bolase Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 (edited) I have a couple of questions, firstly how do you overcome extreme nerves on a first or second date, with someone you're really into? I went on my second date with a guy today, the first being about 18 months ago (the last time we saw each other, randomly, before both getting jobs elsewhere). So this was for all intents and purposes a first date, actually I got WAY more nervous that I did the first time and towards then end when he got close I couldnt stop a little shaking and generally being awkward..it sucked Prior to that first date we had met a few times, I made it clear I liked him and a mutual friend told him I had a huge crush (thanks friend). It was spontaneous, we had an amazing hangout and he texted afterwards to say he couldn't stop thinking about it, felt we could never stop talking and that I was sexy and lovely, etc. But since we moved so far apart, that was that and I hadn't heard from him or got in touch until we recently just moved to the same city again.. So he asked me out to breakfast and I was extremely happy..but what happened on this date?? Somewhere between meeting him, having great conversation, and the point where he sat next to me as opposed to opposite me and started playfully touching me before we left, I got so nervous and lost my cool. fidgeting etc, so very embarassing and I am extremely attracted to him. He already knows I want him, and I do, but somehow I lost it in this situation and to be honest feel like I blew it as he likes confident girls. I texted him afterwards thanking him, and he thanked me in return for showing me the place - that's all. We are the same age; mid twenties. Should I leave it and see if he gets in touch, or take initiative to do something? And I'm not usually nervous on dates, or around men generally. He just has this effect on me edit: to add, we havent even kissed, just hung out. Edited January 17, 2012 by bolase
thatone Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 apologize for seeming nervous. "sorry if i seemed nervous, had a really good time, we should get together again" that's it, he'll get the idea, and you'll either get asked out again, or not.
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