Ex wants to go back out but she is still dating kid across the country

[lover4721]

So if you read my other threads, I've been having issues..

 

Anyhow, my ex wants to get back together but she is still dating a distant kid.

 

She says they don't talk, but on Facebook it still says in a relationship with...

 

She doesn't care about Facebook. I think that means she wants to keep that on Facebook, almost allowing our relationship to be a secret? OR to date him and me? SO ODD... And the one guy on my old thread did say, "She hasn't matured if she is considering other options while in another relationship." which is true. Plus, we were in a relationship and she was considering options with another kid, which is now her ex. So she is performing the same action as she did on me, now doing it to her boyfriend currently.

 

What do I do? Just end it?

Tell her something? I pretty much hinted it and stuff to breakup with him - you shouldn't need to be told to do that. You have to be single to go into another relationship.. I told her to breakup with him and she said it was the first time I've told her that, but still hasn't changed anything on Facebook. I'm not going through life with some kid blown all over her Facebook AND I'm not having a secret relationship, either. Also, she said she doesn't love him. She never said that either, so maybe she's just dating him to be happy? Idk. But I know I'm not going to allow her to breakup with him and then immediately date me.

 

Sounds like a very immature relationship. Something you'd hear in 5th grade.

[BoredAgain]

If she was really serious about getting back together, then she would have ended the other relationship already. She is either trying to play you (maybe keep you open as an option) or she is just completely immature. Either way, you should probably ignore her.

[Aqua066]

Listen man if your not going to respect yourself how will anybody else? You even thinking about accepting this situation is pretty sad to be honest with you. You got to cut this girl out of your life like yesterday. She's playing you hard! Man up and get yourself out of this ****ty situation, heal and move on....

 

She knows your accepting this situation and being so available to her... and she will keep exploiting you and the situation. She doesn't respect you man. You need to turn things around and vanish from her life.... no stupid no contact conversations... just exit and don't look back. Let her see what life is without you waiting on the sidelines.

 

It will suck at first but you'll start to feel better with time and most importantly you'll maintain some dignity. Believe it or not, she'll even start to respect you more if you do this. Women will not be with someone they don't respect... and she doesn't respect you right now.

 

Good luck my friend. You keeping this going with her right now will NOT end good for you. You know what you need to do.

 

Aqua

[lover4721]

Okay thanks you two.

 

I'm not accepting the situation. I told her like literally 20 times yesterday.

Maybe she doesn't want to be alone I don't know. But I'll move on and see what she does in the future.

 

I've been doing this since like October.. Games like this..

We dated for 1 year and 6 months.. Isn't no 1 month relationship. Just letting you know lol.

 

If I would say that she needs to let him go, she would say she did. She did say "Me too." when I said "Im Single." because she said "I'm waiting for you." But I said Facebook doesn't prove it. It is like she isn't over with him and she puts it on Facebook, he's going to say "We're not over.."

Edited January 17, 2012 by lover4721

[petergriffin]

I don't know the situation, why you guys brokeup, or either of you personally. I can't judge, but from what it sounds like it seems she is unhappy with him because she still misses you. She isn't that unhappy with him though where she won't end it with him for you. If she wanted you back fully, she would drop that dude and come running to you without a question. I think she just misses you and doesn't respect you enough, so she thinks she can have you on the side. Don't allow it, you'll be better off in the long run if a girl can't respect you.

[lover4721]

I know, that's what I thought she would do as well...

Now she is communicating with her ex, who threatened her 3 weeks ago lol. I am her ex ex. I don't see why she just wants to get herself in trouble.

 

Anyhow, I don't like who she has really become anyway. I think it's time to move on. I've tried, and I can move on, but then it's still there. You can't disagree that it will be very hard because we've dated for so long and shared everyday together.

I'm just a little tired of being played and played.