RockGuy87 Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I guess I just need to vent some things out and some good words would help. Me and my ex broke up 5 days ago. Yesterday was our one year. Last I talked to her was the day before our one year where I went and got my things. We had a good talk and she even cried a little over all this. We ended things good and there were some smiles. So at this point I felt I was leaving her with a good last talk that she could remember instead of a bad one. No contact on our one year.... It hurt to not hear from her on that day. Later that night I got a missed call at like 11 at night. I didn't have my phone on me but what I think is it was an accident and she tried to hang up right away. But I always accidentally call people but can end the call before they get it. Anyways that's irrelevant. I see today on facebook, which I've now gotten rid of, that she told some guy that he should text her and then he asked for her number and she gave it. On our one year! After everything and only being split up for 5 days. Especially since we had amazing times right up till the day of break up. Her telling things and joking like that she loved me so much more than I loved her and that we were together forever and all that stuff. Sent me pictures of us with pet names as captions. Even sent one to me of me and it said mineminemine. I never responded to her call. I've been here long enough to kno of they wanna talk they will call again or text. They will find a way. But it's just weird cause even in our relationship that had never happened before. It's win win for me either way for why or how it happened. It make her think why didn't I answer after she has been the one ignoring. I'm just hurt about the guy thing. Already. On what was our one year. I've texted a girl since the break up and I even went out with her last night. She's a long time friend that we used to hook up before my relationship with this girl. But I feel it's worse for her because she did the break up. She's the one being cold to me and ignoring so I felt it was justified for me to do what I was doing. But I'm sure people on here will say she is single and can do what she wants. I get it. But man does it sting that she said the sweet things and held and kissed not even 5 days until this happens? I need some help people. Some insight. Guidance. Any translations to this?
Exit Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Might be a dumb question but you didn't really specify, the missed call was definitely from her? Anyways, there is nothing really worth translating here. Take what is happening at face value and don't look for deeper meaning. You guys didn't have any contact on your anniversary, which isn't really an anniversary anymore because you aren't together. And she's talking to another guy. Doesn't sound like you really have any indication of what their relationship is, they could be friends, they could have some other minor acquaintance to each other, or she could very well be looking to date someone else already. Hard to tell what the missed phone call may have meant, especially without a voicemail or text with her saying "hey I just thought we should talk today" or something like that. As you said, it could very well have just been an accident, and if you go fishing for information to ask her what she called about, it may make you look like you're a bit too interested. If you're like most of us on here, I'm sure your mind is wondering if the phone call meant something and you wonder if you should reach out instead of making her feel like you ignored a phone call on what would have been your anniversary, but that's a tough call to make. If you suspect that she may be talking to this other guy for romantic reasons then you really have no reason to stick around, don't be an option for someone who ended a relationship with you and is talking to someone else 5 days later. Remember that everyone's perception of time is different, maybe she wanted out of the relationship for a long time and had already started getting comfortable with the idea of leaving you, so 5 days to her is already time to move on and start talking to someone else. Meanwhile this may have all been a surprise to you and 5 days seems like a short amount of time, although you are already hanging out with someone else too. All you can do is focus on yourself and give this more time. If she calls again then at least you'll know the one phone call wasn't an accident. Realize that the relationship ended for a reason and absolutely nothing has changed 5 days later, people who get back together in a matter of days usually do it for the wrong reasons, simply being lonely or being unsure about their decision, but not because 5 days time made them realize they lost the love of their life. Stick to your decision to stay off of Facebook because no good will come of looking at it. I'd say just mind your own business and keep hanging out with the other girl if it provides a decent distraction and let it be her business to try contacting you if she feels like it.
Author RockGuy87 Posted January 15, 2012 Author Posted January 15, 2012 It was her. I know not to say anything. Been on these boards long enough to know that. I knew she would have reached again if she meant to. Idk what the deal is with this new guy. Never heard of him or anything. But the way she said hey you should text me. Makes me wonder. Just the odds of the accident just almost make me laugh though. Especially on that day. But she asked for that dude to text her Before the call was made. Who knows what the problem is but I'm amazed at how soon it has been. I kno people say its not long for them because they already checked out. But with her up untill that last day she was reaching out to me and saying the things she did. I could see me fishing for them or her just replying to me to fake it. But it was all her. To tell me I'm hers and stuff like "I love you so much more than you love me". We always joked that with one another. I'm just in shock that a week ago we were together everyday and she was all up on me and all about us. Just could understand if there was distance there.
Author RockGuy87 Posted January 15, 2012 Author Posted January 15, 2012 Well the girl I went out with last night her younger brother knows the dude she is talking to and he is a sophomore in high school. So like 15-16 years old. She's 18 I'm 21. That much younger than me? Wtf is she thinking.
Author RockGuy87 Posted January 15, 2012 Author Posted January 15, 2012 Jeeze it's just tough. I'm just in shock that it's already so soon.
Chi townD Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 You said that you saw on her Facebook that she told him to text her BEFORE she called you. In you're orginal post, you said that you canceled your Facebook, or blocked her or whatever.... There could be a chance that she saw you canceled your account and started to think. She put 2 and 2 together and probably figured out that you saw that interaction. She may have tried to call you to "smooth things over" or just lie to you about it. But she may have come to the conclusion that you really can't lie about something like that...then chickened out with leaving a message. Of course, this is all speculation...but certainly plausable.
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