vanek26 Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 While it's been established that online dating is not the best way to meet women, it is certainly the easiest and most stress-free. I consider it a valuable supplement to my normal endeavors. The initial challenge of getting girls to respond to me isn't much of a problem anymore. I simply make a brief comment pertaining to something specific in their profile ("what's your dog's name?" works great) and I get responses quite often. And once I meet up with one of these girls, I seem to be pretty smooth with my approach. The problem is getting these girls off the computer and in front of my face! I know that girls are just flakey in general, but at the same time I want to make sure I'm putting myself in the best position to actually meet these girls. You'd have no idea how many girls are willing to text me all day, blow up my facebook wall, send me naked pictures of themselves, and even consider us to be "dating" but absolutely refuse to meet me in person. It's so silly. So, a few questions: 1. How long do you usually talk to someone before suggesting an encounter? Asking someone to hang out the day you first contact them is a no-no, but how much longer should I wait? I don't want to chat with a girl for weeks before popping the question... because that's just a waste of time and energy. 2. Do you plan the date in advance or ask them to do it that night? I can go back in forth with this one. If I ask a girl to hang out that day, she'll usually say no. But if she says yes, she won't ditch me. If I ask a girl "how about next thursday" or something, she almost always says yes, and almost always flakes. 3. What do you suggest doing? Most girls are keen to the whole "watch a movie" thing, so I never suggest that at first. Getting coffee seems pretty safe, but I wonder if it's a turn off to girls because it seems so generic. As a 22 year old guy, girls around my age don't get excited about coffee. Any other thoughts are appreciated!
Lobouspo Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 As somewhat of an OLD veteran I can give you my two cents.....I always suggest meeting after exchanging no more than a few emails. Don' t waste your time with someone who stalls unless you're cool with just another pen pal. I always try to schedule something within a few days of suggesting we actually meet, because women online worth actually meeting are being inundated with messages, its best to schedule something fairly quickly before something better comes along for them. If coffee isnt her thing suggest lunch or smoothies. Dont do anything too big like the movies, concerts, or sporting events, until you sense that chemistry after meeting in person. Having said all that, have a thick skin. OLD is terribly skewed towards women, and you will probably continue to have to deal with flakes. Dont take it personal. Just look at OLD as simply another tool to meet people, and make every effort to meet women IRL. Good luck to you
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