irc333 Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I was reading this one dating profile, she mentioned her life is full of social activities with friends, career, and other volunteer related activities, that her life is hectic and looking for someone that feels that someone has the same kind of lifestyle. Basically...."I'll be too busy for you, so I hope you're too busy for me" Which defeats the purpose and can hinder dating this person?
Emilia Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I have a busy life but it's not hectic. I have a full time job, I'm a social organiser for a surf meetup group, I volunteer and I sail. However, I can still make several evenings a week free and most Saturdays or Sundays during the day as I don't sail every weekend. I know some men view it as 'hectic' but in my experience they usually want to sit in front of the telly with a can of beer. Are you one of those men?
Author irc333 Posted January 17, 2012 Author Posted January 17, 2012 I have a busy life but it's not hectic. I have a full time job, I'm a social organiser for a surf meetup group, I volunteer and I sail. However, I can still make several evenings a week free and most Saturdays or Sundays during the day as I don't sail every weekend. I know some men view it as 'hectic' but in my experience they usually want to sit in front of the telly with a can of beer. Are you one of those men? No, I'm rather diversified....I'm also a movie buff and like my favorite shows, yes. However, I mix it in with outdoor activities every so often on the weekends, and I go out to socialize with friends on the weekends as well. True, you don't want a boyfriend that sits on the couch on a Sat night, when you want to go out to a social group as a couple. Speaking of boyfriends, I know this one woman that comes to our hiking Meetups, but never brings the boyfriend, she mentions him sometimes....but I could only guess either he's working that day or sitting at home with a beer or sleeping in because she's an early riser. Some guys have tried to make a move on here, because they assume she's unattached because she comes alone all the time to the events. lol
Author irc333 Posted January 17, 2012 Author Posted January 17, 2012 Also, if you're an organizer of a Meetup, you stand to risk letting the Meetup fizzle out once you find someone. lol Not saying it'll happen with YOU, but I've seen Meetups go to the way side once an organizer got engaged or got serious with someone.
Emilia Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Her boyfriend probably isn't interested in hiking and she doesn't feel she should give it up. I'm sure your friends will get bored when they realise it's futile.
Emilia Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Also, if you're an organizer of a Meetup, you stand to risk letting the Meetup fizzle out once you find someone. lol Not saying it'll happen with YOU, but I've seen Meetups go to the way side once an organizer got engaged or got serious with someone. Someone else will take over then. I'm not the official organiser, I just do the events in London. Everyone can suggest meetups in our group so there is no hierarchy. People leave all the time and new ones join.
bean1 Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Should she lie about her expectations and what she has to offer? I guess I don't quite understand the problem - she is being honest/realistic about wanting a low maintenance/contact relationship from the get-go rather than not tell a man that, and have him find out after many dates?
grkBoy Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I was reading this one dating profile, she mentioned her life is full of social activities with friends, career, and other volunteer related activities, that her life is hectic and looking for someone that feels that someone has the same kind of lifestyle. Basically...."I'll be too busy for you, so I hope you're too busy for me" Which defeats the purpose and can hinder dating this person? Read between the lines. She wants to show she has a life...that she's not just some pretty girl who only goes shopping, drinking, partying, etc. The "too busy" song and dance...she's saying she wants a guy who is so amazing that she'll end up giving up hobbies and make time for him. "Show me you're worth me making time for." I've seen this to death. Plenty of women claiming to be constantly busy, but when they meet some amazing guy, they'll suddenly have loads of free time for a RL. Such is life.
phineas Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Read between the lines. She wants to show she has a life...that she's not just some pretty girl who only goes shopping, drinking, partying, etc. The "too busy" song and dance...she's saying she wants a guy who is so amazing that she'll end up giving up hobbies and make time for him. "Show me you're worth me making time for." I've seen this to death. Plenty of women claiming to be constantly busy, but when they meet some amazing guy, they'll suddenly have loads of free time for a RL. Such is life. Loads? more like they try to make him their hobby & keep him from their friends. I don't even pay attention to that "busy" crap. I just tell them to call me when their no longer "busy" and live my life.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 The funny thing is the same guys who posts that they're like living life to the fullest and having fun are the same guys who don't really have time to give you a call or a follow up text, or even bother to ask you out on a date, after talking online for close to a month. So take the whole internet online thing as a half-truth- When they say they have a " hectic lifestyle" it's only hectic because they don't have an SO for them to be emotionally invested in; so they live for their hobbies the same guys who say they are looking for relationships are actually looking for sex If this is the first time they're doing " OLD", most like they've done it dozen of times ( in fact, they could have had multiple profiles) Generic profiles are a sign of lack of effort, they're not looking for serious,but hope their looks are good enough for others to message them.. Add to the list if you will.
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