neomye Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Im going to try to make my long story short.. I've been dating my bf for 2 years on and off.. more off than on.. but I always give in and give it a second third fourth chance...this is a ldr.Hes come to see me about 6 or 7 times we always alternate cost for the trip, i dont know why now its getting to a point were it bothers me to see that he cant take care of things. he works, he can afford other stuff... now hes talking about moving in with me and whats going through my mind is .. is he going to rely on me for bills, expenses and other stuff.. we have discussed this issue and what he makes me believe is that he cant afford to split expenses once we move in together.. what can i do.. i really do love this guy.
spice4life Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 (edited) That's a very valid concern. Have you discussed rolling out a plan with him? Personally, I wouldn't want to move in with somone untl I knew I could contribute and pull my weight. It wouldn't feel right otherwise. At the same time, I wouldn't want to move in with someone if the burden of paying the bills and other expenses was completely on me. It would create an environment of stress and imbalance in the relationship. My suggestion is that you discuss it with him again and ask him what kind of plan he has in place to make sure this doesn't happen. In my case, I have a plan in place regardless of whether I'm living with someone or not. I have things I would like to do in the future and having the money to do it is absolutely imperative! It wouldn't interfere with my ability to consider cohabitating with someone either, when the time comes. Edited January 17, 2012 by spice4life
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