Found a girl I really get along with, but shes set to leave in a month for bootcamp..

[trojans10]

Anyways, I found a girl i get along with great, (real cute, funny, understands me, not high maintenance, no slut) we have been going out for almost a month now. Weve spent a lot of time together... but she leaves in a month or so for bootcamp because she decided to be a marine fresh out of HS. Although I kind of disagree with the fact she joined..her parents wouldnt allow it so when she turned 18 she signed the papers on her own....5 years.

 

What do? Should I not take this serious at all...?? i already know not to get real attached, but i mean isnt it worth atleast trying to get her to delay it or cancel? maybe have her take another semester before she heads off...? ive been hanging out with her a **** ton. she has stayed at my place for a few days at given periods.

 

I know that it isn't final until she goes to MEPS the day before bootcamp and signs another contract...

 

i just hate the fact of her joining the marines..i have plenty of friends in the marines and i know what goes on with these girls that join (). at the same time i don't think its for her...shes a real sweet, cute, adorable, shy, quiet girl who just doesn't know what she wants in life so she joined the marines right when she turned 18...in no way am i against the military, i would just NEVER let me daughter or sister join EVER.

 

...so yea, fml. i want to talk her out of it and have her pursue school....but at the same time i don't want her to not join because of ME ya know?

 

kinda sucks...

 

Help?

Edited January 16, 2012 by trojans10

[USMCHokie]

Hmmm, this is a tough situation...but usually the simplest answer is the best one. You've been dating for a month now, so it's not like you're going to marry this girl, and I assume you're both in high school. Joining the Marines seems like something she not only wants to do, but also needs to do. I may be a little bias, but don't try to take that away from her.

 

My advice is to sever the ties, albeit temporarily, and let her go to boot camp. Continue to live your life and allow her to lives hers, independently. When she finishes training and decides that she still wants you in her life, reaccess the situation. Until then, go out, meet people, and date. I know you'll feel bad for leaving her, but it's best for you. She may want you for support while she's at boot camp, writing letters and all that honky stuff, but I'd advise against it.

 

And to be honest, she won't not join because of you... You're young, dude. Have fun while you can with her, and then move on. One thing I learned in the past year is that relationships may be fleeting, but they are worth every minute they last in your life. Sometimes life gets in the way. There will be others.

[thehead]

Yea, I agree with USMCHokie. People come and go all the time. Sometimes they're meant to stay for a little while so enjoy it while you can.

[Els]

Please don't try to talk her out of it for selfish reasons. At 18, nobody should be choosing their life path because of what a partner wants, especially not a one-month old partner. She will regret it immensely if she gives in to her young, naive desire to please you, and gives up what she wants to do.