MIK1000 Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 When I look back on the relationship with the girl that broke my heart, my first love, I can see the flaws in her and things that I disliked about her. It just seems that I ignored all these things because of how much I loved her, and in hindsight I found her so loveable because in many ways she was absolutely adorable to me. Alot of the things we said to each other were silly in a childish sort of way, so when we interacted like that we would laugh and be joyous but in reality we didn't have many interests in common, would argue a lot about un important things and she didn't have much emotional depth to her character and was selfish. Despite being able to see these flaws in the relationship, I still look back, four 5 months on and remember this absolutely adorable creature who would make my heart sing when she laughed or put on a sweet face. Even after she totally screwed me over, I still see this sweet girl feels harmless. Has anyone else been trying to get over a relationship like this? Is it something that is totally superficial about the person? I should also add that my ex left me for another guy while away abroad for several months and so I never got to see her sweet side fizzle out before my eyes.
Glove_slap Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 I didn't want to click onto this thread because whenever I think about her smile, her bad jokes, her poems that made no sense and her laugh I die a little more inside. I'm pretty much over her though, just the old memories of how she used to be still haunt me sometimes. Her friends corrupted her and she ended up leaving me for another guy after 3 years. A bit older than me, sells drugs, has piles of money. Who know's what she's doing right now, it's been over a year and a half of being broken up which also signals their one year and a half anniversary. You get over it though when you realize the ugly creatures they become. Many girls turn sour when they hit 13, and the ones that manage to hold on to their "loving spirit" throughout highschool turn out the worst when they reach 18. Women in their 20s are evil, evil creatures.
RockGuy87 Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 I know exactly what you mean. Me and my ex talked to each other like you described. With the most childish pet names but it was amazing. I miss it so much. We were that way up until the day it end. Which once again I can relate to because it was we had petty stupid disagrreements. It's been almost a week and I'm miserable. She was the cutest thing to me. And now it's someone else's. Easily the most beautiful and cutest girl I have been with.
Author MIK1000 Posted January 16, 2012 Author Posted January 16, 2012 I didn't want to click onto this thread because whenever I think about her smile, her bad jokes, her poems that made no sense and her laugh I die a little more inside. I'm pretty much over her though, just the old memories of how she used to be still haunt me sometimes. Her friends corrupted her and she ended up leaving me for another guy after 3 years. A bit older than me, sells drugs, has piles of money. Who know's what she's doing right now, it's been over a year and a half of being broken up which also signals their one year and a half anniversary. You get over it though when you realize the ugly creatures they become. Many girls turn sour when they hit 13, and the ones that manage to hold on to their "loving spirit" throughout highschool turn out the worst when they reach 18. Women in their 20s are evil, evil creatures. Sorry to hear that dude, but if she goes for guys like that then she'll probably get what's coming to her pretty soon and regret it very badly. Do you really believe that women in their 20's turn evil? I was sort of thinking that it was an immaturity thing that caused my ex to leave me in such cruel circumstances and that one day she'd grow up into a loyal partner. Or maybe it's a personality flaw that she'll never grow out of.
norajane Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 I think what you miss is how those girls made YOU feel, and how cutesy YOU could be while with her. The girl brought that out in you. You still have that inside you. You can bring it out yourself and enjoy life, or you can fixate on your ex and believe that she was just the most adorable little thing ever despite having seen that she is NOT. Your choice. It's perspective, nothing more.
Author MIK1000 Posted January 17, 2012 Author Posted January 17, 2012 I think what you miss is how those girls made YOU feel, and how cutesy YOU could be while with her. The girl brought that out in you. You still have that inside you. You can bring it out yourself and enjoy life, or you can fixate on your ex and believe that she was just the most adorable little thing ever despite having seen that she is NOT. Your choice. It's perspective, nothing more. Great advice and perspective. Not only that, but I think I saw almost everything she did as cute because of how in love i was, but in reality a lot of the things were not cute at all and would be turn offs if I hadn't been so badly in love. I guess it will be a long time before she doesn't make my knees weak when I think about her. Funnily enough though, each time I see her in person (if i run into her) she doesn't seem cute or attractive, her face kind of annoys me actually and seems unpleasent. I guess I'm just fixated in on the memories.
Ginger Beer Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Yes, I have ignored negative traits because there was one thing that I loved about the person, how cute she is or how friendly she seems etc. I saw this video recently, it's interesting, it might help you understand it a bit more.
Glove_slap Posted January 19, 2012 Posted January 19, 2012 Sorry to hear that dude, but if she goes for guys like that then she'll probably get what's coming to her pretty soon and regret it very badly. Do you really believe that women in their 20's turn evil? I was sort of thinking that it was an immaturity thing that caused my ex to leave me in such cruel circumstances and that one day she'd grow up into a loyal partner. Or maybe it's a personality flaw that she'll never grow out of. It's not that they turn evil, it's just that most of them learn to utilize their looks to get what they want. Many turn down men after men, breaking hearts, seeking the best possible "partner" that could support their material needs. Women don't exactly become evil but they exploit many men. I've spoken to enough women to know this. Not speaking for all women but many if not most..
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