jobaba Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I had this thought in the car today, I don't know why it came up. But every now and then, I think about when I was a kid and the way I used to think about the world, and dating was one of those things. When I say kid, I mean anywhere in your teens. I realize a lot of you were already dating by then, and some posters are in their teens currently and dating, but I was dateless through most all of my teens and until I got to college. Anyway, I remember this commercial or movie where this young girl (15 or 16) is about to go on a date and her father says something stupid like, "Honey, what are you going out with this guy for, he isn't the cool guy with the Trans-Am is he?" And the girl responds, "Daddy, he's just a nice guy." I remember stupid things like that because they shaped my mentality. From that point (I was about the same age), I thought girls would go for guys who were docile and kind, brought them flowers, and helped them with their homework. I also thought similarly that love would blossom from friendship. Nothing could have been further from the truth. At another point when I was a bit older, I thought that girls would crush on me like I crushed on them. I'd ask them out, have a hit and relationships would form naturally that way. Never happened. Instead, I've had to work pretty hard for every piece of a@@ and relationship I've gotten. And none of them were ever a result of me being particularly attractive to the other person or being a nice guy. More a result of playing the game the right way at the right time or finding someone you click with in a real calculated manner. So ... what were your thoughts as a kid and the eventual realities?
misssmartypants Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Honestly, I didn't think about it much. I didn't plan fake fantasy weddings or watch pretty woman and titanic and dream about being those women. I dreamed about what exciting things I would do as an adult . . . but they usually involved joining the military or peace corp and traveling the world. I read a lot of science fiction and horror books and my internal life revolved around those things as much as anything else. My high school boyfriend was more of a friend with similar (nerdy) interests than anything romantic.
ThaWholigan Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I was a weird one because I thought about dating and sex from a very young age (about 7 maybe??). I had 2 girls in my estate who I used to like, one was an african girl who lived next door, the other was a light-skinned girl from the other block. I used to be really into her, big time. I used to daydream about kissing them and going out to Clapham Common . It was weird. This never stopped, and carried on all throughout my life. I started thinking about sex before I even knew what it was or how to do it, my imagination was madness. It was only after I saw a porno at 13 did I understand the male & female anatomy well enough to know what sex was . Till then, I was pretty innocent. I always dreamed that my dating life would consist of no more than 3 life defining relationships, the first sweetheart love, the crazy sexy roller-coaster love, and the wifey mother-of-my-kids love. That's been my thoughts since 13. I didn't think I'd have to play numbers or anything like that, but now that I know there are so many attractive women in London, I am comfortable with that .
colliejoanie Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 I dated the same guy all through high school.....and I honestly thought we'd be together forever. I thought we'd go to college, get married and have kids and that would be that. Then we split up the summer before college......and I found out there was a WHOLE different life out there. I realized that I really liked having fun, partying with friends, and NOT having a boyfriend. I always just KNEW I'd be married with children though and wouldn't have to worry about dating when I "got older". HAHA!!!! Look at me now!!!
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