if you could call her, that's a good time to ask if she has a boyfriend. As in, "Are you single? If so, may I call you?" I actually fall it for when guys kid around with me mid conversation about how I must have a boyfriend because I'm so beautiful (or some other variation of cute, pretty, but not HOT, that would turn me off, too, if they are leading with that.) HOT is good, just added to other attributes. Your friend sounds like he is after sex only. That's how I would read it if he came up and said "Wow, you're hot. Do you have a boyfriend." Knee jerk reaction of a, "No." (rejection) You sound more like a regular, cool guy who would get a better response. Edited January 18, 2012 by blueskyday
Thieves Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I actually fall it for when guys kid around with me mid conversation about how I must have a boyfriend because I'm so beautiful (or some other variation of cute, pretty, but not HOT, that would turn me off, too, if they are leading with that.) Me too. I find it nice, and sweet. I'm all for guys asking for my number when I'm single. It's always flattering, and I appreciate the guts a guy has to have to even ask. I'm always nice about it. I agree. I truly understand and appreciate it when a guy asks for my number, even if I may not be attracted them in that way, because it obviously does take a lot of guts to do that. So I try not to be mean as well, even if it is a rejection. Unless the guy was just crude and deserves a taste of their own medicine. As for the OP, I was originally going to write how a conversation usually goes when a guy asks for my number and why I like it, but lo' and behold, what you're doing right now is fine. If it's been working out well most of the time for you, I don't think you should change it up unless you really feel you should. I do think it'd be a really good idea to ask if they have a boyfriend first, which is alright to do. It's courteous, because otherwise some girls might think you're assuming they're available and therefore feel it's disrespectful to ask for their number if they really are taken. Plus, it gets your intentions out there in the clear so that you have less of a chance to become friendzoned by the woman. A nice chat for a few minutes is great, and then when you feel it's right, ask about the boyfriend (or lack of one), then work the number in...
Shaun-Dro Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Since when did women like men stopping them in the streets to get their numbers? This has to be something new.
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