naomii Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 What would you do if you found out the guy you are seeing is on a dating website? Would you keep seeing him hoping you'll win him over and eventually he'll stop getting on? Or would you stop seeing him since he's still looking? You two have been seeing eachother for a while and should be getting closer (but not quite yet) to a committed relationship, so would you give up on him? Confront him about it (he doesnt know that you know hes on it)? What would you do? Im not sure what to do since were not officially together, he's allowed to keep his options open i suppose, but i feel like he shouldn't be at this point. I've thought about just ending it with him and telling him if he still wants to look, then I can't see him anymore, as i thought we were headed towards a relationship. He's the one who wanted to see where things could go with us, so he shouldn't be looking anymore, right?
2sunny Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 He evidently isn't interested in ONLY dating you. If that isn't what you're looking for - then start pursuing other men too. I hope you're not having sex with him... That wouldn't be the wisest choice for yourself.
FitChick Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 Since you haven't had "the exclusivity talk" you both should be dating others. Why don't you put up your profile on that same dating website, making sure you come up in a search (going by the criteria he has listed). Then see if he says anything.
ditzchic Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 I always wonder how people find stuff like this out.... What were you doing on the dating site? If you were there to seek him out I'm sure you had some kind of suspicion that he wasn't serious about you. I think that's what should be concerning you right now. But I don't really think you can be too upset about it just yet. You haven't had the talk. You can't assume exclusivity. If you think it's going that way bring it up with him. If whatever nagging feeling lead you to the website to find him makes you think he isn't all in, then just move on. I've never had a doubt in mind when a guy wanted to be exclusive with me. They have always made it very clear. Guys that seem like they are dragging their feet in that department aren't worth my time.
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