ditzchic Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 ... Because he has to "train" for these beer olympics thing he is doing in two weeks. He got to get his tolerance up, ya know? I acted all cool and nonchalant about it. But I am raging right now. We were supposed to run a 5k together next sat and I was really looking forward to that. Now I thinking I should probably bail on that? Grrr. I hate boys!
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 That's the weirdest excuse I've ever heard. Sorry, I don't mean to belittle your pain, but I am laughing my ass off as I'm typing. Sorry, but that's brutal...
Author ditzchic Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 That's the weirdest excuse I've ever heard. Sorry, I don't mean to belittle your pain, but I am laughing my ass off as I'm typing. Sorry, but that's brutal... I know. Thats why I'm so irritated. Him saying "Hey, I'd rather just not do anything tonight." and leaving it at that would be less rage inducing. If you're going to bail, just bail. You don't have to patronize me while doing it'
Imajerk17 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 (edited) What the hell is the Beer Olympics?? I cancelled a date only once ever, and that was because my dad was in the ICU and I needed to drive home to see him. And even then I rescheduled. Dump his azz! Edited January 14, 2012 by Imajerk17
ThaWholigan Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 I know. Thats why I'm so irritated. Him saying "Hey, I'd rather just not do anything tonight." and leaving it at that would be less rage inducing. If you're going to bail, just bail. You don't have to patronize me while doing it' Besides, if it was me and I was training for the "beer olympics", I'd at least have invited you .
Author ditzchic Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 Beer Olympics are something he and his college fraternity alumni do every year. It's 6 teams of 4 guys. They get real drunk and play sports basically. Touch football, basketball, kickball. And drinking games. Beer pong, flip cup that sort of thing. They are really serious about it. They have a traveling trophy and everything. But the dude is 29. A little too old to be so into it, imo. And he's giving up tang for it? Lame!!
Imajerk17 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Beer Olympics are something he and his college fraternity alumni do every year. It's 6 teams of 4 guys. They get real drunk and play sports basically. Touch football, basketball, kickball. And drinking games. Beer pong, flip cup that sort of thing. They are really serious about it. They have a traveling trophy and everything. But the dude is 29. A little too old to be so into it, imo. And he's giving up tang for it? Lame!! Have you considered dating older guys?
Art_Critic Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 And he's giving up tang for it? Lame!! Not lame... but a good flying red flag that he isn't into you.. It seems that getting drunk with a bunch of frat guys is more important than you can only mean what I said up a few lines... It also appears like it is time to decide if you want this type of anxiety in this relationship to continue.. because he isn't gonna change.
Buttercup84 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 I think it is a blessing in disguise . Please do not see him again !
TheFinalWord Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 ... Because he has to "train" for these beer olympics thing he is doing in two weeks. He got to get his tolerance up, ya know? I acted all cool and nonchalant about it. But I am raging right now. We were supposed to run a 5k together next sat and I was really looking forward to that. Now I thinking I should probably bail on that? Grrr. I hate boys! Not to make light, but at least you know this is not a clingy guy sorry couldn't resist! Seriously, that is a pretty silly activity for a grown man to be involved in anyway. But then again i never really understood the obsession with drinking. It's really not a big deal, but it is made into one by frat type guys. I was at a party and this guy went on and on about how much he drank and how wasted he got. I'm like "did you just turn 21? aren't you like 30? Who cares about your drinking?".
Imajerk17 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Not lame... but a good flying red flag that he isn't into you.. It seems that getting drunk with a bunch of frat guys is more important than you can only mean what I said up a few lines... It also appears like it is time to decide if you want this type of anxiety in this relationship to continue.. because he isn't gonna change. Well there's the issue of keeping your word. The guy had plans w ditz. FWIW I think us doing these type of stuff w our friends is fine. But thats not the issue.
Author ditzchic Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 Have you considered dating older guys? Well I'm 29 as well. And I'm honestly just not really all that into guys much older than me. I'm not all that mature either. Lol. I still like to go out dancing with my girls and what not so I'm not really compatible with 35 year olds who want dinner at home and movies on the couch. I usually stick to guys about my age. Although I'm open to anyone as long as we seem like we'd get along well. Not lame... but a good flying red flag that he isn't into you.. It seems that getting drunk with a bunch of frat guys is more important than you can only mean what I said up a few lines... It also appears like it is time to decide if you want this type of anxiety in this relationship to continue.. because he isn't gonna change. Definitely not. I'm not planning on seeing him again. At least in a dating context. I may still do the 5k next weekend because I really want to do it for me. But it's not a date and there will be no canoodiling afterwards.
carhill Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 For clarity, which 'date' was this supposed to be? Have you been dating him awhile or is this #1 or #2? His response kinda put teeth into my historical assertion of 'what can a woman offer me that a night out with my buddies doesn't?', though his style and timing kinda suck. Evidently, date night wasn't compelling enough. Oh, well, onward..... and good luck with the 5K
TheFinalWord Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 For clarity, which 'date' was this supposed to be? Have you been dating him awhile or is this #1 or #2? His response kinda put teeth into my historical assertion of 'what can a woman offer me that a night out with my buddies doesn't?', though his style and timing kinda suck. Evidently, date night wasn't compelling enough. Oh, well, onward..... and good luck with the 5K I'm not sure. I was trying to plan a date with a girl that seemed really into me. She knew that with my work schedule that to pull it off we had to do it over the holiday break. Although she was off work, she elected to instead go on a road trip with her girlfriends. This is something she basically does every week. So, nothing that unique. However, it does kind of damage one's ego. But from the other person's perspective they are probably not wanting to put friends secondary until the person they are interested in becomes a serious item. I'm with ditzchic if someone does that to me early on, I forget them. Especially if a date is set and the activity the person cancels plans for is not really that extraordinary. i.e. you'd rather play frat games than go out with me, or you'd rather go out with girlfriends you see every weekend than hang out with me. Maybe it's not fair but it kind of signals to me that I'm not that special to the person. Someone else will appreciate and look forward to spending time with me as much as I do with them. "I'll make plans to hang out with you unless something better comes along"...yeah, NEXT!
Author ditzchic Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 For clarity, which 'date' was this supposed to be? Have you been dating him awhile or is this #1 or #2? His response kinda put teeth into my historical assertion of 'what can a woman offer me that a night out with my buddies doesn't?', though his style and timing kinda suck. Evidently, date night wasn't compelling enough. Oh, well, onward..... and good luck with the 5K This was our 5th date. In about a month's time. We talk daily. Up until this point I saw no signs that he wasn't all that interested. Even when he bailed he offered to meet up for lunch tomorrow which made me think that maybe he was being legit. I can't because I'm doing brunch with a sorority sister. But the more I thought about it.. even with him offering an alternative, it's still a ridiculous notion. It's not flying for me. And it's way too early in the dating stages for this type of drama.
carhill Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Interesting that a 5K run occurs precisely between 'training' for the beer olympics and the olympics themselves. Maybe the 5K is part of training for the olympics Save for unexpected developments, most men (and people in general) know their social commitments more than a few hours in advance. That he apparently doesn't is as much a canary as how he prioritized that information against his commitment to your date. I'd just leave things as they are, do the 5K as 'friends', without prejudice, and see what happens. Time reveals all truths. Since this apparently is still within the realm of a non-exclusive dynamic, entertain other potentials.
Wolf18 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 ... Because he has to "train" for these beer olympics thing he is doing in two weeks. He got to get his tolerance up, ya know? I acted all cool and nonchalant about it. But I am raging right now. We were supposed to run a 5k together next sat and I was really looking forward to that. Now I thinking I should probably bail on that? Grrr. I hate boys! Maybe you should stop having romantic feelings towards the mentally retarded. But I guess the sky is the limit as long as you look a certain way.
jobaba Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Beer Olympics are something he and his college fraternity alumni do every year. It's 6 teams of 4 guys. They get real drunk and play sports basically. Touch football, basketball, kickball. And drinking games. Beer pong, flip cup that sort of thing. They are really serious about it. They have a traveling trophy and everything. But the dude is 29. A little too old to be so into it, imo. And he's giving up tang for it? Lame!! This was our 5th date. In about a month's time. We talk daily. Up until this point I saw no signs that he wasn't all that interested. Even when he bailed he offered to meet up for lunch tomorrow which made me think that maybe he was being legit. I can't because I'm doing brunch with a sorority sister. But the more I thought about it.. even with him offering an alternative, it's still a ridiculous notion. It's not flying for me. And it's way too early in the dating stages for this type of drama. I don't think he's not into you. I think guys like that just do stuff like that. He'll probably drinking beer with the boys for every football Sunday for the rest of your lives if you're together. That's probably what he's doing right now. You being a sorority girl, you should be accustomed to guys like that. I'm not hating, I'm saying it like it is. LOTS of guys are like that. So if that's the type of guy you go for, get used to it...
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 By the time you're 29, you're either mature or you're not. Dating older guys isn't going to make a big eclispe in maturity. And if it does, that's plain sad for 29 year old men. Sorry DC, Maybe you can meet a fellow 5k runner instead of Captain Beer America.
Wolf18 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 How the hell is someone whose 30 still hanging out with Frat people? By the time you're 29, you're either mature or you're not. Dating older guys isn't going to make a big eclispe in maturity. And if it does, that's plain sad for 29 year old men. Sorry DC, Maybe you can meet a fellow 5k runner instead of Captain Beer America. [/Quote] I have a feeling DC has a thing for sports fans, bicep warriors, and thinks 30 year old men who wear backwards baseball hats are HOT Maybe she can friend zone some men who actually have things in common with her then **** Broseph Broman, only after he takes his Ritalin of course.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 How the hell is someone whose 30 still hanging out with Frat people? I have a feeling DC has a thing for sports fans, bicep warriors, and thinks 30 year old men who wear backwards baseball hats are HOT Maybe she can friend zone some men who actually have things in common with her then **** Broseph Broman, only after he takes his Ritalin of course. Hey! You clearly feel the same way I do Buster! Lately I've been more friend zoned then I have friend zoned any guy Wolf. I'm just giving up for now. With all my friends and cousins settling down lately, maybe I'm just gonna be crazy (more hopefully "cool") Aunt DY with her cats that my friends come to visit with their families. And I've been attracted to and fallen for a wide variety of men Wolf. I was never one for a guy with a hard body for the sake of a hard body. I'm also not one for muscle/meat heads or guys that think Monday Night Football is the gift of life. I do enjoy football myself but I've been to enough football games of over testosteroned men to not find it exciting anymore. I do sometimes have a thing for men in backwards baseball caps..for some reason I think it's cute. But then again...I still like legwarmers and think they are cute too. If it makes you feel better, I have no clue who Broseph Broman is.
Author ditzchic Posted January 14, 2012 Author Posted January 14, 2012 How the hell is someone whose 30 still hanging out with Frat people? I have a feeling DC has a thing for sports fans, bicep warriors, and thinks 30 year old men who wear backwards baseball hats are HOT Maybe she can friend zone some men who actually have things in common with her then **** Broseph Broman, only after he takes his Ritalin of course. Actually, I'm more into the prettied up type party boy. The kind in the stripped button downs and $200 jeans. Lol. They would never wear a baseball hat because that would ruin that little front faux hawk thing they do with the gel, ya know? You're fun, Wolf.
jobaba Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 How the hell is someone whose 30 still hanging out with Frat people? I have a feeling DC has a thing for sports fans, bicep warriors, and thinks 30 year old men who wear backwards baseball hats are HOT Maybe she can friend zone some men who actually have things in common with her then **** Broseph Broman, only after he takes his Ritalin of course. Actually, I'm more into the prettied up type party boy. The kind in the stripped button downs and $200 jeans. Lol. They would never wear a baseball hat because that would ruin that little front faux hawk thing they do with the gel, ya know? You're fun, Wolf. In case nobody was astute enough to notice, Wolf has that raw, don't give a sh@t, no holds barred humor that (certain) women love because it's manly. You can insult them and if its funny with attitude, they will think its humorous. Classic PUA exhange just occurred...
Wolf18 Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 (edited) Hey! You clearly feel the same way I do Buster! Lately I've been more friend zoned then I have friend zoned any guy Wolf. I'm just giving up for now. With all my friends and cousins settling down lately, maybe I'm just gonna be crazy (more hopefully "cool") Aunt DY with her cats that my friends come to visit with their families. And I've been attracted to and fallen for a wide variety of men Wolf. I was never one for a guy with a hard body for the sake of a hard body. I'm also not one for muscle/meat heads or guys that think Monday Night Football is the gift of life. I do enjoy football myself but I've been to enough football games of over testosteroned men to not find it exciting anymore. [/Quote] People call me a "misogynist" because I have a lot of criticism of women, but people always seem to overlook my criticisms of the mass man. How the breads and circuses came to define manhood in the modern world will always be an object of my curiosity. The Romans used the term in a tone of lamentation to the decline of true heroism in their culture. There is nothing "over testosteroned" about sitting in your lazyboy in front of the boobtube drinking awful american beer. I do sometimes have a thing for men in backwards baseball caps..for some reason I think it's cute. But then again...I still like legwarmers and think they are cute too. [/Quote] Yeah nothing looks cooler than a guy with a gray beard and backwards baseball hat http://static.igossip.com/photos/dailyfill_Fred_Durst_43071_fred_durst_093009_300.jpg Maybe you're attracted to the poetry of the Fred Dursts of the world? "STAND UP ON YO TIPPPPY TOES!!!!" Guess Peter Pan forgot to stock up on Just For Men. If it makes you feel better, I have no clue who Broseph Broman is. [/Quote] He's the "man" women want and men want to be Actually, I'm more into the prettied up type party boy. The kind in the stripped button downs and $200 jeans. Lol. They would never wear a baseball hat because that would ruin that little front faux hawk thing they do with the gel, ya know? [/Quote] I know the type . Does your prince charming also scream out random borat/charlie sheen lines too? When I'm out drinking I always love them especially when there's a 1 person bathroom at the pub, and this type of girl "man" goes in before me. Usually takes an hour making sure every one of their hairs is perfect while I suffer outside after 6-7 pints of guiness stout. In case nobody was astute enough to notice, Wolf has that raw, don't give a sh@t, no holds barred humor that (certain) women love because it's manly. You can insult them and if its funny with attitude, they will think its humorous. Classic PUA exhange just occurred... [/Quote] Are you kidding me? Nothing makes me cringe more than the PUA's I see on campus or at the bar, making dumb comments about a girls shoes then giving her a high five. I stopped giving high fives about the same time I stopped smoking pot (approximately age 17) and I don't care about your shoes (as long as they're not crocs) . **** PUA's . Edited January 14, 2012 by Wolf18
jobaba Posted January 14, 2012 Posted January 14, 2012 Are you kidding me? Nothing makes me cringe more than the PUA's I see on campus or at the bar, making dumb comments about a girls shoes then giving her a high five. I stopped giving high fives about the same time I stopped smoking pot (approximately age 17) and I don't care about your shoes (as long as they're not crocs) . **** PUA's . Like it or not, you have the attitude ... if not the execution in real life. Your exchange with ditzchic was classic PUA. You basically insulted her taste in men AND the man she's seeing ... yet she thought it was hilarious. Go look it up man. Oh, and BTW, it was a compliment to you.
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