Author jobaba Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 Uhhh, what does that have to do with anything? "Potential" relationship doesn't mean compatible. Potential relationships constantly surround every single person, but that doesn't mean anything. I'm not going to go out with anyone I don't have a connection with, even if they are the most attractive person on this planet. Getting hit on by a sloppy, overly affection drunk is not flattering and those are usually the type of guys that troll the bar scene. It has everything to do with it. It is in fact THE POINT of the thread. Every one of those potentials that you wade through and discard is a man that has been rejected. You could have been everything from the 6th girl some guy hit on that week to the girl the shy meek guy finally got the guts to ask out after a whole year of orbiting you. The point is you are choosing from them. They are all competing for you. There's fine examples of this here on this message board. Every day an average woman is posting about discarding a guy who is obsessed with her, clingy, or didn't fit one of the many dealbreakers. It's so easy for people to throw this around, without knowing so many women individually and knowing why they might still be single. Some of us don't get approached when out, but have male friends end up falling in love with us. (attached friends who are supposed to be in love with their girlfriends.) Now I'm 36, and nobody warns you about your mid-thirties. I was happier before, when I was happy enough in my own skin, and not focusing on attracting men. All this talk of things evening out, when it isn't so cut and dried in the first place. Makes me sick. I *am* picky, but not concerning the size of a man's wallet, or the circumference of his bicep. Just because you're 36 and a single woman doesn't mean I was referring to YOU. I'm specifically referring to women who have a million dealbreakers and will only settle for someone special. If she ain't so special herself, she'll settle or find herself alone...
maysj18 Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 It has everything to do with it. It is in fact THE POINT of the thread. Every one of those potentials that you wade through and discard is a man that has been rejected. You could have been everything from the 6th girl some guy hit on that week to the girl the shy meek guy finally got the guts to ask out after a whole year of orbiting you. The point is you are choosing from them. They are all competing for you. There's fine examples of this here on this message board. Every day an average woman is posting about discarding a guy who is obsessed with her, clingy, or didn't fit one of the many dealbreakers. LOL. Dude, I get rejected ALL THE TIME. It HAPPENS. If that's what you meant when you asked your question, then I misunderstood. I have been rejected on numerous occasions...it happens to the best of us. If I am going to reject a few guys' request for a date, I'm more than okay with the fact that I'm going to be rejected at some point or another as well. It may be a different type of rejection than what most guys are used to, but it's all the same. For example when I brought the fact that I wanted a relationship with this guy I had been casually seeing for a few weeks, he said that wasn't for him and left. It happens to both genders.
Anela Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Just because you're 36 and a single woman doesn't mean I was referring to YOU. I'm specifically referring to women who have a million dealbreakers and will only settle for someone special. If she ain't so special herself, she'll settle or find herself alone... I'm much too used to being told, on this very board, that women 35 and over are unwanted (at least in the past). I wasn't just referencing it from YOU, either.
Dust Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I'm just as annoying in real life. You'd be surprised how often I think about you, Somedude. When I'm out and there's all these groups of girls that don't get approached by men all night, I think about you and some of the other guys on LS. You all would have a field day here! Wow if I didn't know better, and I do know better... I'd almost think you were hitting on Somedude. Quick men lets schedule a February weekend trip to Iris home town so we can use and abuse all those women! Seriously Iris maybe you wouldn't be as anoying if we can see the pretty little face that types out all these Somedude the female version posts... This isn't true at all. It is if I believe it right? I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree... but let me tell you testosterone is a powerful drug. The most powerful. LOL. Dude, I get rejected ALL THE TIME. It HAPPENS. If that's what you meant when you asked your question, then I misunderstood. I have been rejected on numerous occasions...it happens to the best of us. If I am going to reject a few guys' request for a date, I'm more than okay with the fact that I'm going to be rejected at some point or another as well. It may be a different type of rejection than what most guys are used to, but it's all the same. For example when I brought the fact that I wanted a relationship with this guy I had been casually seeing for a few weeks, he said that wasn't for him and left. It happens to both genders. A babe like you gets rejected ALL THE TIME... I don't believe it. I refuse to believe such nonsense. Heck if you were ugly I'd still refuse to believe it! Yes what you describe is a very different type of rejection that most guys here would be thrilled with.
Author jobaba Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 LOL. Dude, I get rejected ALL THE TIME. It HAPPENS. If that's what you meant when you asked your question, then I misunderstood. I have been rejected on numerous occasions...it happens to the best of us. If I am going to reject a few guys' request for a date, I'm more than okay with the fact that I'm going to be rejected at some point or another as well. It may be a different type of rejection than what most guys are used to, but it's all the same. For example when I brought the fact that I wanted a relationship with this guy I had been casually seeing for a few weeks, he said that wasn't for him and left. It happens to both genders. No. Rejection is a total shut down. No kiss, no sex, no nothing. What you are referring to I have faced as well. It might be scary to your point of view, but I have kissed or had sex with a woman and then she blows me off later, I consider that as a victory, not rejection.
Author jobaba Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 A babe like you gets rejected ALL THE TIME... I don't believe it. I refuse to believe such nonsense. Heck if you were ugly I'd still refuse to believe it! Yes what you describe is a very different type of rejection that most guys here would be thrilled with. Dude. You are that guy who goes around pumping up all the women's egos by calling them all beautiful. Stop doing that! I refuse to pump up a woman's ego when unnecessary, but maysj is definitely above average looking. Probably the reason why she can't see my point of view.
maysj18 Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 No. Rejection is a total shut down. No kiss, no sex, no nothing. What you are referring to I have faced as well. It might be scary to your point of view, but I have kissed or had sex with a woman and then she blows me off later, I consider that as a victory, not rejection. And this brings us back to how women and men are different. I consider that rejection and would much rather prefer being turned down immediately as opposed to investing my time.
Dust Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Dude. You are that guy who goes around pumping up all the women's egos by calling them all beautiful. Stop doing that! I refuse to pump up a woman's ego when unnecessary, but maysj is definitely above average looking. Probably the reason why she can't see my point of view. Yeah she's sexy and I really don't think she'll get the point and its an excercise in futility to even try to explain. It's all semantics any ways... I'm a Mayj fan we love you! haha now show us more pictures! Make an LS album!
colliejoanie Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I honestly think women know almost immediately what/who they want/don't want. In that sense, yes I think men ARE rejected more often. Because if I don't like a guy because of his looks, something he says, how he's treating people around him.....whatever the case may be (and call me shallow all day long, it's just the cold hard facts....at least with me and just about all the women I know) I will reject the guy right away. Sucks for him. I think for men it takes a little longer for them to decide if they want to further a relationship after the initial "hook up". And for this reason, I think women's feelings of rejection happens later on in the relationship - after she's already attached. Sucks for her. Good/Bad......who knows. I think everyone should stop thinking the grass is greener.
colliejoanie Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I honestly think women know almost immediately what/who they want/don't want. In that sense, yes I think men ARE rejected more often. Because if I don't like a guy because of his looks, something he says, how he's treating people around him.....whatever the case may be (and call me shallow all day long, it's just the cold hard facts....at least with me and just about all the women I know) I will reject the guy right away. Sucks for him. I think for men it takes a little longer for them to decide if they want to further a relationship after the initial "hook up". And for this reason, I think women's feelings of rejection happens later on in the relationship - after she's already attached. Sucks for her. Good/Bad......who knows. I think everyone should stop thinking the grass is greener. And yes, I said looks....please don't rake me over the coals. we all have different ideas of attraction......I'm not saying the guy has to be drop dead gorgeous.....I'm talking individual ideas of attraction. We all have them.
Dust Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I honestly think women know almost immediately what/who they want/don't want. In that sense, yes I think men ARE rejected more often. Because if I don't like a guy because of his looks, something he says, how he's treating people around him.....whatever the case may be (and call me shallow all day long, it's just the cold hard facts....at least with me and just about all the women I know) I will reject the guy right away. Sucks for him. I think for men it takes a little longer for them to decide if they want to further a relationship after the initial "hook up". And for this reason, I think women's feelings of rejection happens later on in the relationship - after she's already attached. Sucks for her. Good/Bad......who knows. I think everyone should stop thinking the grass is greener. Yeah well thought. I think this entire thread is pointless. I think the grass is green for men actually. I wouldn't want to be a woman. I like being a man who gets to be with women. You're really hot too colliejoanie if it wasn't for my aversion to MILF's I'd be in love.
Anela Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 It is if I believe it right? I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree... but let me tell you testosterone is a powerful drug. The most powerful. Nope, but I'll agree to disagree. Women's hormones are powerful, too.
verhrzn Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Seriously Iris maybe you wouldn't be as anoying if we can see the pretty little face that types out all these Somedude the female version posts... Aw I always thought I was the Somedude female version. I don't think I'm angry enough to be the female Wolf, or defeated enough to be the female FortyNineThousand. So, Iris, cage battle to decide the champion? (Also, fun new game! Who is your LS mirror?) Alos... don't post your picture. It is a trap.
colliejoanie Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 "If it wasn't for my aversion to MILF'S I'd be in love" Give it a few years . HAHA!!!
Anela Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 It is if I believe it right? I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree... but let me tell you testosterone is a powerful drug. The most powerful. I will add, though, that one guy told me there would be more rapes in the world, if it weren't for prostitutes. It didn't have the desired effect on me, though: it just left me feeling utterly disgusted that more men wouldn't be able to control themselves if there were no hookers available to them. I was told by the same guy, last October, that sex and love are insignificant (when I was in that dark place), and I had my family and my pets to love, so that should be enough.. patronizing <expletive kept to myself>. this from a guy who said he was in a relationship (which included being in love and having sex), and who recently favourited "Justify My Love" on youtube. such a douche bag. My needs don't matter, because I'm a woman, but a man.. a man can't have access to hookers, and watch out world.
Dust Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Aw I always thought I was the Somedude female version. I don't think I'm angry enough to be the female Wolf, or defeated enough to be the female FortyNineThousand. So, Iris, cage battle to decide the champion? (Also, fun new game! Who is your LS mirror?) Alos... don't post your picture. It is a trap. I've seen your picture Verhzn and no you are not the female Somedude. Your cute and will probably have a bf next month. You know thats quite clever the way you laid them out. They all have their own flavor don't they. FortyNineThousand is very defeated, Wolf angry. It would be best if you and Iris battled it out in jellow wearing bikinis... For the coveted title of somedude female version... "If it wasn't for my aversion to MILF'S I'd be in love" Give it a few years . HAHA!!! ok for you I will;)
Anela Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Yeah well thought. I think this entire thread is pointless. I think the grass is green for men actually. I wouldn't want to be a woman. I like being a man who gets to be with women. You're really hot too colliejoanie if it wasn't for my aversion to MILF's I'd be in love. I'm not a mother, but some of us have an aversion to being Mrs. Robinson, as well. I've turned down college-age guys, an eighteen-year-old... men my age, on the other hand, tend to have 21/22 as their youngest acceptable age.
Author jobaba Posted January 18, 2012 Author Posted January 18, 2012 And this brings us back to how women and men are different. I consider that rejection and would much rather prefer being turned down immediately as opposed to investing my time. I've faced that type of rejection too. I've also been friendzoned and it sucks worse than what you describe. But this isn't about me and you. I'm not the male equivalent of you. Read my original post again. If you don't agree that women have more options, then that's OK. I honestly think women know almost immediately what/who they want/don't want. In that sense, yes I think men ARE rejected more often. I agree. I wish I knew this 10-15 years ago. Could have saved me a LOT of heartbreak... Yeah well thought. I think this entire thread is pointless. I think the grass is green for men actually. I wouldn't want to be a woman. I like being a man who gets to be with women. You're really hot too colliejoanie if it wasn't for my aversion to MILF's I'd be in love. There IS a point. For those men who think it's their inadequacies that's holding them down, they just have to get out there more. I stated in my OP that WAS the point. Not my fault the thread spiraled out of control into a gender battle. Ok, it is kind of my fault ...
Anela Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 "If it wasn't for my aversion to MILF'S I'd be in love" Give it a few years . HAHA!!! LOL! I can see that happening. I told somedude that I don't feel lonely tonight, but the threads are getting to me (I was in a good mood before I came here - I think I need to hang out in other parts of the forum).
Dust Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 I will add, though, that one guy told me there would be more rapes in the world, if it weren't for prostitutes. It didn't have the desired effect on me, though: it just left me feeling utterly disgusted that more men wouldn't be able to control themselves if there were no hookers available to them. Well if you really think about it women being labeled as sluts and prostitutes are the most likely girls to get raped... not to mention men who have downgraded sex from something you have with some one you care about to just a money/oportunity thing are more likely to rape... My guess is with out prostitutes there would be a lot less rape and there for a lot less prostitutes... I was told by the same guy' date=' last October, that sex and love are insignificant (when I was in that dark place), and I had my family and my pets to love, so that should be enough.. patronizing <expletive kept to myself>. this from a guy who said he was in a relationship (which included being in love and having sex), and who recently favourited "Justify My Love" on youtube. such a douche bag. My needs don't matter, because I'm a woman, but a man.. a man can't have access to hookers, and watch out world. [/quote'] I realize its very patronizing to say girls don't have it hard. The thing is I mean it in the way that I would say the Doctor has it harder then the nurse... aka more responsibility more late nights and being woken up to go to the hospital etc.. but of course the Doctor makes more money and posibly has greater satisfaction... thats what I mean by men have it harder. And just because men have it harder I'm not saying we're better or more important then women. I think women in some ways are more important then men. What do I mean by that... well a loser girl who can reproduce is worth more then a bunch of loser guys who don't need to be reproducing... because one guy technicaly speaking could go around an impregnate infinite women. Only thing stopping him are other guys of his calibur. Now about this calibur talk I think a big part of what makes a man is his can do attitude. so as long as somedude doubts himself he is what he thinks. But the second he starts striving for greater he's already there even before he's done anything.
Anela Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Dude. You are that guy who goes around pumping up all the women's egos by calling them all beautiful. Stop doing that! Aw, I find it endearing at times, but he pumped up my ego once or twice. Goodnight.
Dust Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Aw, I find it endearing at times, but he pumped up my ego once or twice. Goodnight. Good I enjoyed pumping up that humble ego of yours:cool:
runner Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 using SD's earlier metaphor- it's not that he's confused about whether he's 'playing futbol or football', his problem is that he's over analysing everything whilst sitting on the bench. ... dude, if you want to win you gotta play the game. you don't have to have every friggn detail figured out before hand; in fact, the only way to learn is through crashing and burning. so you gotta suck it up, quit being a noob, and just go play the field. if you come back here and tell us about how you failed miserably, failed hard, and then failed some more, then i'll be the first to say congrats on the progress. (and for the OP, it's a ridiculous assertion; and an easy one to make coming from an outside perspective- FAIL !)
colliejoanie Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Jobaba - Anela quoted you earlier as saying to Dust, "Dude - you are that guy that goes around pumping girl's egos....Stop!" Or something of that nature. I really hope that was a joke. If this world were full of people who were unable to give compliments, because of their own insecurities or trust issues or what have you.......this would be a very cold and unhappy place. I certainly tell a guy if I like his shoes. If I think he's a good father. If he handles things well at work. Etc. And I also give women accolades when deserved. Because I realize it's nice to hear.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 Women have it easier when it comes to receiving sex. Thats about it. And thats guys faults for not having standards and being willing to sleep with almost any woman. Both sexes have it hard when it comes to finding someone compatible for a relationship True, but they also have it much easier in court. My 22 yo friend just got nailed for child support by a girl with a 6 month old. He hasn't seen in 4 years, and she almost 1,000 miles away now. Best part is that HE has to prove that he isn't the father. California doesn't have any labs in our state that he can take the test at. He has to travel there 100% at his own expense. He is in the process of borrowing money. Plus in high school this girl cheated on him multiple times... and he just got a nice job that will pay for his college.
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