eerie_reverie Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Just wondering: Is it a requirement for you that your partner be passionate about something (interest, career, belief, etc.)? Or do you not care, as long as he/ she can provide for themselves and care about YOU?
jobaba Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Just wondering: Is it a requirement for you that your partner be passionate about something (interest, career, belief, etc.)? Or do you not care, as long as he/ she can provide for themselves and care about YOU? I need somebody to be motivated. At least to a certain level. That is a dealbreaker for me. On the subject of passion... I am a musician, and I have seen many a passionate talented musician who is 35 years old and sharing a 3 bedroom apartment with two other people. So, in that sense, passion is just not attractive to most people unless they share that same passion. Ambition for career and $ is different. That is very desirable.
Buttercup84 Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I like passionate people. I love my job and want to become a teacher , but its not my life. I'm passionate about music , movies , books , human rights etc . So I'd like a guy who likes his job , not just for the money .
ThaWholigan Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I would prefer to have a partner who has some kind of ambition or passion in life, even if it's in something I would consider trivial. It gives me an insight into the person they are, to see them passionate about something, or sharing their ambition with me. Someone who doesn't want to do much except watch telly and go raving might be OK though, as I don't mind chilling with a film in my house. However, I want to do some huge things in my life, and I would like to have an SO who can compliment that well.
ditzchic Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 It's not an absolute requirement but it is a HUGE turn on. If someone is happy, genuinely happy, with where they are and what they are doing then that's fine. I'm always afraid though that that type will bore me. There are only so many stories they can tell, only so much they can bring to the table, ya know? But I find that driven and passionate guys are always evolving. They are always learning something new and they have more to share and they always seem more excited about life. That's the stuff that gets me. I love someone that can keep it interesting
carhill Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Require? Hmm... I find curiosity about the world and interest in one or more facets of living, outside of one's career, to be an attractive quality. If a lady has, as an example, the ambition to grow the finest tomatoes the world has ever seen, we can spend hours working on and implementing the mechanics of that. Her ambition is attractive and the process will add to my already diverse skillset. She doesn't have to or may never become rich from growing tomatoes. It moves her. That's attractive. Answering this thread caused me to remember another little snippet from my M. ExW was always 'encouraging' me to stop giving away my skills and charge for them. The conundrum was that she was annoyed when I wanted to charge her family and friends and co-workers. My 'ambition' was healthy if directed in a certain way. Over and dun
Thieves Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I like passionate people. I love my job and want to become a teacher , but its not my life. I'm passionate about music , movies , books , human rights etc . So I'd like a guy who likes his job , not just for the money . I agree. I would love to find somebody just as passionate as I feel I am, though it doesn't have to be about the exact same things. Being passionate about some things in common would be great, though. I need to feel like that person has something they want to achieve in their life, and that they're continually working towards it. A guy who likes what he does for the sake of it is golden, so also not being too superficial when it comes to money would be nice.
Star Gazer Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Someone who lacks passion about something is unlikely to understand the passion I have for the things I love... and more importantly, is unlikely to be able to feel passionate about ME. Deal breaker.
Author eerie_reverie Posted January 15, 2012 Author Posted January 15, 2012 and more importantly, is unlikely to be able to feel passionate about ME. Deal breaker. I don't think you can draw that conclusion. There are plenty of people who never figure out what they want to do with their lives, but love their families.
Overthirtymale Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Just wondering: Is it a requirement for you that your partner be passionate about something (interest, career, belief, etc.)? Or do you not care, as long as he/ she can provide for themselves and care about YOU? Love is all I need. I can care less what my partner does.
Orianne Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I think passions are what make people interesting.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I think passion and ambition are very different things. I am extremely attracted to passion in a person. It does not necessarily need to be passion for me, either.
Star Gazer Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I don't think you can draw that conclusion. There are plenty of people who never figure out what they want to do with their lives, but love their families. You didn't limit passion to career or knowing what to do with one's life. You asked about passion related to "something" ("interest, career, belief, etc."). Interests, beliefs, "the etc." has nothing what to do with knowing what to do with your life. Without passion about something, life is...boring.
Star Gazer Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I think passions are what make people interesting. Exactly...
make me believe Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Eh... I think the word "passion" is totally overused. Hobbies and interests are important, but when does something become a "passion" versus a mere hobby? I have plenty of interests, but if someone were to ask me what I'm passionate about, I'd probably draw a blank... or say that I'm passionate about my husband. lol. I think too many people describe their random, and sometimes fleeting, hobbies as "passions" in order to sound more interesting. I'm attracted to people who have varying interests outside of the daily grind. They don't have to be "passionate" about it, just willing to try new things and create new experiences.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 As long as he is not very lazy, has some kind of a job, lives on his own - I don't need anything more. I want to be the thing he is most passionate about in his life
tigressA Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I draw a blank when thinking about what I have a 'passion' for. I also draw a blank when it comes to any goals/ambitions I would have in life. I'm not much for planning for the future; I live in the now and am not very ambitious. I don't really strive for 'better' when it comes to my job or overall lifestyle. My BF once asserted it's like I don't give a fck about anything. There are plenty of things I give a fck about, I just am more understated about it. I don't require someone to have passion or ambition. I acknowledge I am attracted to men who are ambitious, though I don't seek them out. It just happens. I'm attracted to men who are very different from me, which is why there is a fair share of conflict in my relationships.
Star Gazer Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 There are plenty of things I give a fck about, I just am more understated about it. Like what? And how is it understated?
tigressA Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Like what? And how is it understated? I give a fck about gay rights. Women's rights. I donate monthly to the ACLU. But I don't go to meetings or go out and canvass or protest or otherwise put myself 'out there'.
runner Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 i'd be careful about using passion and ambition in the same sentence. where i generally view passion possitively, i don't always view ambition as a good thing- eg, people who murder and steal tend to be highly ambitious, if you know what i mean. but back to the more important point generally speaking, the most fascinating people i've ever encountered personally have always been excitingly passionate about something, whether it was surfing, climbing, or caring for disabled children. it wasn't ever just something they did simply to pass the time; they proceeded, and not necessarily with a goal in mind, but with the distinct intent to experience the experience at its greatest level possible. and IME, these types of personalities have been the most amazing lovers so yes, as far as dating goes, i do look out for that extra spring in their step.
Carlos S Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I have passion and ambition. Too much in fact. And that is getting in the way of dating (and getting laid ). It consumes so much of my time (given that I have a day-job) that I don't know how I can hold down a relationship. Even if I meet a nice girl, I have nothing to talk about because this takes up nearly all my spare time. And it's going to be hard so long as my original ideas don't yet have escape velocity. And yet, I'm willing to make those sacrifices for the timebeing- that's how I know that there's passion. And no, this passion is not one bit sexy. It's nerdy, esoteric and down-right weird. I would think that the girl I end up with would be fairly passionate and driven in their career. But that's still a long way away.
somedude81 Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I don't care at all about whether a woman has passion or not. As long as she likes doing what I like doing, has some goal in life and doesn't mind doing new things, that enough for me.
TheFinalWord Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Just wondering: Is it a requirement for you that your partner be passionate about something (interest, career, belief, etc.)? Or do you not care, as long as he/ she can provide for themselves and care about YOU? This is a good question! For me it is very important. I am very goal driven....it's the sales/business mentality from my mom's side of the family I find a goal-driven mentality and strong work ethic in a woman to be very attractive. I knew a girl a few years ago that was not all that physically attractive but her hard work ethic and passion for her job made me insanely attracted to her. Too bad she was engaged On the other hand I have dated a woman that was extremely beautiful but could care less about my goals and had weak ones of her own from my perspective (by weak I just mean she had lots of potential but didn't care to put it to much use); it didn't last I also find conversations with someone I am dating in which we talk about our goals to be exciting. Especially if we can get excited about each others goals and provide new ideas for accomplishing them to one another.
Els Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 Eh... I think the word "passion" is totally overused. Hobbies and interests are important, but when does something become a "passion" versus a mere hobby? I have plenty of interests, but if someone were to ask me what I'm passionate about, I'd probably draw a blank... or say that I'm passionate about my husband. lol. I think too many people describe their random, and sometimes fleeting, hobbies as "passions" in order to sound more interesting. I'm attracted to people who have varying interests outside of the daily grind. They don't have to be "passionate" about it, just willing to try new things and create new experiences. This pretty much sums up my opinion, so I'll vote for the latter. I think a balance is good - caring about me while having some hobbies or interest in his job. I don't want someone who isn't interested in anything, or someone who's 'passionate' to the point of addiction.
TaurusTerp Posted January 15, 2012 Posted January 15, 2012 I have no respect for a woman that doesn't have the drive to excel, and would not date one long-term.
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