Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 ...or for men from past relationship experiences. When did you know you were in love when your girlfriend? What was the moment it happened? And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman?
Lonely Ronin Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 When did you know you were in love when your girlfriend? What was the moment it happened? When i was with mt ex, it was when I had to take a long (several weeks) business trip, and all I could think about was getting home to see her. And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman? playfulness/outgoing I'm slightly introverted, and I need someone to nudge me every now and then.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 It's not really qualities it's more of just a feeling from being with someone. It's just a chemistry and connection that you have with someone, that can't be created or materialized, it's something mutual and magnetic. But then again I think people do "love" much differently, I think people try to create that out of trust and some kind of companionship.
carhill Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 From the diaries of the past: When did you know you were in love when your girlfriend? What was the moment it happened? It was a cold January day, gray in sky with a white blanket of snow on the ground. I was sicker than a dog with Stalin's revenge, but took some lo-Motil and plugged things up. I knew the train wouldn't wait and it was time to go. She took me to the train station and we said our good-byes and hugged and kissed and she walked me to the car. One last kiss and I was on my own. I walked down the length of the car to my cabin and looked outside through the blurry glass of the car window and there she stood, right below the window, with her hand stretched out to the glass. We both cried and touched through that glass until the whistle blew and the touch would be no more. And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman? As it has been so rare in my life, a woman who senses and anticipates my simplest and most elemental of desires. The lady who touched me through the glass got it, and completely proactively. Sometimes it's only with the clarity of hindsight that one understands such things.
Pyro Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 ...or for men from past relationship experiences. When did you know you were in love when your girlfriend? What was the moment it happened? And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman? when I started thinking about her nonstop for reasons other than her looks. I require more than one quality to fall for a woman. I will say intelligence just to answer the question.
Oxy Moronovich Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 The first time I fell in love I thought I could be with her and her alone.
TheFinalWord Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 When we started putting each others needs above our own ...
Feelsgoodman Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman? Obedience.
lilyblue Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 When i was with mt ex, it was when I had to take a long (several weeks) business trip, and all I could think about was getting home to see her. Couldn't this also just be a sign of infatuation? I've had people say this to me who obviously weren't in love with me.
jobaba Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 My definition of love is continuously being revised as I get into new relationships. I have told a mate I was in love with her before. But it was more of an emotional feeling and it was not what I would consider love now. I found a post on another site that sums up my current definition very well... I raised my children to understand that love is BS. Ooooh, the dreamy Harlequin Romance, the strong knight-in-shining-armour, the dainty fainting lady, or the Romancing the Stone type of passion, or even the "You've Got Mail" chick flicks, or the love songs - all completely fantasized, adulterated crap to sell books and music and make people hope for impossibilities, dream of improbabilities, and become frustrated, unhappy, even angry, when the man-or-woman of their dreams rolls over in bed - and farts. Know what love is? Love is friendship, mutual respect, shared humor, and common sense with a decent dollop of lust thrown in, like cinnamon into chocolate. All beauty fades, but a shared interest in science fiction or Monty Python endures. Liking -and disliking- the same people, places, and things. Respecting the differences - so what if he likes to go out and piddle for hours in his shop, or she likes to come home and scrapbook? Leave each other alone and respect each others' spaces. No manipulation or games necessary - or tolerated. No drama. No deceit - you are what you are, s/he is what they are, if you can partner together and make it work and be fun at least most of the time, why not? I've been happily married (the 2nd time) for 30 years, and all of my kids are strong, self-knowing adults with a healthy attitude towards relationships and the opposite sex. Are DH and I "in love"? NO. But we love everything about each other, even the grey hair and the crazy jokes and the smartazz comments. Oh, and occasionally we still lie in bed and fart, snatch the covers off of each other - and giggle like five year olds. He's still my crazy, warped, funny, intelligent friend, and I'm still his. Beautiful. Couldn't have said it any better than that.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 ...or for men from past relationship experiences. When did you know you were in love when your girlfriend? What was the moment it happened? And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman? I realized it when I was talking to another girl... but couldn't focus, because I was thinking about my GF. I love her heart. She has a kindness that can only come from a truly good spirit.
joystickd Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 When I stopped asking to try the stuff I see in porn lol. Really its when you do thing like holding her and you feel satisfied with doing just that. When a man can't imagine his life without her.
tman666 Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 While I don't remember the exact circumstance that led me to the conclusion that I first loved my girlfriend of 4 years, I can recount certain times where I can undoubtedly say that it hit me like a ton of bricks: -The first time I saw her hold and play with an infant (which is weird, because the thought of being responsible for another human being other than myself sort of scares me) -Being with her and witnessing her careful thought processes when choosing even simple gifts for her family members for birthday's/holidays -The times she's taken care of me when I've been very sick or injured -Seeing her smile and laugh when we're doing things like skiing together/lifting weights together (she's my training partner as well )/fly fishing For me, it wasn't a specific instance or trait of her's that led to the feelings I have for her. Our relationship has been an evolution of discoveries and changes.
tman666 Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 While I don't remember the exact circumstance that led me to the conclusion that I first loved my girlfriend of 4 years, I can recount certain times where I can undoubtedly say that it hit me like a ton of bricks: -The first time I saw her hold and play with an infant (which is weird, because the thought of being responsible for another human being other than myself sort of scares me) -Being with her and witnessing her careful thought processes when choosing even simple gifts for her family members for birthday's/holidays -The times she's taken care of me when I've been very sick or injured -Seeing her smile and laugh when we're doing things like skiing together/lifting weights together (she's my training partner as well )/fly fishing For me, it wasn't a specific instance or trait of her's that led to the feelings I have for her. Our relationship has been an evolution of discoveries and changes. To add, she's the only girl who I've ever been with who I felt complimented and supported my lifestyle and life goals rather than held me back. We are a true team.
g450 Posted January 18, 2012 Posted January 18, 2012 ...or for men from past relationship experiences. When did you know you were in love when your girlfriend? What was the moment it happened? And what is the one quality (looks don't count) that you look for in a woman? When a woman shows that she cares just as much for me as she does herself, thats it for me. I fell for both my XW and my Fiancee for those same reasons. What do I look for initially? A pulse! But it's never just one thing. Im a bit shallow so she has to have a sense of humor and a nice set of legs. There I said it. Other than that she could be overweight, flat chested and butt ugly. Any other good traits would be just icing on the cake for me. Im old enough not to judge woman too harshly. You have to take your time and see the whole package. In the end, if I enjoy being around her and she makes me happy then she pretty much owns me as long as she isnt afraid to be monogomous and faithful. Sadly, not too many women out there like that now days though.
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