turt Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 Not totally. I actually do read a woman's profile & I do look for common interests. Plus, i'm a homebody that goes out once in a while so i do look for similar women. A good looking one is preferable but if a woman is showing a keen interest in me & she seems cool i'll at least meet her out & see how it goes even if she isn't my ideal date. Same here. I read every profile for a message someone. I weed out about half the girls I would like to message because of their profile.
carhill Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 What kinds of pics? Head shots, where I can clearly see her eyes and smile. What about her profile? I prefer a narrative to a laundry list, perhaps with a bit of interjected humor. Anything else? Balance. No one's life is perfect. A communicated sense of how imperfection is perceived can be helpful. I would generally agree that spontaneously meeting people IRL is preferable to OLD but for those of us who literally do not meet single people IRL, OLD is an efficient way of meeting such potentials. At my age in my locale and demographic, I'd say it's (not meeting singles IRL) even more prevalent than from before I was M. Excluding elderly widows and the 18 yo girl who bags my groceries, it's pretty slim pickens. So, like the good mechanic I am, I use tools.
phineas Posted January 22, 2012 Posted January 22, 2012 I get a lot of women viewing my profile but when I view theirs I see I don't meet their height requirement. Some are actually taller than me or my same height. If they interest me i'll message them. There is a 50/50 chance they randomly clicked on my profile vs. they found me purposefully with a search that did not match their criteria for a date. I also get women out of my area looking at my profile but now i'm learning a lot of these women just pick the closest major city instead of the small town in the area they are from so a lot of them are either closer to me or farther away depending on which side of said major city their on. Also, lots of women in their early 30's adding me to favorites & I cannot understand why at all. They have selected they want kids & I've selected I don't under that part of the profile. Most of them though have near blank profiles so their either non-subscribers looking around, fake profiles, or new and haven't filled stuff out yet. So who knows.
Author lilyblue Posted January 23, 2012 Author Posted January 23, 2012 I get a lot of women viewing my profile but when I view theirs I see I don't meet their height requirement. Some are actually taller than me or my same height. If they interest me i'll message them. There is a 50/50 chance they randomly clicked on my profile vs. they found me purposefully with a search that did not match their criteria for a date. I also get women out of my area looking at my profile but now i'm learning a lot of these women just pick the closest major city instead of the small town in the area they are from so a lot of them are either closer to me or farther away depending on which side of said major city their on. Also, lots of women in their early 30's adding me to favorites & I cannot understand why at all. They have selected they want kids & I've selected I don't under that part of the profile. Most of them though have near blank profiles so their either non-subscribers looking around, fake profiles, or new and haven't filled stuff out yet. So who knows. I think a lot of "requirements" are really more preferences. So someone might have a height requirement, but it's negotiable. Also I think a lot the views are random. All you see at first glance is a headshot. Head shots, where I can clearly see her eyes and smile. I prefer a narrative to a laundry list, perhaps with a bit of interjected humor. Balance. No one's life is perfect. A communicated sense of how imperfection is perceived can be helpful. I would generally agree that spontaneously meeting people IRL is preferable to OLD but for those of us who literally do not meet single people IRL, OLD is an efficient way of meeting such potentials. At my age in my locale and demographic, I'd say it's (not meeting singles IRL) even more prevalent than from before I was M. Excluding elderly widows and the 18 yo girl who bags my groceries, it's pretty slim pickens. So, like the good mechanic I am, I use tools. I feel like I should be meeting people in real life, I just don't! I live in a city, I'm in my early 30s, but something just has never worked for me.
ascendotum Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 For any men that do online dating - what attracts you to a woman (besides her being hot). What kinds of pics? What about her profile? Anything else? When it comes to pics, I am not really fussed, as long as they reflect what she really currently looks like. I dont care if she's on a yacht or sitting on her sofa. I think the bathroom mirror taken with iphone shot is a little tacky, but I don't mind it so much if it gives me a good feel whether her body actually matches up with her body type in the profile summary. Like you say ('hot' being a given). I much rather see a natural everyday pic of her than party/club shots of her all dressed up. Also dont like group shots as well unless there is other pics of her to know which one is definitely her. Don't underestimate the picture's influence on guy's responses though. I read about a test this woman did using the same profile at different times on same site but with different pictures of herself. There was a big difference in number of responses. I personally find a woman in stylish well fitting business attire an attracive look, however this pic of her at work, hardly got any responses. The pic of her sitting on her bed in a t-shirt got the biggest reponses rate. The pic of her in sweatpants taken in the park was the next most popular. So there you go LB, set your camera up on the dresser, get your hello kitty pink singlet on, and lean back on your bed and smile.
Author lilyblue Posted January 23, 2012 Author Posted January 23, 2012 So there you go LB, set your camera up on the dresser, get your hello kitty pink singlet on, and lean back on your bed and smile. haha, thanks so much for the tip. Finally, the key to finding a bf!
phineas Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 I think a lot of "requirements" are really more preferences. So someone might have a height requirement, but it's negotiable. Also I think a lot the views are random. All you see at first glance is a headshot. I feel like I should be meeting people in real life, I just don't! I live in a city, I'm in my early 30s, but something just has never worked for me. Well, if someone is short looking for a 6' guy I probably won't message her but 2" taller than me? i'll send her message. I don't think their all random. I put down athletic and toned as my body type & that is what usually views me. Also slender. so i'm being filtered by body type and probably age. I doubt it's my 5'8" height. LOL! Are you on match? we can critique each other's profiles if you want. You can honestly tell me just how bad my pictures are. (I take horrible pictures)
carhill Posted January 23, 2012 Posted January 23, 2012 I feel like I should be meeting people in real life, I just don't! I live in a city, I'm in my early 30s, but something just has never worked for me. When I was your age, running jobs and parts brought me into the closest city (about 30 miles away) fairly often, so I joined some community organizations and singles groups. A fledgling OLD site back then, Matchmaker, pushed formation of local 'groups' of online daters and I joined that. Cycling was a hobby, so I joined the cycling club. I essentially devoted 10-15 hours per week to meeting and greeting people, literally from showing them around the zoo (docent) to planting trees (for the local 'green' group) to approving loan applications (as a loan committee member at a local bank) to working on the chamber of commerce, as examples. I met hundreds more people than I would have if not for that time and energy invested. I also traveled to other countries and met people that way. I met my now exW on an old OLD site which I think still exists called American Singles. She lived sixty miles away. After traveling 5000 miles for a prior love interest, sixty miles was like next door We all have choices.
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