loveshots Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 okay i really can't handle the pain anymore. this guy is my greatest love. our relationship is exceptional. i really want to make things work between us, because i really do love him, so much. and i know that he really loves me too we are used of being together everyday. but we have to face the fact that he have to be away for awhile, for about a month and a half because of his On Job Training. i know myself, and i know that i am an understanding and patient girlfriend all along, but still i am aware that i have short comings. our usual routine is that we should always make each other aware of everything. and then 1 day he didn't texted me if he arrived at the hotel safely, and so i got really worried. i texted him, but he didn't reply, i texted his room mate and then he replied that they are okay and safe. he called for 2 times, but i didn't answer the phone because i was totally angry at that time, that i need time to cool down and answering the phone will only make things worst. after several hours i texted him, i told him everything about what i have felt. but he didn't reply. he didn't texted me for 2 days and a half, but i still keep in texting him while waiting for his message. and then he texted me, the message goes this way "i don't want you anymore. i don't want a stupid girlfriend. i am not just fooling around here, you know busy working. i need a rest, i am tired from work and i am tired of this non-sense relationship because of you". i cried, a lot. i beg him not to leave me but he didn't reply. i told him that i will wait, that i won't give him up. but he never replied. i waited for another 2 days, i tried to called him, 8 times. but he just cancelled my calls. he texted me this "i need rest. please think if you are being useful" i replied this message. "okay i understand. i am letting you go. because obviously you don't want me anymore. but letting you go doesn't mean that i am giving you up, may be you just need time and space for yourself. i will wait for you until i got tired, until i realized that i don't love you anymore. if you miss me, always remember i am just here waiting. :')" he didn't reply.. what does that mean?? have i done the right thing?? or i over done it?? pleeeaaaassse i really need help with this..
angelaM Posted January 16, 2012 Posted January 16, 2012 I know it's hard but you need to relax, take a deep breath, and stop pushing him so hard. He's training for a job, right? I'm sure he is tired and stressed and busy. Trying to reassure a panicky girlfriend is only going to put more pressure on him. He may very well come back around when he is ready, but the best thing you can do now is give him space. Chasing him will only push him further away, and I know that isn't what you want. Stay strong, Let him know you're OK, no matter what. Resist the urge to text him repeatedly to ask him what's going on. Just live your life and hold him in your heart while he is away. 1
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