Dating Rant: Why do certain women respond to your ad on a dating site and then

[thatone]

Everyone has their own style of meeting. Me, I like to sample the personality over the phone before I waste my time going out in public. And why is ok for a woman to give her number to a guy she doesn't know in a BAR but not from a ONLINE DATING SITE???

 

and by extension, if they have such silly notions about that, what sort of other silly notions do they have with the plethora of other unneeded information you have given them in your profile and by answering surveys and questions and preferences, etc.

 

look at the threads on here man, there are an infinite number of them with women complaining that they would 'never' meet a guy from a dating site who said 'xyz'. meanwhile the other half would 'never' meet a guy from a dating site who answered 'abc'.

 

couple that with the fact that men outnumber women on every one of those sites 2 to 1.

 

see my point?

 

solution is pretty simple, delete the profile, go to the bar.

[PhillyDude]

I've met a couple women like this online...don't blame them

 

Plus like I said, phone conversations can be awkward. Conversations flow much better online

 

 

I met a girl like that about 3 years ago. He only chatted through email and set up a time to meet at a cafe and guess what.........."I was stood up"

 

So i'm not going to do that again

[Andy_K]

I've chatted on the phone before meeting in probably only two out of about 25 internet first dates. Every other time it's just email & text. I don't really like talking on the phone, and it works fine for me.

[kaylan]

I hate talking on the phone with someone until after we've met. Its too awkward before that. Id rather just text and IM...and if we talk on the phone before hanging out, its just to settle on plans.

 

Any convos Ive had on the phone from OLD have been awkward as hell. Things were much better when we met.

[zengirl]

PD,

 

you're so judgmental that it's no wonder these girls clam up. I'm sure there are people who are crap on the phone or bad conversationalists or whatever. . . but I kind of think you're probably one of them.

 

If this keeps happening to you, take some responsibility for the dynamic, as YOU are the control factor -- these are all different women!

[PhillyDude]

I hate talking on the phone with someone until after we've met. Its too awkward before that. Id rather just text and IM...and if we talk on the phone before hanging out, its just to settle on plans.

 

Any convos Ive had on the phone from OLD have been awkward as hell. Things were much better when we met.

 

 

And things are arkward on the first date too

[PhillyDude]

PD,

 

you're so judgmental that it's no wonder these girls clam up. I'm sure there are people who are crap on the phone or bad conversationalists or whatever. . . but I kind of think you're probably one of them.

 

If this keeps happening to you, take some responsibility for the dynamic, as YOU are the control factor -- these are all different women!

 

 

emailing or IM is for..."setting up the phone conversation"

Phone is for seeing how well your personality click and to determine a 1st date

texting is for...the day of the date and let the person know how close you are

[PlumPrincess]

1. Once we talk one on one on instant messenger or the phone they show no interest and ask you no questions about you?

2. I'm asking all the damm questions which turns out to be a ONE-SIDED conversation.

3. This has happened with the last 3 girls i talked to and I had to hang up on all three of them.

4. And being shy on the phone is NOT NORMAL.

See, just four sentences and you already made me think you're not the kind of person I want to spend time talking with.

[USCGAviator]

I find it rather boring to interact through the dating site emails or IM. Its not that the person is boring its just not as personal. I prefer to talk on the phone at least once and then txt from there.

 

I personally find it easier to banter and get to know someone after I get their phone number.

[ditzchic]

emailing or IM is for..."setting up the phone conversation"

Phone is for seeing how well your personality click and to determine a 1st date

texting is for...the day of the date and let the person know how close you are

 

 

Seems like you have a pretty clear idea of how you want things to go for a date. Set in stone in fact. Instead of getting annoyed and angry at the girls that don't fit this progression why don't you just chalk it up to them not being the girl for you. Don't waste your time moaning about it. Just go find the girl that fits with exactly what you want.

[Casablanca]

I met a girl like that about 3 years ago. He only chatted through email and set up a time to meet at a cafe and guess what.........."I was stood up"

 

So i'm not going to do that again

I do try and exchange numbers then, I give them mine and ask for there's in case I get stuck in traffic. Only one has turned me down saying she doesn't give out her number until she's met someone.

 

And things are arkward on the first date too

I've never really had an awkward first date, other than when I met a girl from online and her body was no where near what she claimed it as. I seem to find conversations much more flowing when meeting for the first time than when talking on the phone...at least for me

[Cypress25]

And things are arkward on the first date too

 

Shouldn't be. I've had good first dates and bad first dates from OLD. The good first dates are the ones without any awkward moments. I always say, there are no awkward dates, only awkward people.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

texting is for...the day of the date and let the person know how close you are

 

... is that accomplished more easily when you're on top, vs. when you're underneath?

 

 

Maybe it is your strange obsession with trying to chat them up on the phone that IS the concern here.

 

Before the internet came around, did you find yourself one of those few who dialed up the 999 party line just to facilitate these silly phone-related notions of yours?

 

For the 999 party line used to be the most direct way you could chat them up on the phone before you met.

 

Everybody knows that guys ask most of the questions because that is what women are used to in social settings. Needless to say, they don't NEED you, so at the very least they make their questions count:

 

The only people who are offended by the education-related questions ARE the ones with "oatmeal in their heads".

[PhillyDude]

... is that accomplished more easily when you're on top, vs. when you're underneath?

 

 

Maybe it is your strange obsession with trying to chat them up on the phone that IS the concern here.

 

Before the internet came around, did you find yourself one of those few who dialed up the 999 party line just to facilitate these silly phone-related notions of yours?

 

For the 999 party line used to be the most direct way you could chat them up on the phone before you met.

 

Everybody knows that guys ask most of the questions because that is what women are used to in social settings. Needless to say, they don't NEED you, so at the very least they make their questions count:

 

The only people who are offended by the education-related questions ARE the ones with "oatmeal in their heads".

 

 

Asking what my highest level of education gives off a jugdmental vibe. And Yes I come from the world of "telephone dating" which no longer exists. it used to be very entertaining and it wasn't a such thing as all this texting SH*T.

[Casablanca]

emailing or IM is for..."setting up the phone conversation"

Phone is for seeing how well your personality click and to determine a 1st date

texting is for...the day of the date and let the person know how close you are

That is why I just do a first meeting instead for coffee...I have no problem holding up a phone conversation if I have met someone in person...it's always been awkward for people I've met online if I hadnt met them in real life.

 

I met a girl on NYE, I called her to talk and set up the date, no issues as we had talked in person already.

 

Two people I've met through OLD...met before talking on phone, called to arrange a more official date...not awkward because we had previously met and talked in person, have texted some...just some small talk though

 

I prefer to get to know someone in person, not on phone or through text. I like short little small talk through text...dont want to get to know someone through text.

 

I do hate when people do use texting though to replace conversations.

[PhillyDude]

That is why I just do a first meeting instead for coffee...I have no problem holding up a phone conversation if I have met someone in person...it's always been awkward for people I've met online if I hadnt met them in real life.

 

I met a girl on NYE, I called her to talk and set up the date, no issues as we had talked in person already.

 

Two people I've met through OLD...met before talking on phone, called to arrange a more official date...not awkward because we had previously met and talked in person, have texted some...just some small talk though

 

I prefer to get to know someone in person, not on phone or through text. I like short little small talk through text...dont want to get to know someone through text.

 

I do hate when people do use texting though to replace conversations.

 

 

 

well that's the one thing that seperates me from most men because I like to talk on the phone. The only time texting and emailing is not boring is when I'm NOT HOME.