purplepanda Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I haven't talked to him in months... I don't know why I miss him. Maybe cause I recently was rejected, and things with someone else didn't work out, and he's been the one who knows me better than anyone.. and when I was *with* him I was actually making love, not just messing around. D: I just miss him so much I cry sometimes. :,(
RamiTia Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Having just been through a break up a couple months ago, I really feel your pain with this. I miss my ex too, but you have to think about the reasons why you broke up instead of what it was like when you two were together. If you think there is a chance you might be able to get back together with your ex, you should weigh that choice and try to regain contact with him. Otherwise, you need to realize that this is a side effect of being rejected by someone else and you need to do your best NOT to contact him and move on.
oldshirt Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 why'd ya dump him? Are those reasons still relevant now? If they are then you're probably still better off without him. If those reasons weren't really valid or if they are not relevant now, why not reconsider? Also keep in mind that just because someone isn't right for us for a LTR or marriage and the relationship doesn't last, that doesn't mean that they are a bad person or that there aren't still things that we like and admire about him. Case in point, I have recently come in contact with a woman from my youth (20-plus ago) that to this day is still probably the best lover and the most sexual chemistry I have ever had. I ended the relationship with her years ago because she just simply was not the kind of person I wanted to settle into a LTR/marriage with and raise children and a family with. My reasons back then were valid and it was the right decision and my wife IS the right person. But that doesn't mean I don't still think about her and still relish some of the sizzling times that we had together. It may not be 100% appropriate but I have talked with her about this and she feels the same way that I do and agrees that the chemistry we had was indeed special ( and she has been with A LOT of men since then and I have been with a lot of women). Fond memories cause no harm as long as they don't cause you to do something that will bring harm to anyone. You dated for a reason, and you broke up for a reason. If both of those reasons are valid then all is good, enjoy the memories but don't pursue anything further. If the reasons you were dating were not valid and the reasons you broke up were valid then stay far far away and don't even go there. If the reasons you were dating were valid and the reasons you broke up aren't, then you can reconsider.
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